I'm due any day now and it's my first baby. Is it really allot of pain and does breathing really help?

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Kelly - posted on 04/17/2009

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Breathing properly relaxes you (as much as you can be in labor) and lets your body do the work it was meant to do in labor. When you hold your breath, as you may be tempted to do from nervousness, pain, etc., it fights against your body resulting in a longer labor.



With both my births, breathing made a huge difference and actually in both cases I could literally feel how my breathing deeply and regularly was helping. Both of mine were completely natural so the most painful part was the pushing stage (I think this is not always the case). Sometimes it would be so painful, I would gasp and I could feel the baby move back up when I did. That kept me very motivated to breathe deeply and regularly. I incorporated it into doing a sort of yell during my contractions which helped me personally to deal with the pain in a productive way. With my first baby I remember when I took really good, deep breaths, I could feel my cervix open just a little more each time during transition, which I found very encouraging to keep it up.



Good luck. I hope your labor and delivery is a good experience for you despite the pain. It was very painful for me but also a sort of magical experience feeling all the changes my body was going through to get the babies out so in the end, I have mostly positive memories and in a way, I look forward to next time.

Laurel - posted on 04/16/2009

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I did hypnobirthing, I know, I know, it sounds really hippy-ish but I swear by it. I had both my babies within an hour of being in the hospital and it was great! The whole Idea is to work with your body and not against it. The purpose of breathing is to keep your body relaxed, bring some music you like that will help but not only that, remember that YOU are in control. Your body was built to have children and any discomfort you may have will be over soon. It's such a short time in the grand scheme of it all and it's so defining as a woman knowing you can bring a whole life into the world! You're having a baby, you can do anything!! :-)...

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Jennifernider - posted on 02/07/2014

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Yes breath strong and concentrate on ur deep breaths it's the only thing that got me threw my natural birth just take as big of a breath in and out u will get threw it and before u now it u will have ur beautiful baby in ur arms good luck you can do it

Claire - posted on 04/19/2009

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possative thinkin helped me threw my 29hours . i just kept thinkin no 2 contractions r the same on your one closer to your baby . also if the pain gets to much ask for something at the end of the day u dont get any better thought of 4 goin natural and there there to help good luck and all the best . ps only u no whats best for you and your baby

Charlotte - posted on 04/19/2009

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heya i wont lie it is painfull but iam 16 so if i can do it u can do it and i breast fed for a day and a half n one told me how to breas t feed i just did it i never went to any classes it it was fine but my nipples started bleeding but it hurt me so much but its wot ever ur comfertble wiv and good luck hun all the best xxx

Chyna - posted on 04/19/2009

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Yes I'm a mother of two and breathing does help it keeps you focus and it's just a very natural thing to do. Good luck with everything

Katt - posted on 04/19/2009

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I wanted to have a natural birth but my nurse recomended that i get and epidural because i was dialting verrryy slowly i got my epidural at 3.5cm and i was 10cm 2hrs and 20mins later!! relaxing during labour and not fighting the pain progresses things quickly.. It does hurt lol even with my epidural it hurt, don't worry about it tho without the pain there would be no beautiful baby, you forget the pain pretty quickly which is why i think most women have multiple kids!

Brenda - posted on 04/18/2009

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Every woman is different. Just keep this in mind going in, and stay flexible. Know it is okay if you want meds or an epidural. Different women handle pain in different ways. I had back labor and was induced with pitocin, so I opted for both Stadol and an epidural (though it took me about ten hours to ask for it because I was stubborn). For the first stages of labor, breathing worked for me, but because of the pitocin, it wasn't managable, and I relented and asked for meds. If I hadn't, I probably would have had c/section because of the long labor.



This time I'm going in working on a natural birth, but if it doesn't work it doesn't work. And remember this, mother nature takes care of us. You're perception of the pain will fade incredibly fast afterward, and looking back it won't seem that bad. Remember it will be over soon, and you'll have a little one in your arms!

Cathelijn - posted on 04/18/2009

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Like most ladies here said, when you focus on the breathing you focus on something else then the pain.. In the prenatal classes here in the UK they don't really do the whole breathing all they tell you that is important to breath the contractions away so when the contraction is away take deep breaths and think to your self one more contraction I don't have to have anymore. I know it is easy talking for all of us that have done it before and I was very nervous as well but I tried to stay home as long as I could and even in the hospital I kept walking around and not to lay down to much, gravity will help a lot with speed! and when the baby is born you will be so happy you know it was worth it. Good Luck

Hadleigh - posted on 04/18/2009

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My brth was very quick so didn't have time for pain killers of any kind. I did find that focusing on breathing did help a bit...if only to keep my mind slightly occupied! I dont want to lie, It does hurt but is a very different pain to anything else. The moment your bub is born you really do forget the pain! Good luck

Kristy - posted on 04/17/2009

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Breathing helps you relax because you can't breathe slowly if you are tense, and if you are tense, the contractions hurt way more. Plus if you breathe slowly or at least concentrate on breathing slowly it might take your mind off the pain a little bit... My labour was awful, but I did it the first time without drugs (she was 9lb 9 oz) and I was alright... Hope it helps!

Catherine - posted on 04/17/2009

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It doesn't tickle, but it's not that bad either, especially if you tell yourself it won't be that bad. I walked into the hospital 9 cm dilated not because I planned on coming in that late but because I wasn't sure if I was in labor or not. My water broke shortly thereafter and then I really had a hard time telling when I was having contractions. My son was born about thirty minutes after I checked in.

Best of luck to you!

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Breathing is very important for you and the baby. For me the pains from contractions hurted more than pushing and the baby coming out. An epidural really is not necessary, I didn't have one and made it through just fine. Of cousre we're gonna be afraid but this is my first child, young. You'll be fine...

Tiffany - posted on 04/17/2009

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There is pain but you seriously forget about it the instant your baby is put into your arms! I went in knowing i wasnt going to get any drugs and it wasnt even an option in my mind. but have your coach/husband help you w/ the breathing it works amazingly!!

Sherry - posted on 04/17/2009

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It does hurt, but it's true that you totally get over it. I didn't do the "hee hee hoo" breathing, I found just taking long deep breaths and focusing on moving that kid out really worked for me. Good luck!

Madeleine - posted on 04/17/2009

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my delivery wasn't too painful, until i was given pitocin, after that it was incredibly painful. i said going into delivery that i didn't want drugs, but i ended up having an epidural, and it was the smartest thing i did. however, i did massage and breathing and the bath for a good six hours before i got the epidural, and the breathing does help. i didn't take any classes, i just let it come naturally. toning is great, too. (deep long sighs or groans.) trust your own instincts. good luck, you'll do great.

Melanie - posted on 04/16/2009

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I gave birth to all three of my children completely and totally natural. The pain is DEFINATELY there, but it is not too unbearable!! What helped me this last time was inhaling and exhaling while my coaches, my mom and husband, both rubbed down my back to the rhythm of my breathing. In by the time this happened I was already dialated to 9. If you don't want to rip, make sure that you listen to your body and don't try to over do it. My son was 8lbs and 1oz and I came out of there with no stitches AGAIN!! As long as you listen to your body and BREATH you will do fine. AND ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT IN THE LONG RUN A FEW HOURS OF PAIN IS WORTH THE JOY THAT COMES AFTER IT!!!!!!

Jeannette - posted on 04/16/2009

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one more thing....I totally recommend an internal monitor for the baby if you need to be monitored closely - this way you have more freedom to move around :)

Jeannette - posted on 04/16/2009

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I was in a zone! You will know what is right for you when the time comes - your body just kind of does it own thing. If you are worried or have any questions - the nurses are a great help and have heard it all :) I went through the whole thing - induced, no epidural as the anethitist was in another surgury for hours- but got through and pushed for an hour and a half then was carted in for a c-section as she hadn't moved in the time I was pushing. But when I saw her - I knew why people have more than child :) Best of luck to you and try not to worry - I know it is easier said than done :)

Suzie - posted on 04/16/2009

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Concentrating on your breathing will help you not concentrate so much on the pain of labor. It will still hurt but will help you feel more in control. Just pick one spot in the room to focus on...whether it's your hubby's eye...a spot on the wall...or a picture...and breath. You can do it. I had my first naturally and just remember that the result of the pain will be the greatest thing you can ever imagine.

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I was induced as well, and that made natural pain relief methods fairly ineffective for me. Breathing alone wasn't enough, but I was on a monitor so couldn't move through my pain or get in the shower. Plus the induction slammed me into active labor, which is hard to deal with mentally as well. I was really tired and wound up getting an epidural so that I could rest a bit before pushing. I was reluctant to accept that help at first, but I am really glad I did -- it helped me a lot. You should do what works for you though, and don't let anybody make you feel bad about your choice.

Tatham - posted on 04/16/2009

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i'm not going to lie...it did hurt...i did get an epidural, by the time the dr. was done giving it to me, i was ready to push...so i went through labour without any drugs, but had it for delivery thank god...but during labour i did use breathing exercises and they did help to a point...just use the one that you are most comfortable with...which for me was one that they taught us to use for relaxing not delivery, but it worked best for me. and i do not have a very high pain tolerance. just remain relaxed the best you can and focus on the fact that you will get to hold your baby when all is said and done, you'll get through it and know that it was all worth it in the end.

