i know it may sound wierd. but i am scared to start having sex again. when is a good time?

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the golden number is 6 weeks... regardless of natural or c-section.
they also sugguest you wait until you have stopped bleeding to reduce the risk of infection and UTI's.

HOWEVER... i had a c-section and could only last 2 weeks, 1 day! my husband and i are every physically affectionate people and kissing and cuddling wasnt enough!

we went slowly and gently and there was no pain or diccomfort. if you want to try just try... if its too much you can stop at any time and try again later!

Michela - posted on 01/25/2010

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It's a tricky one, i had a really traumatic birth, i had an episiotimy so lots of stitches and was really tender so i was worried something would rip and tear, i think you should wait till you feel comfortable and even then it might take a couple of times to get back into it. Don't rush though.

Jodie - posted on 01/25/2010

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i was petrified but i waited till 6 weeks after giving birth and it was fine just take it nice and slow!

Coleen - posted on 01/24/2010

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I think it all boils down to you..allowing 6 weeks which is normally recommended by your doctor is just a safeguard with your healing process after child birth. Ive never had a C section but can only imagine that tummies would be a little sore,but with natural birth it does go through a little trauma in the process. I would recommend that if your a unsure to maybe wait until after you have regular periods again so that you know that your system is back to normal,and you will defineatly be well healed and by then. I know that after having my children there was still a sensation down there that kind of made me think I was ready,although it was all just part of the healing process.didnt let it tempt me...lol. I waited 6 weeks by then my milk had dried up and I felt sexy again..So just when you are ready,you arent sore or tender and use a condom until you have your contraceptive methods back in place ...that of course your not thinking about another one so soon, I know that was the last thing on my mind after having children......lol

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Well I waited 2 weeks. I was told by the midwife that contrary to common belief it is not necessary to wait until your 6-8 week post-natal check before you have sex but obviously you should use protection to prevent getting pregnant again.

Emily - posted on 01/24/2010

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well, your supposed to wait like 6 wks, but beyond that your body will let you know when its ready and also you will want to have sex again, i think i waited like 4 or 5 weeks and i was fine. my biggest fear was getting pregnant again! be careful of that bc your are really fertile right after delivering

Serena - posted on 01/24/2010

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I only waited about a week or so but gently eased back into things. You have to do whats comfortable for you but let me be a lesson for you, I have a 6 month old and 5 months pregnant. Keep in mind that your body is so used to being pregnant that it will try anything to get that way again...despite your opinion :)

Sara - posted on 01/24/2010

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Yeah, I'm still bleeding. Had a cesarian 6 days ago. I'm new to this Circle of Moms thing but I'm glad someone asked the question. Seems like it would be different lengths of time for a VB vs a cesarian.

Jeanette - posted on 01/24/2010

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i had a c-sec - my doc said wait 6 wks - but i don't know about hthe rest of you - i didn't want to- i was so tired all the time and now it is just so hard to make time - i have noticed that while breastfeeding i needed lubricant but other than that all is normal - i recently stopped breastfeeding and need the lubricant less, i guess my hormones have changed since stopping breastfeeding

Sheree - posted on 01/24/2010

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I was worried it would hurt too, we waited about 4 1/2 weeks, just until i stopped bleeding. we took it slow, it was a little uncomfortable but nothing too bad, couldnt say it hurt. After the first time it was back to normal really.

Tina - posted on 01/22/2010

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i was scared too after i had my baby girl... four weeks after we just did while messing around and i was fine

Chevalle - posted on 01/22/2010

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personaly i waited 3 weeks i had afew stiches down there too but my body heals fast, highly recomend using lots of lube when you do it for the 1st time as i found it felt real dry down there, and yes tell your partner to take it slow :D

Amy - posted on 01/21/2010

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I had sex 6 weeks after i gave birth and it was my first child and it was great did not hurt at all i was worried it would hurt but when we got started my worries were put to rest

Natasha - posted on 01/21/2010

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I would say that you should wait till your ready. I waited about 8 weeks with both my kids, just because I was still sore from my c-sections. If you are breastfeeding exclusively the chances are low that you can fall pregnant. Start slowly and that way if it hurts you can stop.

Renae - posted on 01/21/2010

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I had sex after just over a week, but I had a c-section so bleeding is only a few days and no need to wait for anything to heal.



I think you need to wait until you are ready. If you think you are still sore then wait until everything feels like it is properly healed. You are right when you say that you dont want something that should be pleasurable to be painful, that wont be fun for anyone you or hubby. Have you had your post baby checkup yet and been put on contraception? Discuss sex with your doctor when you have your checkup, I'm sure they get asked this question every day.

Amber - posted on 01/21/2010

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that's what worries me. i dont want something that should be pleasurable, be so uncomfortable. i guess i wont get pregnant right away if i'm not having sex. haha

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I waited 8 weeks. Make sure you use lots of lube and just tell your partner to go easy and be gentle you'll be fine. It will hurt for a little but it gets easier.

Amber - posted on 01/21/2010

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it's been almost 6 weeks and i just stopped bleeding within the last couple days. it seems that parts of me are still healing and that it wouldn't be very comfortable

Tiffany - posted on 01/21/2010

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1 month after you are back on birth control unless you are looking to get pregnant again.

Terri - posted on 01/21/2010

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Well the clinic will tell you to wait six weeks, but if you gave birth naturally then three weeks is fine. Thats how long i waited.

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