Is every Mom as worried about everything or is it just me?

Imani - posted on 03/13/2010

i was worried from the first moment i set my eyes on coz he did not breath nor let out the expected first cry. jd. is now 8 months old and although the worries are not so strong as they were in the beginning, they are still there. i talked to my mom about it and she said that that is our job as mothers, to worry about their children but with time it gets better. Although my mother who has had 11 children says that the worries never go away.

Lisa - posted on 02/25/2010

Well I have a 3 year old and a 7 month old and I don't think a mother ever really stops worrying but I have just found that I need to deal with those things on my own. I worry about a lot of stuff too but germs will keep them healthier in the long run (building up the immune system). The people touching them part still annoys me to no end but I have to hold back because I really want to say to people that touch my 7 month old "Get your dirty hands off my child!" I know there are some CRAZY people in this world so the kidnapping worry I don't think will ever go away at least for me, but I just make sure that no matter what, no matter where we are, I am always within arms reach of my 3 year old and I will be the same when my 7 month old get older and walking around too. We just have to be careful, keep an eye on them and teach them (when they are old enough, of course) that they need to scream kick yell whatever they can do if a stranger is trying to hurt them or take them away from us.

Kari - posted on 02/25/2010

After reading all the above posts, I'm feeling a little better. I also, worry about everything, and was never like this until I had my son. I always used to tease my dad for being so worried all the time, but now I know how it feels. I tend to worry a lot at night, SIDS, fire, someone breaking into our house and kidnapping my son. Problem is if I wake up in the middle of the night, I can't always get back to sleep because I start thinking about all these things. I worry alot about driving, I could be the safest driver in the world, but you never know who's on the road with you. I really hope it gets better and I begin to relax a little more about things.

Serena - posted on 02/25/2010

This is part of the fine print we forget to look at when we agree to be parents. Being a parent doesn't end when they take a nap or go down for the night. I was and still am like you worrying about everything possible, I still can't watch global destruction movies (ex 2012 or knowing) without wanting to cry at one part or another. The thing is to get it under control. At first I thought my husband didn't care because when I would bring something up he would say don't worry about it, we can't do anything about it now. I thought he was heartless but eventually I saw his point. If we sit there and worry all the time we will just freak ourselves out. That won't be healthy for anyone.

It is healthy for you and your child to have some time apart and in time you will feel comfortable with this. You don't have to rush it, there's still plenty of time before senior prom LOL.

Plus he's a boy, I have learned (i have two) they are going to do somethings that make us absolutely cringe in fear or disgust (depending on the bug he's got in his hand) but I just have learned to let him be a boy, within reason. (obviously you aren't going to let him jump of the roof cause he wanted to)

Don't worry we are all here with you...

Jennifer - posted on 02/25/2010

I've been a worrier from being a young child!!! It's normal to worry being a mam and to be quite honest I'd be quite surprised if I met a mam who didn't worry!

Stephanie - posted on 02/25/2010

I am a new mommy to an almost 1 month old and I have been the same way. I feel that everything I do with her, I think what would happen if???? It's everything from germs, to getting hurt, to SIDS at night when she's sleeping! I am a teacher and teach preschool age and was a nanny for a family of 7 and never thought that I would be this way, but I think it's totally normal to feel this way especially with the first. I'm trying and starting to just trust my instincts and I think it helps to network with other mommies as well, so you don't feel so alone! I hope this helps and remember everything will be ok!

Leanne - posted on 02/25/2010

I think its normal to worry about your child, I mean your parents probably still worry about you even though you have a child of your own now.

I still worry about alot of things with my girl, she is 8 months. I hate how people keep touching her, dont ask just straight up into hers and my space to touch her.
I worry about sids, also if she is to hot or cold at night (im a very hot person and feel hotter than most on cold days). I think it comes with the territory, I think if you didnt worry at all then you wouldnt be a mum.

Jamie - posted on 02/18/2010

I worry constantly about everything too, Im a very anxious person, my baby isnt in daycare, but she does spend the night/weekend with grandma or my best friend who I trust with my life, and when my baby is at someones house for the night or weekend thats the only time I feel myself relax!

Genevive - posted on 02/18/2010

i am sailin in the same boat.i just dont trust anybody with my daughter regardless of knowin they will treat her good.i once let her sleep at my inlaws and that was my worst nightmare.i called them at 6 in tha mornin 2 bring my daughter back!she is 10 months now

Lisa - posted on 02/18/2010

Every mom worries about there child, I was horrible, my daughter is now 3months. Yes I still worry but at the begining I would just freak out and not sleep the first night I put her in her crib. Eventually everything gets better, but if the worry is interupting your life where you are not slepping and stressed. i would talk with your doctor because I have very bad anxiety and after I had the kid it got worse and I would sit up worring about everything and it just stressed me out more. they gave me mild antidepressant and has made the world of difference, it just takes the edge off and you don't have to use the rest of your life it just may help for first 3 months to let you relax. Belive me my daughter even calmed down because they stress when we do, I thought she had colic and it was just my nerves. Hope this helps.

