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Melissa - posted on 06/22/2009 ( 427 moms have responded )

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I dont mean to be rude or put anyones parenting down...to each their own is my motto but does anyone hate seeing a TODDLER with a soother or a bottle hanging out of their mouth?

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Tracie - posted on 06/26/2009

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omg you ppl are kidding me right my daughter is 18 months old and she still has a dummy and bottle i value your oppinion's but you obviously have no idea my girl was born with a talipes and has been in plaster for no less than 12 months and a bottle and dummy is the only way she would leave my arms lazy i beg ur parden. so your children didnt need one good for you and i dont think having your child scream for an hour because they want it is any less of "bad parenting" or lazy parenting than giving it to them. being a parent is wanting to care and not see ur child in pain RIGHT! so next time u see a mother with a child who is a little older than 1 year with a dummy and or bottle think about other reasons and not just lazy parenting!

Anne - posted on 04/30/2010

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What dreadful people admitting to making snide comments or giving dirty looks to other parents. And you are actually proud of this???

Brenda - posted on 07/20/2009

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So somehow a thread on how bad a pacifier is gets turned into how sick extended breastfeeding is?



For one thing, why does everyone want their children to be minature adults by the age of one? All their brain development isn't suddenly done at the magical age of twelve months. Children NEED security objects. To their brain, the world is a confusing and strange place, and they don't understand continuity and that if something is gone it will come back. Not all children have a security object, and some have more than one. A child that is overly attached to an item is missing some form of emotional support, either because they can't communicate the need or because the parent is not filling that need for whatever reason. Ripping said object from a one year old, whether it is a pacifier or a bottle can cause increases in some important hormones in the brain. (Cortisol as one). My son took a bottle until we "lost" it conveinently after his second birthday. He never took a pacifier.



As far as thinking a child in a stroller is too big for a bottle/pacifier/or a stroller, I have a son that at the age of two everyone assumed was as old as three or four. My husband is six foot, and he's already at four years of age over forty inches tall and forty five pounds. I was always irritated by people who thought he was much older than he was who gave me the snide "control your child" looks until they found out how old he was then I would get the "Oh, my he's a big boy isn't he?" and they would walk away embarrassed.



And as far as the breastfeeding thing, what business is it to anyone except the mother and child how long they feed? The WHO recommends breastfeeding for two years or longer. Why? Breastmilk contains live white blood cells that protect children that are OMG older than a year old (there's that "magic age" again"), and contains an extremely important hormone that lowers pain in infants and toddlers. Breastfeeding should be continued as long as it is MUTUALLY desired by mother and child. However long that is. All other mammals nurse their young until their milk teeth are losst (guess what baby teeth are...). Primates (who are as close to humans as any animal) nurse their infants for 2-8 years. Until their milk teeth start coming out.



Most of this has nothing to do with the OP, so please don't think it does, Melissa. As far as the original post, the parents in the situation need to figure out why the child is so attached and see if they can transfer the attachment to another, more appropriate object. My four year old spit his out when I gave it to him, and my two month old doesn't care for them either. My four year old was bottle fed, and my two month old is breastfed, and just seems neither will take one.



And for the record, a parent is not "lazy" or "wrong" by using a pacifier. Some infants have a strong suck reflex and need to suck on something to satisfy that need. We as a society do not believe in letting infants nurse when they want, and bottles provide constant flow of milk, so there is no way for them to use the reflex that comes naturally.

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Wow. There are a lot of judgmental people here. I wonder about people who feel the need to judge others' decisions so adamently - what are they compensating for in their own lives?



My son, who turns 4 in July, just weaned himself off the bottle last month. He would still get one in the morning when he was super hungry and my doctor was fine with that. She pointed out that toddlers will self wean and that taking it away had more to do with me feeling good about my parenting than about any negative effects on my son.



As for his soother, he gets one at night and hardly uses it but it still gives him comfort so why fret about it. Soon, we will start suggesting that he might not need it and I'm sure he'll give it up.



