I Miss .... From Before I Was A Mom...

Cathleen - posted on 01/04/2010 ( 160 moms have responded )

8

15

0

what do you miss looking back at your life before you were a mom.. let me know and lets see how all our answers vary and how similar they are.

MOST HELPFUL POSTS

Misty - posted on 01/04/2010

64

23

7

I miss the freedom of being able to do whatever I wanted without having to think about someone else before myself. I adore my son, but everyone gets tired and worn out.

Jen - posted on 01/16/2010

45

44

1

Actually I do miss some things...sleeping in..having people not bothering me when I go shopping~ Everyone is OBSESSED with babies!!! One good thing is being off for a year..I guess there are perks to having a baby

Tracy - posted on 01/06/2010

29

21

5

I love my daughter and would never change my life now but I miss things like getting a solid 8+ hours of sleep a night and I miss adult interaction and I miss doing things like going to a movie or going to a store and buying something for myself and having money (i'm a stay at home mom so money is tight and there is always a buget)

This conversation has been closed to further comments

160 Comments

View replies by

Maggie - posted on 10/10/2011

6

7

0

i miss my personal space. I never have any time alone. I go to the toilet with an audience, shower with an audience. Now sleep is getting harder because my son has just realized he can reach light switches, so i have him coming into our room and turning the light on in the middle of the night! I think we all have definitely one thing in common though, we wouldn't change it for the world!

Liz - posted on 03/02/2011

16

13

1

I'm only a couple weeks into motherhood but I miss sleeping a full night, only taking 1/2 hour to get ready to go somewhere, being able to go out and run errands, etc. I have been amazed at how much time taking care of a newborn really takes up. My days go by more quickly than I thought they would.

Chloe - posted on 03/02/2011

485

20

38

Being able to go the toilet.. Or just hopin in my car to go get something quickly like milk.. Things get a bit harder but well worth it :-)

Michelle - posted on 03/01/2011

4

0

0

I miss going to the loo or having a bath my little man always crys when I try and go lol.

Thepmala - posted on 02/21/2011

26

31

3

I miss taking long warm baths. Now I take quick showers and I am always thinking I hear him screaming or crying. He is a major cry baby and never sleeps peacefully.

I miss taking the time to do my hair and makeup. Now I am like a jungle gym to him while I brush my hair and try to put it in a pony tail. And I try to avoid poking my eyes out while putting on mascara and tinted moisturizer.

And I miss quiet time.

Amy - posted on 01/16/2010

221

36

24

I miss being able to watch movies and clean when I needed to. Also I miss being able to here a sermon at Church instead of always have to be in the nursery feeding my baby. I love being a mom but would love to have break every once and a while.

Nicole - posted on 01/16/2010

107

49

3

I don't miss a thing! My daughter is what has been missing in my life all these years, I wouldn't go back for the world!

Rebecca - posted on 01/16/2010

12

13

1

Tell you the truth i didnt have much of a life untill i had kaylee. I find that im still sleeping in get naps and it still dont take long to get ready so i dont miss life before

i was a mum at all..

Autumn - posted on 01/16/2010

3

6

0

not at all. before my son was born i was a terrible person and at such a young age. now i hold myself higher. spending my time watching my son grow is better than anything else i ever did. sometimes i look back and laugh but then i always look at what i have now and how much better it is and how hes made me better

Kristal - posted on 01/15/2010

33

6

0

I don't remember a time when I wasn't a mom. Well maybe when I was 4 or 5 yrs old. I was always raising kids, mine or otherwise.

Shelby - posted on 01/14/2010

6

20

0

I miss doing what I want when I want to do it!!!

but altogether I don't really because being a mother means the world to me no matter how stressed I am

Shae - posted on 01/13/2010

41

43

3

i misss being a teen and not have to worrie bout anyone but me.. but now i would never give up my son he is my life

Ugomma - posted on 01/13/2010

2

7

0

i miss my freedom ,been able go where i want without having my kids around but i will never trade married life or motherhood for anything.

Sarah - posted on 01/12/2010

145

23

1

Lol, I guess I miss sleeping uninteruptedly... although now we are are starting to get into a sleeping schedule that works for us...



And I miss being able to go out without lugging around a diaper bag, stroller, etc..



Oh, I miss grocery shopping without a crying baby, lol! It gets really difficult.



And I miss my prepregnancy weight, although I am slowly losing it.



