Anna - posted on 02/03/2010 ( 18 moms have responded )
Hi there. My names Anna im 18 and i have a beautiful son who is about 6 1/2 months and i just need some feedback on my situation. My partner (24) and i live on a dairy farm and since my son was born ive noticed that my partner wasnt taking to much notice of Kaleb. Like i mean he would come home from work n sit down grab a drink muck around you know n he would only hold him if i actualy gave Kaleb to his dad. Over time he has been alot better but i still find myself asking him to hold him or bath him, feed him etc. But the main problem is the work. I feel so bad that he has to work all day n all i do is sit at home, i do cook tea and house work bt i still feel useless. And then he has to come home and do stuff with Kaleb and i feel bad coz he should b relaxing. But at the same time since Kaleb was born i havnt had hardly enough help from Matt as iv needed. I thing he has cooked tea no more then 5 times in the nearly 7 months Kalebs been born and just imagine how i felt having a lil baby screaming hea i am tryna cook tea and hea my partner wouldnt even imagine what it was like.He just hasnt help me as much as i would have thought. i am a very mature 18 year old nealy mature then my 24 year old partner and i say for his age he should b doing alot more to help me. I dont need his help much now but its poor Kaleb thats missing out. Iv seen Kaleb staring at his daddy and Matt hasnt even lookd dwn to notice and wouldnt have the slightest clue and that breaks my heart.Kaleb is the one losing out on this my poor wee boy :(. And he doesnt even get how i feel for him having to work when i just lax at home all day. Its a big mess and i dnt think iv told all the story but at least this is a start. I appriciate the help..