Why do we in North American countries feel that we need to move our children forward so quickly through life. Is allowing your child something that causes no harm and gives comfort such a horrible thing? Or is it maybe that we are afraid others will judge us so we do what is best for US and not for our children?

If you are reading this and feeling like you have to conform, please don't feel that way. You are not alone!

Danielle - posted on 04/29/2011

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Your children are your concern, and mine are my concern. I assure you that my 2 year old using a bottle isn't a sign of neglect or negligence on my part. He's a happy, smart, well adjusted toddler who is given plenty of love and affection. I think that's what is most important.

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Veronica - posted on 07/02/2011

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I think sometimes it takes a few months longer for some to get off the bottle, so if its a few months after their 1st birthday I don't think it's a big deal. If it's over, say, 14 months, I would start to wonder as I think it only gets harder for them to pass it up. I used Active Cup by Nuk, which I swear is the best and fastest way to transition to sippy. As for the soother, I think it's ok until they are two, according to my Pediatrician, who says it then starts to affect their teeth.

Veronica - posted on 07/02/2011

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I think sometimes it takes a few months longer for some to get off the bottle, so if its a few months after their 1st birthday I don't think it's a big deal. If it's over, say, 14 months, I would start to wonder as I think it only gets harder for them to pass it up. I used Active Cup by Nuk, which I swear is the best and fastest way to transition to sippy. As for the soother, I think it's ok until they are two, according to my Pediatrician, who says it then starts to affect their teeth.

Nikkole - posted on 05/02/2011

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I have seen older children around 2/3 with bottles there mother's only put milk,water in them and never put the children to bed with bottles and the kids teeth are fine (they also brush teeth twice a day). Now i can see a bottle harming a child if the mother puts juice or soda in a bottle and puts the kids to bed with it. For me i don't understand breast feeding mothers usually let the baby/child wean off themselves (my husband was almost 4) so whats the difference in weaning off a bottle, i know its more natural from a breast but some mothers can't/choose not to breast feed so i see no difference in the two IF a bottle is used correctly and same goes with a soother. I don't judge ANYONE unless they are causing TRUE harm to there kids and for me using a bottle/soother longer is not hurting your child every parent is different and so are doctor's advice, so i feel if you do not like seeing a toddler with a soother/bottle then get over it it's not your child or your choice and it dose not effect your life in the slightest. Everyone wants their children to grow up soo quickly now a days i just don't get it but this is just my opinion not meaning to make anyone mad.

Miriam - posted on 05/02/2011

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yes and no!!! yes a child should give up the bottle and specially the pacifier at 1, but people will do whatever works for them. now by 2 is pushing it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Jane - posted on 05/01/2011

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in my opinion, at 1 yr, bottles are gone. pacifiers should be done w/as soon as possible. but they do serve purposes, so it's a judgement call. especially if a child has a medical thing to deal w/or anything like that. every mom should do what works for their family.

Danielle - posted on 04/29/2011

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I agree with you Amanda. Now if only I could get my son to drink out of a cup! Haha.

Amanda - posted on 04/29/2011

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I say as soon as the child starts drinking from a cup to throw the bottles away...and the soother. If you keep giving it back once they start from a cup they will think they can always have it whenever.

Candace - posted on 04/29/2011

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My son is 11 months. He's off the bottle but still has his binky. Let me just say he was a preemie and in fact needed the paci in the nicu to teach him how to suck. Anyway he will keep his pacifier until he's 18mths. Less than that if he decides he doesn't want it anymore or isn't talking but I doubt that will be a problem since he's saying five words already. Honestly I could care less about how someone else feels when they look at him and see that he has a pacifier. Hey if you don't like it then don't look. I'm pretty sure there's certain things that I wouldn't agree with another parent doing but that's not any of my business nor my concern just like my child having his pacifier isn't anybody's business or concern

Carly - posted on 04/29/2011

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Yes, but I tend to look and think to myself "I am so glad my kids don't look like that!".

