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Husband is the one with no sex drive

Diana - posted on 01/08/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Our son is now 7 weeks old. We got the ok at my 6 weeks check-up. I know this is not something to rush into, and I don't know if my body is ready yet, but he refuses to even try and says he doesn't know when he will be ready. His biggest reason is he saw the birth of our son and doesn't think he will be able to think that sex will ever be the same. It's almost a slap in the face, but I kind of understand at the same time. Is there any hope, advise????

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Diana - posted on 01/08/2009

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Yes it does help, thank you. I can't imagine feeling that for that long wow. How in the world did that couple make it that far? I keep thinking maybe it's just me he is not attracted to anymore. I have lost all of my baby weight and haven't had the baby blues. I would hope he would be thankful for that. I guess the only thing I can do is give it time. We are only 7 weeks out. How are you personally feeling about hitting your 6 week mark and given the ok? Good luck with your hubby!!!

Samantha - posted on 01/08/2009

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You know, I saw an Oprah episode about couples with sex problems and this particular couple had the same problem.  The husband claimed sex has been affected since he saw the birth of their daughter like 12 years ago!  I was thinking, "Oh boo hoo.  At least you weren't the one giving birth!"  But anyway, it sounds like it's a common problem.  He said in retrospect he should have spent more time communicating with his wife about his feelings.  She felt very rejected for many years.  I know I would.  My husband saw the birth and claims it was fine and he won't be affected, but I can't say I'm not a little worried once 6 weeks rolls around...  I know this is a stretch, but maybe he could look online at what some other men have done to get over something like that.  Or, maybe you could even look and tell him what you found, and see what he thinks.  Does that help?

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