I dont mean to be rude or put any ones parenting down...but does anyone else hate seeing

Angie - posted on 07/19/2009

I think its bad for their oral health personally- I feel after they cut most or all of their teeth they should be weaned asap- an occasional bottle now and then won't hurt- however, personally once mine began to cut teeth and eat more solid foods, I weaned them bc I've seen children with horrible oral problems as a result of not letting go of the bottle or pacifier (we call it a pee py= baby talk for pacifier)

Danielle - posted on 07/19/2009

I agree. It's ridiculous. I get the whole confort thing but you have to put a stop to it at some point. You think at 1 1/2-2 they are gonna cry when you take it away, wait until they're used to it for another couple more years or even months, THEN take it away. I'm sure it will be 10 times worse.

Elizabeth - posted on 07/19/2009

Definitely. I understand that its a comfort for some kids but surely there are other means.

Rachon - posted on 07/18/2009

I hate that, its bad for thier teeth, and it just don't look good!

Cyrese - posted on 07/18/2009

LOL!! I agree.I never understood it, but I shouldn't judge, my daughter isn't a toddler yet so who knows what she'll be doing then!

Fallon - posted on 07/18/2009

Tasha Bee, guess I always thought being a parent was mroe about your childs health and well being than giving in to their every whim even if it's not good for them..i.e. dental cavities from taking a bottle to bed..or orthodontic promblems from taking a binky 'til they're 5....Calling the shots and doing what's best for your child is not cruel..it's called parenting.

Roxanne - posted on 07/18/2009

Tasha bee..... you cant just give in to them... you make it sound like if they want a bottle and you dont give it to them that the parent is being neglective, but there not. if you say that about a bottle then what about candy, soda, and anything else? You going to give it to the child because they want it? Children learn eairly. and if you teach them now that all they have to do is cry or throw a fit guess what you will have to deal with for the rest of your/there life? children need rules and boundries... thats what is wrong with alot of children these days...... I say that and Iam only 29 years old!

Roxanne - posted on 07/18/2009

I think that if they can drink out of a sippy or a reg. cup, They should and bottles should be gone at that point then. As far as a soother or binky.... I feel by age 1... maybe 2 the binky should be gone too.. and I know some babies are attached to there "binky" ok but all the time? You have to start restricking them on how much or they will be 15 and still have it cliped to there shirt (LOL)

Julia - posted on 07/18/2009

I pulled my daughter's bottle and pacifier at 4 months.

Noelle - posted on 07/18/2009

Yes! The binkies are really only meant to go up to 18 months, I can't stand when I see toddlers or worse, children, walking around with it. If they still want it for bed, that's still too old, but to walk around all day long with it, it's ridiculous.

Tasha - posted on 07/18/2009

why should they though? u have ur method and other people have theirs! if a baby wants something you dont not give it to them and be cruel.. you are meant to be a loving caring parent not a school teacher and in a few months he will be off the dummies but its like if a baby cries u dont ignore them, if they want a bottle u give it to them and the same for a dummy. if they feel more comfortable and it makes them happy then so be it

Fallon - posted on 07/18/2009

6 months old is alot different than a four or five year old with a binky and a baba..sorry I didn't make that specification. Babies need a bink..they even say it reduces SIDs...great but it becomes totally excessive and in my opinion spinless if someone can't ween a 3-6 year old off of a bink..

Tasha - posted on 07/18/2009

looool grow up seriously!

Fallon - posted on 07/18/2009

It's RIDICULOUS..those parents are likely the same ones with out the back bone to get their kids off bottles or sippys at night..not healthy for the kids and unattractive in the mean time.

Tasha - posted on 07/18/2009

well if you dont like it then dont look. my baby is 6months and still has a dummy and a bottle, he puts his dummy in by himself if he wants it and if not he will throw it somewhere. it isnt about shuttin them up by stickin it in their mouth its about security and comfort, just because certain people dont like it it doesnt mean mothers are wrong. you have you're way of bringing up your child and i have mine :|

Misty - posted on 07/18/2009

yes too old for that stuff i think...those are for babies

Kelly - posted on 07/18/2009

Giving a baby a dummy in the first place isn't lazy! This site is so judgemental!!!

Tasia - posted on 07/18/2009

I hate seeing that... my two daughters were off the bottle a couple weeks before they were 1 and the pacies were cut up and thrown away when they woke up on their 2nd b-day. and i plan to do the same with my 3 mth old son.

Samantha - posted on 07/18/2009

i think its a bad think to let them continue with it too.. BUT i know that sometimes my 7 month old is sooo unbearable that i would just give in. its hard as parents for us not to.. so whatever works.. but there has to be some point where they have to stop.

Heather - posted on 07/18/2009

yes I feel if they are walkin and starting to talk get rid of the bottle and the binky.To me if your Toddler is still using a bottle or a binky you are a lazy parent! My frist child was off the bottle a little after a year old and she never used a binky. And my second one won't use a binky either.