Belinda - posted on 02/18/2010

i worry about absolutely everything...i worry about SIDS, i worry about broken glass when my idiot brothers drop it on the floor and dont clean it up properly, i worry about him playing with plastic, i worry about my son being stolen in the shopping centre so i hold onto my pram even when hes right in front of me, i dont worry so much the germs like i do worry bout him gettin sick but i let him chew on grass and leaves and stuff i know that that is what babies do. but im worried about getting in car accidents - i drive the long ways to get places because i feel that they are safer, if there is a road or an intersection i dont like i go around the long way instead, im scared of kid napping, i always lock every single door in the house when im at home alone with my son in case someone comes in and kills us or rapes me and steals my child lol... i think its just a mum thing, we all worry about different things, i let my son stay at my in laws because we lived with them for the first 7 months of his life and my mother in law was extremely helpful, i think she helped me become the mother that i am, and we now live with my parents and my mum knows my sons routine so its quite easy. it will get better, ive just eased up on the food thing, because he had an allergic reaction to cows milk protein when we first tried the formula when he was about 4mo so i went absolutely nuts about the food he ate and had a few disagreements with my mother in law about it, my son is now 9mo and i hav JUST started to ease up lol i still get upset if anyone else gives him something with milk in it because i dont want anything to happen when im not there but i give him things with a tiny bit of milk myself because i can monitor it ... things like that... in saying that ... your mother and your in law (type figure if not) are mothers themselves, they have had children and they do know what they are doing, they may not do exactly what you do but at least you know that your child is not going to die if u give them to your parents and it gives you time to yourself, if you are doing something then u tend not to think about what is going on so much, just call them every couple of hours to check up on your baby if it makes you feel better

Nikki - posted on 02/17/2010

I worry all the time.
My son Ayden is 8 months and now he is in the crusing, crawling, climbing stage and I lose my mind thinking he is going to hurt himself, but I know I need to let him learn. I know I have a little boy and there is going to be alot of bumps and bruises along the way, I don't know how Im going to be strong during those times.
I worry about people getting him sick and touching him, I kind of like now he isnt comforabtle with everyone.
We picked a daycare yesterday for september b/c we want to try for another one and I need to go back to work for a bit so I qualify for mat and parental leave again, and last night I bawled my eyes out just thinking about being away from him for the day. I worry because he has a schedule and it won't be followed. I worry that he'll be upset and hate me for leaving him or thinking Im not coming back b/c I can't talk to him and explain. Im worried because i give him the world and how can I trust these people to cater to any of his needs.
I worry too much. I always told myself I would never be a neoritic mother yeat thats all I am I just love him so much and he is my baby and he needs to be protected from any harm and if neither my husband nor I am there how can I trust things will be okay

Sandra - posted on 02/17/2010

I worry about everything too!! i FREAKED out the other day when i took her to my MIL's work. she was holding my daughter and all her work friends came by and started grabbing at her...i was sooooooo MAD

I am also worried about the whole sleep over thing. I am still trying to figure out WHY grandparents want to have their grandbabies sleep over??!!?! Please someone explain this to me? I am not allowing my daughter to sleep over at the grandparents until she is old enough to tell me she wants to. Obviously the inlaws are upset about this (my family understands) they call me a worry wort, but if she is unhappy there I will never know.

i am VERY worried about SIDS as well.

i think its normal

Brianna - posted on 02/17/2010

my daughter is 3 months old and i worry like crazy! lol

Brandi - posted on 02/17/2010

yes you will feel comfortable with all of these things over time. i too was a worry wart about EVERYTHING when my first child was born.2 years later, I had my second child and came to accept that I can't protect my child from EVERYTHING that's out there, I can only try to make sure that the HORRIBLE stuff doesn't happen. As for leaving them alone with your parents or the babysitter, it gets easier the more often you are able to do it. Good luck sounds like you are a perfectly normal first time mom lol

Jessica - posted on 02/17/2010

You will eventually worry less. I have 2 kids and I still worry about things. My daughter is 6 months old and I'm terrified of SIDS. My son is 6 years and I worry about pedaphiles. It's just a parent thing and you learn to live with it!

Caitlin - posted on 02/17/2010

My daughter is 4months old. I was worried like you were. Didnt let her sleep with blankets, didn't go out, barely saw anyone, etc. Then I realized she was ok. I relaxed and now I feel a lot better. Just take a couple deep breaths, its hard.

Good luck!