But even with those things, I am SO much happier than I was!!!

Kelsey - posted on 01/12/2010

3

8

0

i miss being able to eat whatever i want. now i have to watch my intake so i can get rid of this prego belly faster!!

Vanessa - posted on 01/11/2010

11

2

1

I miss just getting up and leaving whenever I want too. Especially because I breastfeed I have to plan ahead and make sure I have bottles. Something as simple as going to the store was something I never thought twice about until now.

Samantha - posted on 01/11/2010

6

15

1

I miss being able to go out with family or friends.. i didnt do it much & now i never do at all... but dont get me wrong i love my son & all the time i get to spend with him

Heidi - posted on 01/11/2010

52

6

3

I think I miss most just the being able to go anywhere do anything, and like everyone has said not having to worry about packing enough diapers or did I bring the right toy etc. But I wanted to be a mom so bad so all in all I don't really miss much!

Heidi - posted on 01/11/2010

52

6

3

I think I miss most just the being able to go anywhere do anything, and like everyone has said not having to worry about packing enough diapers or did I bring the right toy etc. But I wanted to be a mom so bad so all in all I don't really miss much!

Ashley - posted on 01/11/2010

3

14

0

I miss being able to eat a good balanced diet. I am always running to grab a bottle, get clean clothes, or change a diaper just when I start to eat. Granted my child is way to young to feed or cloth himself. I love being a mom.

Leanne - posted on 01/11/2010

280

30

38

I miss nothing, absolutely nothing.. My life is basically the same as it was before I had a baby, I just need to plan a little more ahead of time now. :)



I suppose if I HAD to choose something that I missed I guess it would be how it was so easy to get ready and go out before. Now you have to get yourself ready, ready a bag, ready a stroller then ready the baby and go. Remember to double check before you go and always second guess yourself! xD

Nicole - posted on 01/11/2010

1

0

0

I miss my independence and freedom to do whatever I wanted whenever I wanted - However, like most of you are saying, I wouldn't trade having my son for anything in the world. He's the best thing I've ever done and the best thing that's ever happened to me and my husband.

Amy - posted on 01/11/2010

45

34

1

well i was prego b4 my 21st so i didnt get to experience goin out with the girls for drinks or partys. so i guess id like to experience that and i miss sleeping in and doin wat i want when i want. but my baby girl is well worth not getting to sleep long or partying. :D

Jen - posted on 01/11/2010

45

44

1

Nothing! I love being a mom..but I am also 31 so I did alot of partying & stuff when I was younger..I can't wait to have another one!

Niki - posted on 01/11/2010

46

3

0

i miss being able to go out on a whim. and how easy my relationship with my boyfriend was. but i love my life now, just working out the kinks =)

Lydia - posted on 01/11/2010

43

39

2

i miss being able to travel on a whim and sleep....ahhhh sleep! i miss hanging out with my friends and drink....i miss being able to go to school and not have to worry bout anything but school and work....but now i have my baby boy, i dont mind......i love sppending every waking minute with him...

Keira - posted on 01/11/2010

1

48

0

i miss the full nights sleep, running to the shop quickly, getting really drunk once and a while, going pub crawling with the girls every now and then

WOULD'NT CHANGE IT FOR THE WORLD THO

Keri Ann - posted on 01/10/2010

14

42

1

I would have to say the only thing I miss is sleep. However -- I'm surprised I can function as well as I do on the few hours I do get. My son is the most amazing this to ever have happened to me, and I was very ready to sacrifice my body, my youth, my sleep, and everything I have to to keep him healthy and safe.

Lissa - posted on 01/10/2010

6

66

0

My son is my world and I had a long hard road just to get him. I am so lucky he is a good boy! The lost sleep is worth it! I was ALWAYS late before him. Now that I have to be sure we have everything e might need, I am on time if not early more often! I do miss being able to run out real quick to get something we need, but being a mom makes me a little more aware of what I need to get or have done/ready. So, I would have to say that he has made me a better person! : )

Mitzi - posted on 01/10/2010

52

35

1

Having a long shower & sleeping on my stomach. After giving birth it hurts to sleep on my stomach & on my back.

Natasha - posted on 01/10/2010

362

15

33

I miss being able to spend time with my husband. But i have never regretted having a baby it has been the most amazing experience of my life!!