Eva - posted on 07/18/2009

is a security thing, just think of something that u had since u can remember and then the one person that loves you try to take it away.

my sonhe never used a soother,he didnt want to let go of his bottle, the Doctor said that not to rush it that he will let it go when he was ready.and had abottle into he was 2 he didnt have it on him month 24/7 but he would only drink from his bottle not from his zippicup.

Rachel - posted on 07/18/2009

Oh my goodness YES. ofcourse all have their own way, but i DISLIKE seeing any young child with juce in a bottle that just hangs there.. Infant caries (rotting teeth) is so easy to prevent, and so hard to solve...

Jayme - posted on 07/18/2009

I hate pacifiers. What a waste. Any idea how many smiles you miss with that thing stuck in your kids mouth. If you have to use one, and I haven't with any of my 3 children, then please get rid of it at a reasonable age ie., by the time they can smile.

Rose - posted on 07/18/2009

I'm assuming that a soother is the same as a pacifier. In which case yes. However, my son has a stuffed dog that he is attached to. He is now 3 years old still carries it around on occasion. While I do think a toddler is way to old for a bottle or pacifier, some toddlers need blankies or other soothing objects when they are away from home.

Sianne - posted on 07/18/2009

i think soothers should be cut earlier rather then later-although they are great for the transition from breastfeed to bottle feeding, gives the baby some sort of comfort vice.

but toddlers should be on sippy cups, drink bottles or a glass, if theyre not i tend to reagrd it as lazy parenting. it only takes alittle effort but thats just my opinion.

Katie - posted on 07/18/2009

my 1st son has neva had a dummy bt is still on bottles and also uses sippa cups he is 13months, my second son doesnt have a dummy either reli bt e only 6weeks. bt i dnt like wen they r walking round with dummies in their mouths wen they are over 2

Terri - posted on 07/17/2009

yes it drives me nuts but at the same time i could not break my baby of his binky my daughter was a different storie i took hers and that was the end of the storie but my lil boy i just could not bring my self to take it. But we had rules he was only allowed to have it in the car and in bed and eventually we lost the last one and that was the end of that. But at 12 months your child is ready to be given a sippy or a big cup there is no reasn that you child should be carring a bottle around wich only casues baby bpttle tooth decay!

Maria - posted on 07/17/2009

It doesn't matter how much you train your baby/child to get over soothers. They wont give it up until they are ready to. but of course, if the kid is more than 3 yrs already..I think trying a bit harder to get him/her off it is best. My son is only 4 months, we started him on the soother the second day he was born. But he doesn't like it anymore which is great. but i know my cousin who had her baby just 20 days after mine and he wont go to sleep unless he has his soother and another cousin of mine has a 7yr old who still sucks on his thumb from having a soother. It all depends on you and your child.

Krystal - posted on 07/17/2009

I honestly do but its the parents choice, I took the bottle away from my son before he was 1 and I will do the same for my daughter here in a couple months.

Jessica - posted on 07/17/2009

My other son who is 22 mths, we had to take his paci away from him at 18 because he kept biting through them. i would have taken it away at 2 yrs old, yes. I dont think they should have them after 2. but i will not tolerate someone saying that i am 'desperate' or lazy. that is just plain wrong. dont judge me because i give my kids pacis when THEY want them.

Carrie - posted on 07/17/2009

Quoting lyndsy:

Quoting Sarah:

I do agree that toddlers with dummies are wrong but i have to stick up for some of those Mum's who do give dummies (pacificers) out of desperation! I understand there are lazy mothers out there who just give a dummy as the easy option and i don't agree with that at all. I gave my son a dummy at 2weeks old because i was breastfeeding him. I was feeding on demand and with him being my first i had no idea what i was doing. So everytime he wanted the breast i gave it to him. I got the dummy after sitting up ALL night with my son attached to my breasts from 4pm on night to 6am the next morning! I realised he was using me as a dummy but if i tried to stop he wouls scream so loud and seemed so upset. I spoke to my midwife and she said the best thing to do would be to try him on a dummy. He may not take it etc etc. Well, i had said all through my pregnancy that i would never use a dummy so i didn't get one.  I was in tears because i felt i had sacrificed something i felt quite strongly about .

 

i felt as if i wrote this post myself that is exactly as it hap;pened with my daughter. i still regret the dummy but it helped a lot, cant wait for it to go though. xoxo

 

here here!!!!!

Carrie - posted on 07/17/2009

Quoting Ashlee:

yes! it messes up their teeth!

my 5 year old has perfect teeth, he had dummy till 3 an half! what rubbish

Carrie - posted on 07/17/2009

my son had a dummy till 3 and a half, rather that than my nipple!