Melissa - posted on 04/16/2009

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I had an induced labor which my doctor said is more painful than a natural one. The breathing did help with early labor pains. I also recommend the epidural. It did wonders to the majority of the 21 hours of labor. The epidural itself was slightly more uncomfortable than getting an IV. I will tell you for the last few hours I was in a lot of pain. The epidural did not block the tremendous amount of pressure I felt in my bottom when she was coming down the birth canal and I was in the pushing stage of labor. It feels like you have something huge in your rectum that will not come out. Towards the end you have a burning sensation some call the ring of fire. When you feel that it is close to being over. You will push for a long time and feel like you are getting no where and that is the hardest part. You will feel so tired and be torn between needing to rest and wanting to push and push to make the sensation stop. Then all of a sudden the baby will come out and you will feel the greatest sense of physical relief and emotional rush and they put your baby in your arms. It is probably the worst pain of your life but it is so worth it. I just did it 13 days ago and while I am not in a hurry to get pregnant any time soon I would do it again. Having the support of my husband to encourage me, hold my hand, feed me hard candy and ice chips to suck on, put chapstick on my lips and put a cold wash cloth to my forehead was the best.

Jennel - posted on 04/16/2009

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Well for me im not going to lie it hurts. the breathing did help a bit, it was more the idea of distraction focasing on doing somthing else other then the pain. Relax and dont fight it let you body do what it meant to you will forget the pain as soon as you have your baby in your arms.  Good Luck.

Natalie - posted on 04/16/2009

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hiya,

I found breathing helped a lot, i had a fairly natural birth, i just used gas and air and a tens machine (loved the tens machine highly recommend giving it a go) but it helps to remember that it's your body, try not to be scared and remember that generally the worse the pain gets the nearer the end your getting ? try and stay upright and active and remember each contraction only lasts a short while and then you get a break before the next one.

also one tip that really helped me, was taking some honey, when i got tierd my husband would give me a teaspoon of honey (was easy to take as it just dissolves on your tounge more or less) and as it's pure sugar it gives you brilliant energy when your flagging.

hope all goes well

Cynthia - posted on 04/16/2009

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I birthed both my kids naturally except for using the gas (nitrous oxide). Both were very quick 12 horus and 8 hours of labour and botha short delivery 45 minutes and 15 minutes. Keep walking as much as possible and yes breathing was my mainstay, long inhales and slow long, long exhales. I went to prenatal yoga classes which taught me how to do the breathing. I felt like a total idiot, but it totally saved me and gave me something to focus on other than the pain, which can be like nothing I've ever expereinced.



I didn't want to take any drugs as I've heard that it could (not will) affect how well the baby could latch on right after birth. So that was my focus not to have any drugs. But a friend of mine just had her baby and she ended up having a c-section and had had the epidural and her baby latched on just fine in the OR. Soo, you never know, everyone is different.



Good luck with your new baby. Enjoy every minute. they really do grow up soo fast.

Nabiha - posted on 04/16/2009

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Get an epidural!!!!  You dont feel the pain and youre not worn out when its all said and done.



Good luck

Lakin - posted on 04/16/2009

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i would like to share this with you, i am fixin to be 21 years old and i have a 9 month old baby boy. this is my first child and to be honest with you, the whole time i was pregnant i was soo scared i mean literally scared of what it was going to feel like and the pain i would have to go through to have a baby but there is really nothing to it. i had a fast and easy labor anyways so that's good but i had my baby naturally with no drugs and it hurt pretty bad but not as bad as what i was expecting and after just breathing and pushing it was over in no time. so please don't be that worried because it will be ok

Sara - posted on 04/16/2009

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In my experience, the breathing did help. I think the main thing is to stay relaxed as you can. It may sound silly, but when I was having a contraction I would repeat the words "Loose as a Goose" over and over in my head, to try and help me stay relaxed. I also applied heat to my lower back during labor and sat in a chair, and that really helped. I made it to about 5 and got an epidural, so I'm not sure about the pain with delivery, although I'm glad I couldn't feel it! But just remember, women have been doing this for eons, this is what we are made to do. You can handle it! Happy birthing! :)

Sophia - posted on 04/16/2009

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Yes it hurts, breathing does help somewhat, but I found it requires discipline and your partner/labour coach/labour nurse to keep reminding you to do the breathing exercises. In my case, I had an epidural b/c I had been induced, already had 2 days of labour contractions and the baby still hadn't dropped. Epidurals are awesome.

Emily - posted on 04/16/2009

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It does hurt! I never got the hang of the breathing thing but remaining relaxed is helpful. Despite all of this and having a low tolerance for pain I got through a 29 hour and a 42 hour labor both without any drugs. Good luck and congrats

Rebecca - posted on 04/16/2009

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The breathing helps to an extent. I highly reccomend epidural. I have four kids,one was natural, the others epidural. The epidural made things much more calm, and exciting. I didn't have to dread the pain, I wasn't so worn out I couldn't enjoy my babies first minutes of life, and my hubbies hand wasn't sore from me squeezing the heck out of it. But, everyone is different and breathing may do wonders for you. Good Luck! and Congrats!

Nicole - posted on 04/16/2009

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for me it didnt i went to all the prenatal classes for breathing and i ended up doing it my own way. everyone sooths them selfs diffrent.good luck and enjoy your bundle of joy : )

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