Octavia - posted on 01/10/2010

2

11

0

YES A HOT MEAL....BABY IS ALWAYS PRORITY NUMERO UNO...BUT BY THE TIME BABY'S 'DONE' WITH WATEVER, YOUR FOOD IS COLD, HARD, N ALMOST UNAPPITIZING. BUT WE EAT IT BECAUSE WE SKIPPED BREAKFAST TO MAKE IT TO THE DOCTORS OFFICE ON TIME (ON TIME, YEAH RIGHT) AND LUNCH....WHATS THAT? LOL....BUT MOMMYHOOD IS THE BEST ROLLERCOASTER RIDE IN THE WHOLE THEME PARK OF LIFE...

Octavia - posted on 01/10/2010

2

11

0

I MISS SLEEP, SEX, AND, OH...DID I SAY SLEEP? BUT THE SACRIFICES US MOMS ENDURE ARE WELL WORTH GUIDING THE LIFE OF OUR OWN MINI ME'S....SO THE SLEEPLESS NIGHTS, AND NIGHTLY (AND DAILY) FANTASIES ARE MINOR ISSUES

Jami - posted on 01/10/2010

15

2

0

Well we all know we love our child/ren more than anything and I wouldn 't change having them for one second. But I miss sleeping in on the weekend and not getting up at 6:30 every morning. Having to get up 3 hours before work just where I have enough time to get ready, get baby up dressed, breakfast fed, to the siiter and then to work on time. Lastly we live 8 hourd from any of out family and packing togo home is much different with a child and we have to plan when we are going to leave where it would be the easiest drive for her, we miss just packing and leaving when we want togo back home.

Trezna - posted on 01/10/2010

4

7

0

SLEEEEEEEEP... or really, just being able to wake up when I am ready, not being woken up!!! and reading...

Jennifer - posted on 01/10/2010

217

34

8

I miss being able to sit on a plane and enjoy the movie, eat the meal i paid for and relax!!!! I also miss sleeping in- I have always been a big sleeper. I miss having the time to cook breakfast on the weekends! I am so happy being a mother though and would not change it for anything! All my friends have kids now as well so I would get a bit bored partying by myself!!

Serena - posted on 01/09/2010

453

10

55

I miss being selfish! It was all about me and now its all about my children. Every thought has become about how everything will affect them...No one ever tells me anymore how well-rested I look :) But like all of you, my kids are awesome and despite how cute that new handbag with matching shoes in the Coach window looks I wouldn't trade my boys for anything.

Oh yeah can't forget about personal space..there are just some space issues kids have no concept of. Which always makes for entertainment when a guest comes over :)

Morgan - posted on 01/09/2010

68

12

3

What I miss the most is alone time with the husband! I wouldn't trade her for anything but sometimes I wish I could go back to just being with him for a day. And sleep but what new parent doesn't miss that?

Tigger - posted on 01/09/2010

8

13

0

I miss being able 2 get up and go u know just run 2 store real quick but that's about it I love my daughter and I really don't miss much from b4 being a mom I love being a mom

Delaney - posted on 01/09/2010

165

35

44

i miss sleeping as long as i want! i miss eating a hot meal! lol you all know what im talking about!

Stephanie - posted on 01/09/2010

1

23

0

Being independent! Even now when I go somewhere without my son, everyone makes me feel guilty for wanting alone time. I wouldn't change it for the world! I have all I have ever wanted!

Julie - posted on 01/09/2010

235

30

1

What I miss the most is a clean house! When all my children are out of the nest though and I have a clean house again I will probably miss the mess because it will seem so empty without my girls. I miss sex. My husband works 2 jobs and falls right into bed and goes to sleep while I'm up with my 23 month old until I can get her to sleep or waiting up for teenagers to get home. Then I'm still sleeping when my husband gets up in the morning to go to work. Sometimes it seems like we'll never have that part of our relationship back. Even on the rare occasion that I get the baby down early and we get to go to bed at the same time my husband is too tired for sex. He says it's just the phase of life we're in right now and someday it will get better. Lastly I've been missing my pre-baby body. 6 babies has really stretched it out and added a lot of weight and even though my husband says he loves me just the way I am, I don't always like what I see in the mirror. I feel old, fat and ugly. However after seeing many friends suffer with infertility and numerous miscarriages I know that I am thankful to have my 6 beautiful daughters rather than go through that. I think it's normal though to miss some things and still love being a mom.

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms