Claire - posted on 03/12/2011 ( 83 moms have responded )
I have a 4 month old son and my partner's mum is nagging for him to stay overnight. I don't think he is too young, but I do have a few issues that i'm not sure if i'm being silly about and i'm worried it's going to start causing issues with my partner.
I guess my first is I have only met the woman a handful of times. Maybe 6 at a push. As lovely as she is, she is like a stranger to me and I would spend the whole night worrying.
He has a lot of problems. He has hirschsprungs disease and currently has a colostomy bag, and it bothers him when it starts to get full. Yet she never thinks to empty it and I think she thinks because he only pees in his nappy. She doesn't really need to change it (and thinks when he's crying he just needs a cuddle. He gets uncomfortable and there have been a few times I've had to step in). I worry that he will be there crying about it and there's nothing that I can do about it.
My partners' sister (22, who i have met less times), is always writing on Facebook to her friends about how when she gets him on her own, she will bring him round to their house which i am in no way comfortable with. I don't know these people. But if I'm not there, I won't know where he is.
My other issue is they live a good hour and half away, and I feel it's too far to be parted that far yet.
My partner thinks I'm being selfish as I let my mum have him overnight a couple of times. My mum lives about 30 seconds away round the corner and knows everything about him, his different cries, etc.
Am I being silly, or does anybody else have some solutions to this problem?