Jessica - posted on 07/17/2009

Ok, I am sorry but I have been reading some of these replys and I just want to say that I am horrified that alot of you think that moms give their kids pacis out of desperation and are too lazy to deal with their screaming child. I cant believe I even read that. Did you know that pacis are a good source to sooth an upset tummy? Ask your doctor and they will tell you that. My 3 month old loves to suck on his hands to put him to sleep but I substitute it for a paci to make sure he doesnt make his hands raw. Babies have a natural need to suck on something. Better a paci than their fingers or hands all the time. Im not lazy because I give it to him so he can be calm. Holding your child too much can make them dependant on you and then later as they get older, they dont ever leave your side and then you have a harder time raising multiple children with one of them always at your side. We all have different parenting styles. I dont believe that a paci is a bad thing at all. It doesnt make anyone lazy. Did you ever stop and think that maybe there are more kids in the house to take care of so a paci is the only thing left to save the day? Next time consider other reasons they are used before saying that a mother is just lazy.

Jane - posted on 07/17/2009

i took my sons dummy off him jus after ihad my second child n he was 22month old i told him dat dummys r jus for babies n he was a bigboy. he was fine after a few days.

Heidi - posted on 07/17/2009

I always hated it, now my 4yr old sucks her fingers and we can't get her to stop. I Tried the bitter nail polish. She was spitting in the sink for a day and then got used to it! Although pacifiers are more controllable. My 11 mo. old will be much "easier" to stop. But when is the question? My doc said wait until after 1.

Liz - posted on 07/17/2009

I thought this was a community of mothers who were interested in supporting one another not pass judgment and state who does what best.

Liz - posted on 07/17/2009

I thought this was a community of mothers who were interested in supporting one another not pass judgment and state who does what best.

Jane - posted on 07/17/2009

yeah, or wen u c a 3-5 yr old in a boody pushchair. dey jus look daft lol

Cayla - posted on 07/17/2009

Its funny because when i was pregnant with my daughter i bought a pack of 2 soothers, but after purchasing i told myself i would never use them. One night when my daughter was prob. about 7 days old and i still was having problems walking etc. my daughter was in her bassinet crying and i knew that i had just fed her and she was just being a cranky pants. While i was in the bathroom my boyfriend found the soothers and gave it too her since his mother was over and told him to do so......Even though i was a little upset that he did it without talking to me, It was also the first night my daughter slept through the night!!!!!!! so yeah i still give it to her and shes 7 and a half months old but i only give it to her at bedtime. as for bottles my niece is 18 months old, and still has one. Its all up to the parent! For me my daughter has already been introduced to sippy cups but until shes a year old i dont think i will take away her baba :)

Andrea - posted on 07/17/2009

To each his own, but yes, I hate seeing that too! I have never used pacifiers for any of my kids and all my kids were done with bottles by the time they were one.

Camilla - posted on 07/17/2009

DISGUSTING AND LAZY ARE PRETTY HARSH WORDS AND I THINK PEOPLE SHOULD WORRY ABOUT HOW THEY PARENT THERE OWN KIDS. LOVE AND PATIENCE IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING. MYOB

Becky - posted on 07/17/2009

I don't like soothers/dummies at any age. Bottles are not healthy for children over one due to developing teeth.

Saying that my son who is 17 months will not settle at night without a bottle, it's the only one he has during the day he dreaks from cups. My husband and i have tried everything from chucking them in the bin waiting three weeks until we purchased one! Once Oliver has had his night bottle he tends to sleep pretty well these days (apart from when he is teething!)

Becky - posted on 07/17/2009

I don't like soothers/dummies at any age. Bottles are not healthy for children over one due to developing teeth.

Saying that my son who is 17 months will not settle at night without a bottle, it's the only one he has during the day he dreaks from cups. My husband and i have tried everything from chucking them in the bin waiting three weeks until we purchased one! Once Oliver has had his night bottle he tends to sleep pretty well these days (apart from when he is teething!)

Gillian - posted on 07/17/2009

Jesus nelly this is gone sour lol I hate them but, my oldest was 3 when he got rid of his but I didn't allow them out the house with him eg Shops after 18 months

My 2nd son had his till he got rid of it at 14 months after only giving it 2 him for bed and 3rd baby hated them lol But I hate them.

Deanne - posted on 07/16/2009

It is called a pacifier for a reason...

KAREN - posted on 07/16/2009

Im new to this site and will not be visiting again! After reading the posts on this issue "most peoples opinions"are attacking the right of a parent to do what THEY think is best for their child, we as women should support, do not have to agree ,with other mothers. Circumstances for all women are different and sometimes complicated with the issues of breastfeeding and soothers, we have all our lives to be attacked on whats best, how we dress, how much we weigh,what we look like ,how about leaving what for most is a joyous time of learning and discovery for all to that and leave the cutting remarks about what terrible mothers everyone but yourselves are. I realise everyone has an opinion as do myself but surely you all have better things to worry about than whether you see a baby with a dummy!

Melissa - posted on 07/16/2009

I do hate it when I see a toddler or older with pcifiers and bottles in their mouth! It just looks ridiculous... if they are old enough to talk they do not need things in their mouth!

Betty - posted on 07/16/2009

Oh yeah! That drives me crazy!!

Diane - posted on 07/16/2009

totally, i hate seeing them with a soother at that age. my little one is 3 months and loves her soother but me and my bf both agreed that wer taking it away for sure by 1 1/2 yrs old, it just looks stupid!