Danielle - posted on 04/25/2011

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Calling parents who allow their children to have pacifiers and bottles longer than a year old lazy is rude, insulting, and incredibly judgmental. I let my son have a bottle and he turned 2 last week. You don't see me calling you all a bunch of heartless, mean mommies for taking your child's bottle and paci away at 12 months. I'm not losing any sleep over you taking it away at that age, so mind your business and get over the fact that some mothers allow their children to choose when to give up the paci/bottle!

Crystal - posted on 04/25/2011

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Oh come on now theres no stroller once the kid starts walking maybe for you but not for me my oldest started walking at 8 months and my youngest at 10 months and i'm not gonna force them to walk even when there little legs are tired thats just mean my youngest will be 2 in Aug and i still use her stroller other wise it would take us for ever just to walk to the park down the street and i just dont see how that can be wrong how would you like it if someone made you walk and walk even though your were tired their just babies and they do get tired faster than we do whats next takeing all toys away completley by kindergarten for crying out loud

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I agree......and to add to that, I also can't stand it when parents send their young children to school STILL in nappies (diapers)

Nikkole - posted on 04/25/2011

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My son is 3 and has a pacifier at night and nap times and he can talk better than most 3 year olds i know he has a great vocabulary! But we have ALWAYS worked with him on talking and we never used baby talk with him and he dosen't have his pacifier ALL day! My doctor and dentist said as long as its gone by 4 he will be fine his teeth are not bad in the least bit from his pacifier! If you just shove the pacifier in your kids mouth 24/7 and don't work with them on talking then sure they won't talk or wont want to talk leaving it in there mouth's all day or shoving it in there every time they start to cry is being Lazy but letting them have it a little longer is not lazy! And the whole blanket thing i think if you take your kids blankie or stuffed animal away that is wrong there is NOTHING wrong about having something to help comfort your child especially if its not hurting them!

Amy - posted on 04/25/2011

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It doesn't bother me so much if it's just for night or nap and they're under/around 2 yrs old, but to have it stuffed in there all day makes me concerned about speech development.

My nephew is over 2 yrs old and still has a pacifier. He doesn't say any words at all. Only "uhns" and "eeeeh". I do think the paci has something to do with it.

Crystal - posted on 04/24/2011

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i think it's realy ignorant of those of you saying parents who use pacifiers are lazy lazy is sitting on your butt all day doing nothing not allowing your child to have a comfort item and as far as not useing bottles some people can't or don't want to breastfeed both my girls were formula fed and are perfectly fine if you dont like bottles,binkys or blankies then dont use them but dont put those of us moms who do like those things down

Crystal - posted on 04/24/2011

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some of these responses are pretty harsh after 1yr no bottles,binkys or blankys thats just mean there just babies takeing the bottle at 1yr is fine but i see nothing wrong with binkys or blankys my oldest had both binky and blanky until she was 3 after about 18 months they were mostly nap/bed time and long car rides but hse truned out just fine as well as her teeth they are perfect my little one is 21 months and has a blanky and binky as well they comfort them and i think takeing them away when there really attached before they can understand why you are takeing these things away is just mean if you dont want them attached to those things dont give it to them in the first place but dont get them attached then take there comfort items away when they dont understand it wont hurt them to have it there only litlle for so long enjoy it

Crystal - posted on 04/24/2011

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I dont mind the pacifiers my little one is 20 months and still has hers mostly for sleeping and car rides but i see no problem with it my oldest had hers until she was 3 and her teeth were fine

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yes! I know someone who'se son cannot talk without the binky...and when you take it out he mumbles like it's IN his mouth! my 2 oldest lost theirs around 6-7 months, when they started eating baby food. and when my daughter was 18 months old she helped pack up her bottles, my first son never took a bottle and it's looking like #3 doesn't like a bottle either!

