Dee - posted on 06/01/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )
I'm a new mom of a 2 week old. I currently am living with my fiancés parents because we're waiting on our trailer to get fixed up a bit before we move (we just bought it). She is driving me completely insane....
She is CONSTANTLY giving me 'advice' on how I should raise my daughter and what I should do for what...and when my baby cries, his mom grabs her and tries to calm her down. Lady, leave my kid alone. I know what I'm doing. I catch her opening our bedroom door at night to check on MY daughter. Every time she leaves the house she asks me "are you going to be okay with Lily (my daughter) if I leave for a bit?" Um.. Yes I will be okay with MY DAUGHTER if you leave for a bit. I am fully capable of handling my OWN daughter. Thanks. The other day I had a friend visit me from out of town. My friend has a 5 year old, and she was helping me with Lily a bit, My fiancés mom looked at her and said "Now, you just need to stay with them a couple more months to help with Lily" I was like holy crap, did she REALLY just say that? I responded with "I know what I'm doing" in an offended tone. She started to laugh like it was a joke and said I know you do, but you'll never be able to teach Kyle. (My fiancé) ...She basically called us both bad parents. Yesterday they were talking about bringing Lily into public. I said no, I want to wait awhile because there's no rocking chairs in public (my daughter cries...A LOT) I was making a joke....Lol. She started laughing like it was the funniest thing she's ever hear, and said "You need to learn how to handle your child"....Excuse me? Now, my daughter I'm pretty sure is colicky... She cries and cries and cries, and I try to soothe her, I do everything. I use white noise, (Which helps significantly), I try to swaddle her, (most of the time she freaks out and tries to get out of the swaddle) I rock her, sing to her, put her in her bouncer, put her in her swing, I try everything.... She is just a crier... And sometimes I ask his mom to help and watch her at night because I NEED sleep. Or in the morning. I can't go like this forever. The longest has been 5 days before I asked for her help again. Because I needed it. Bad. I went 5 days because I was trying not to ask her for help at all because I wanted her to see that I'm fully capable of handling my own daughter, but then she started to complain that I never let her hold her. Ugh Speaking of people holding her....There have been 5 different people come over this week to meet my daughter (That I did not know about; That I did not ask about; That I don't know)...and they ALLLL want to hold her. I told his mom that I did not want these certain people to hold her, she said "I don't want to hurt anyones feelings" Then she said "I will let so and so hold her" Oh. Oh,.... YOU will? YOU? Excuse me, but is she your freakin' daughter? No. She is mine. I will let her hold her if I want to. Not YOU. Which by the way, they're over here right now. She walked in the door, the first thing she said was "let me hold her" I've met this lady once... She's family, I get that. ANd I feel like a jerk for not letting anyone want to hold her, but...this is the 5th person this week to come over. Leave me the f alone. I want alone time with my daughter. Please. I'm already stressed out enough about his mom and my forever crying baby I don't need the stress of dealing with strangers. I already have social anxiety....all of this together is just driving me nuts. I do not know what to do. I want to leave but there is no where to go. Anyway, she said "Let me hold her" I told her that she's sleeping she said "I don't care, I WILL hold her" I was like.. Are you freakin' kidding me? I know, I know. I need to grow some balls, and if someone that I don't want to hold her wants to, I should tell them no. But I'm living with my fiancés parents, and they're family...I can't just say NO....Man, I'm just...I've had it with this family. If one more person treats me like I don't know what I'm doing and tries to tell me how to raise my daughter I'm going to flip on them.