Gina - posted on 01/08/2011

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are you serious come on you dont like bottles hanging out off mouths and dummies number one dummies are for carming babies down and it basicly stops babies chewing toys and putting stuff in there mouths and bottles are used when babies are young but for some mums taking bottles of babies are hard because the baby gets so used to it she nows how to use it i think using a sippy cup is messy so i still us the bottle and i still us the dummie when my babie was young he used it all the time but now he hardly uses it only if he wants it which hardly ever now so i dont think its wrong if you cant but up with it why have a child in the first place come on it is surely you will see your baby using a bottle and look every where you walk you will see it so your going to have to deal with it x

Elizabeth - posted on 01/06/2011

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omg I really hate seeing older children with it. yeah if they can talk then they don't need it....PERIOD. teach them to want something else

Veronica - posted on 01/06/2011

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i totally agree! my pediatrician told me to let it go because i was the one holding on to the pacifier not my son. he was so right!!!

Jessica - posted on 01/06/2011

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My stepdaughter is 3 & still has a soother! My 5 month old son flat out refuses it. He takes a couple sucks & after realizing milk won't come out he spits it out & looks confused!

Shannon - posted on 01/06/2011

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a bit like seeing a 3 or 4 year old in a pram...... as soon as my kids were able to walk properly i put the pram away, sure rachel who is 18months gets tired but we then get a shopping trolley but no pram, they have legs let them use them!!!!!

Kristy - posted on 01/04/2011

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My son is 13 months old and he still has 4 bottles a day, 3 meals, 2 snacks and anything else that comes within arms reach of his mouth. I feed him fruit and veggies and meat, he eats everything we do and hasn't had baby food since about 9 months but he has only started drinking really well out of his sippy cup and at the moment he will only drink water out of it. I have tried milk and he just does not want it in his cup. He is a big boy and has been since the day he was born so people automatically assume he is at least 18 months old when he is sitting in his pram. The thing is though, if he wont give up his bottle then so be it. He will be completley off his bottle by 2 but for now i have to just try and cut back the bottles and get him to drink milk out of his cup. It's a bit hard to judge another parent when you haven't walked in there shoes.

Cj - posted on 12/22/2010

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soothers and pacifiers are often in toddlers' mouths! and many people believe that one should breastfeed for two whole years, well into toddler territory. if you can BF for two years, surely you can bottle feed for two years.

Leanne - posted on 12/21/2010

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i think a bottle at 4 or 5 is wrong forsure , but taking a soother away at 6 months is kind of killing it , if you were planning on taking it away that early shouldnt of gave them one in the first place , thats my motto my sons 6 months and will not take a soother , but he loves his bottles BUT hes also drinking from a sippy cup already so i have evrything in check , i plan on taking his bottle away when he about 1 or 1 1/2 .. but we`ll see how it goes

Nikkole - posted on 12/20/2010

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My son will be 3 at the end of the month and he uses a pacifier at bedtime only, ive taken him to 3 different dentists (because we have moved a lot) they all told me as long as the pacifier is gone by 4 it will not hurt a child's teeth now bottles are different the dentist said those are horrible for toddlers! I like self weaning that way the child can decided to let it go and you dont have to go through an emotional ordeal!! But if the child hasn't given the paci up by 4then is the time to just take it away!! I mean paci's are easier to take away then thumbs i would rather my kid have a paci!!! And blankets or stuffed animals i think is not a big deal At all i had a blankie till i was 7!!! And like others have said if its not your kid who cares

Melissa - posted on 12/20/2010

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You tell them danielle....its ok to think that is shouldnt happen but untill you are in the shoes of the mothers who have older kids dealing with this issue...WHY does other peoples way of doing things drive you crazy...when 1 you dont fully know the whole story or what the reasons are for them having it....GET OVER IT!

Emma - posted on 12/20/2010

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chick i dont think people were having a peronal dig, some children need them at that age and with ur lil girls condition thats undertstandable... i think what people a referring to more is when you see a child of 4 o5 5 with a bottle, dummy, pushchair

Liz - posted on 12/20/2010

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I don't think its a problem - every child is an individual and what works for one doesnt necessarily work for another. I think it would be worse to suddenly deny your child something they still feel they need just for aesthetic reasons. My first child wouldnt take a soother at all, my second stopped using his voluntarily at around 18 months but didnt come off the bottle until he was 2, and my little one is still only 8 weeks old so who knows what he will do?

Danielle - posted on 12/19/2010

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I completely agree with Anne and I feel that the women who think that we mothers who allow our children to have bottles or pacis until after the age of 12 months are incredibly judgemental!



My son is 19 months old and he ONLY drinks from a bottle. Because if I give him a sippy cup (and I've tried, many times, many different cups) he absolutely REFUSES to drink from it. And when people told me "when he's really thirsty, he'll give in" they were completely wrong. My son went 8 hours of not drinking when it was 35'C outside and I caved and gave him his bottle because I feel it is 10X more negligent to allow my child to DEHYDRATE than to let him drink out of a bottle when he's over 12 months old.



As for pacifiers, my son has never had quite such a large attachment to his and therefore we took that away when he was 12 months old but I do not feel any judgement towards parents who allow their children to have a paci beyond that age. Children this age are simply too young to understand reason and while some parents are okay with letting their children cry because it's better for them in the long run, parents who don't want to force their children into giving something up should NOT be judged. My brother has perfect teeth and he never had braces...he also had a pacifier until he was damn near 3 years old. It didn't effect his speech either.



Going back to the bottle issue, my child only drinks milk or water from his bottle. And I brush his teeth daily. He also never drinks it in his bed. His teeth show no sign of decay. Furthermore our pediatrician has no issue with him still having a bottle and given that he has been taking care of my family for 4 generations, his opinion means the most to me.



Adults indulge in many habits considered to be generally unhealthy but nobody forces us to quit those habits and I don't think we should force our children to give up their bottle or paci because we might feel it is "unhealthy." They don't get to be babies for long. Breastfeeding is encouraged for 2 years +. So what's wrong if my child wants his bottle a little longer than 12 months +?



I think our society is far too preoccupied in making our babies grow up too fast!



Oh and to the women who insulted us by calling us "lazy"...that goes a little further than just sharing your opinion. I am FAR from lazy. Furthermore, don't say "not to be rude" and "no offense" when what you have to say is clearly rude and offensive.

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My first son had his until he was 2.5 ... in no way am I offended by any opinions on this thread, after all, they are only opinions :)

I also consider myself a very good parent :)

Natalie - posted on 12/18/2010

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I hate it too... and I don't think it has to do with Parenting in any form.... My 22 mos old still likes her pacifier right before bed! I have tried everything to stop her from taking it but she'll throw a tantrum & not sleep! So I am letting her have it!! She's slowly using it less & less.

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SIDS... Hmmm, Okay. Doctor's about 4 year's ago said lay a baby on it's tummy to prevent SIDS. This year my son was born and they told me to lay him on his back to prevent SIDS. When I was born, they told my mother to lay me on my side. Doctor's really can't make up their minds. Even my mid-wife says they change their minds on that about every 4 years. So what is up is down and so on... Do what makes YOU and baby happy... BUT don't do or don't do just to keep baby from screaming. Wrong answer. Who's the boss? You or your child? Seeing a toddler (technically 2yrs or older) with a pacifier shows who truly is the boss and guess what? It's not you! Doesn't make you look very adult now does it? Instead, You look like a baby with a baby... Again, just my opinion! A baby isn't a toy baby, it's the real thing. You need to grow up to help them grow up. 4 years old with a binki, c'mon, who's really the child???

Carin - posted on 12/18/2010

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Yep, I don't like it either! My husband and I were dead set on not giving Matthias a soothie before he was born. However, It didn't work out as planned the second night in the hospital. He kept crying for nothing, wasn't hungry, wasn't cold, didn't need a diaper change and holding him wouldn't soothe him. He was just really mad to not be in mommy anymore. And in came the nurse and suggested the soothie. I wasn't pleased and was way too tired to stand my ground. Hubby was passed out in the seat even with Matthias screaming his little head off. So, Once I saw it worked, I was so thankful to not have to stretch my stitches just to make him stop crying so I could get some much needed sleep after such a long hard labor (induced- 6 days late). After that, He's had a soothie. However, He does spit it out as soon as he is asleep and even refuses it altogether. Now he only accepts it twice a day and thats ONLY because he wants something to chew... he is teething early, way early but doc says its natural and nothing to worry about. I'm just glad I dried up 2 weeks after birth on that note.
If you think thats bad (soothie after 6 months) you should see the lady in another country who has a 12 year old still breast feeding... that is borderline molestation... In fact, In my opinion, it is molestation!!!
Some parents just don't know how to be good parents. And on that note, being a good parent DOESN'T mean not spanking a child.
I have seen some extremely spoiled rotten children, I should know, my sister does it. Refuses to spank her children and they run around the house wild and hit her and eachother. Extremely disrespectful and violent. Ever hear the term "Wal-Mart babies/kids"? Those are the kids that you want to ask the parent Are you going to spank them or should I??
In my opinion, and very sorry if I offend anyone... Children need that form of punishment sometimes. A little woop on the butt only hurts their feelings and doesn't leave a bruise. It's when you take it too far is the problem or when you don't take it far enough, like not spanking them or smacking their hand. It doesn't promote violence. But I see no punishment promoting violence (like my niece and nephew). Standing on a spot doesn't get their attention and only makes them more prone to back talk and walking away from the designated spot just to see how far they can go before you catch them.
So to me, Using a soothie after 6 months is just as disgusting as someone not punishing their child. Children should never be left to run down the isles unattended and unpunished for knocking things off the shelves and opening packages.
It's all BAD parenting to me!!!
People in our parents generation and before them and before them have turned out fine and well adjusted from punishment. Look at my generation... Gangs, Violence, People dropping out of school left and right, having babies before the age of 18 (one of my sisters)... All because of why? Parents afraid to punish their children and look how our generation turned out.
You've got to teach your children early that they do not rule you by their screaming for something. You are the boss, not them. Letting them have a soothie later than they should is cruel;and spoiling them to where they think they can get anything they want just by throwing a tantrum. Start them early on who is the boss. It starts even while they are in the womb. Ever pushed back when they kicked?
I've seen it first hand through my family before I had my son. If you start early, then you won't have as much trouble with them misbehaving when they are older. Take the soothie away, first step!!!

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I think that every child is different on when to give it up. I will say I don't believe at any age a bottle should be something that a child carries around or that a pacifier should be used while talking. I do think that pacifiers are a can be a good thing...it is proven that they help reduce SIDS.

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for some children a bottle is a soother. my daughter refuses to take a soother but when shes upset and not feeling well she will have a bottle. i dont mind seeing toddlers with either or them, they're still young and learning what their feelings are. for children who are 4+ yes they shouldnt be having a bottle or soother

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I personally don't really like it when they are out and playing or shopping.

By daughter had her dummy til she was 18 months then we got rid of it. My son has never had one and has no idea what to do with one.

My kids have both had bottles until they were 2 or a bit after. But both only at sleep time from around 10 months old. If it is going to help my child feel safe whilst they are going to sleep then they can have it. And my daughter is now 4 and has NO dental issues. Her teeth are perfectly straight with No cavaties or anything.

But i never let them take their bottles and dummy's out while we were shopping or at the park!

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I hate seeing it too because I was one of those kids...(well still am in a way) I'm 20 and i still have 2 of my baby blankets that i had when i was a baby. I don't NEED them any more. I still sleep with them. I would throw them away, but I have so many good memories with them (i'm a little bit of a pack rat because i keep anything with memories lol) I know it's kind of weird to still have them but I love them. I wish my mom had thrown them away when I was little instead of allowing it to continue-she let me keep my paci untill i was 4...wow...and now I'm worried cuz myy 2 1/2 year old is VERRRRRRY attached to her blankie and screams even when it gets washed because she always needs it with her. I'm going to wait and see if she moves away from it on her own, but if she doesn't-it's getting tossed.

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I come on Circle of moms after a long day being the best possible mother I can be. I come here for advice as well as to help those who ask questions I may have an answer to.

What really bothers me is when other mothers judge and bully and put down other mothers. We are all in this together, and none of us know the reasons for older toddlers using a pacifier or bottle.

I am sorry that you don't like to see it, and you have enough hate towards these things, that you decided to post it on here. It is not just you I am speaking about. It is the 300+ mothers who replied, stating that they too do not like to see this behavior.

Think about what we are doing?! We come on here saying how it is not right that a toddler is still using things that make him/her happy. As mothers we try to teach our children things like empathy and acceptance. Are we being good examples when we come on here basically putting down other mothers and children for their own habits??

We don't know why a child needs the bottle or pacifier for so long, and it is not always because the parent is lazy. You have NO idea if some of these kids are sick or something.

As a baby I used to suck my lip instead of a pacifier. Guess what?? at night I still sometimes catch myself sucking my lip. My parents were FAR from lazy.

I think we should ALL stop bullying other children and mothers and work on being the best we can be

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I guess I am just lucky, my son doesn't use a pacifer or a soother, he doesn't have a blankey and as long as there is food in it he doesn't care if it is a bottle or a sippy. My son is 7 months old and I have him on a learner cup when he isn't nursing. I stopped nursing all day last month and I plan to nurse at night until he is a year old. I think weaning him from the breast will be hard for him.

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My LO likes to watch the liquid sprinkling out of her sippy cup and whenever she is given one she immediately tips it up and starts shaking. Not comaptible with giving her expressed breastmilk - too precious. She is too independent to let anyone help her hold it. So for now she still has to have bottles.



Some have said that only lazy parents give soothers/dummies - A parent of a colicy baby is by no means lazy and doing anything you can to give your child a bit of comfort shows you are an active parent. Letting them scream in distress however...

I tend to think that those people who are so judgemental on these issues must have had a really easy time in parenthood - perhaps they are lazy! ;->



Dummies don't cause any harm to teeth until the child is much older and I think the dental health aspect can be the the only sensible argument against dummies. Since it is not a problem until well after toddlerhood then what is the harm in it. You want to take away security and comfort from a little infant because you think they should suddenly have adult levels of emotional maturity. You think that when they get to a certain PHYSICAL size or PHYSICAL development stage (like walking which happens at 7 months old for some) that magically they are emotionally mature? Are you objecting because you don't like how it looks and couldn't care less about the child's security? Really? Is that a sign of maturity :-)



Everyone is different. Every child is different. I just hate to see people being so judgemental.

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I hate seeing the pacifier hanging out of toddler's mouths. At 2 years old, the child should know how to self-soothe. I hate seeing toddlers, especially my own with bottles, we're transitioning him to regular cups, but he does better with regular cups, but is such a poop sometimes. He will take the cup and laugh then dump it on himself, but with sippies he just dumps them on the floor. Is that normal?

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Why though? What is the significance of walking? It doesn't correlate with emotional maturity.

Chelsey - posted on 05/04/2010

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if they can walk no more soother or bottle time to teach your baby about sippies and no bink

Leah - posted on 05/04/2010

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Well psychologist say that all infants go through and oral stage, the soother is a way they comfort themselves. Many audlts still have oral fixation, chewing gum, munching on ice, chewing on pencils. There is a difference in letting your child have a soother and the soother parenting the child. I parent my child, and soothe my child as well as him having a soother. I dont see the problem until they are older and they dont need it. Infants and young toddlers dont understand their feelings, nor how to fully deal with them and the soother helps them find an outlet.

Leah - posted on 05/04/2010

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The bottle yes, but the soother doesnt bother me. I didnt want to try to break both at the same time, we are working on the soother, but its not like he is 4 or 5 yet and in preschool. As of right now my son only uses the soother when he is not at daycare, but in time he will give it up !

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