Letting baby play while I do things?

Michelle - posted on 06/17/2009 ( 24 moms have responded )

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My baby is just about 4 months old and I've been home with him since birth..I am going back to work in August he will be bout 6 months..He constantly has to have me in front of him to play...I tried putting him in play gym with toys bouncy seat with toys on the floor with mirror and things ( since he's trying to roll over) even the swing. I try to switch it up so he does not become too bored and after awhile I do go and play with him. I try to do this so I can get things done around the house and also he will be going to daycare in a couple months. When there they will not be able to sit in front of him the whole day sooo I am trying to get him to get used to playing SOMEWHAT by himself. I do realize they cant self play that much at this age! Im also trying to get him used to different things like swing and such that he doesnt really like. Is he okay if im doing things around the house and i sit him somewhere such as swing or bouncy seat! I cannot carry him or play with him ALLLLL day long..I think he's old enough to play somewhat!

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Candis - posted on 06/21/2009

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my son is 3 months old and i find it hard to get anything done as well. since the day he came home i have held him a lot ( he's my first and i'm trying to enjoy the cuddling stage while it lasts!) he is also a big baby 17lbs and its hard to carry him around all day. I find when I'm around he gets fussy when I put him down when he can still see me. When I put him in his swing or anything else to play if I'm not around he's fine and then the minute he can see me he starts to fuss. Now when his Dad comes home he can put him down and he's fine. He's also fine when left with my mom and she puts him down to play. I think a big part of it is your his Mom, babies are much more attached to their mothers at a young age. Your son may have a bit of a hard time at first going to day care but could act completely different with them just because he has a different bond with them. Not sure if this is any help, I've just found my son acts completely different with other people!

Ashley - posted on 06/20/2009

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Michelle, my daughter is 7.5 months and is very similar to your son. I find her fussiness if I leave her on the floor while I do some housework gets much worse if she's tired or teething, etc.But I have a play gym/mat, an exersaucer, etc and I have to switch her activity about every 10-15 minutes. But her attention span is significantly shorter when she's tired so I put her down for a nap and then I can do things in peace. Not sure if that helps, but at least you know you're not alone! LOL

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Michelle - posted on 06/22/2009

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Quoting Candis:

my son is 3 months old and i find it hard to get anything done as well. since the day he came home i have held him a lot ( he's my first and i'm trying to enjoy the cuddling stage while it lasts!) he is also a big baby 17lbs and its hard to carry him around all day. I find when I'm around he gets fussy when I put him down when he can still see me. When I put him in his swing or anything else to play if I'm not around he's fine and then the minute he can see me he starts to fuss. Now when his Dad comes home he can put him down and he's fine. He's also fine when left with my mom and she puts him down to play. I think a big part of it is your his Mom, babies are much more attached to their mothers at a young age. Your son may have a bit of a hard time at first going to day care but could act completely different with them just because he has a different bond with them. Not sure if this is any help, I've just found my son acts completely different with other people!



You are so very right! haha

Melissa - posted on 06/21/2009

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Quoting Lisa:

See my picture? That's how I get things done and keep baby happy.

For the record, I am perfectly able to carry my 25 pound three year old around all day long in comfort in the same carrier. I doubt your four month old is 25 lb.


my baby is really active and hates being confined to one of those ive had numerouse ones and he hates them all......and if your going to work soon the baby need to learn to self play....it can be tough till they get a hang of it....ive been very lucky and my sons been self playing since day 1.......

Cathelijn - posted on 06/19/2009

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Ok I can't really help you the only thing I can say is don't worry to much about it, My daughter always needed a lot of attention and cuddles, she really could not play on her own. I was worried because I was going back to work when she was 6 months. She has been going to daycare and is absolutly fine the first 2 weeks were very hard she cried a lot and needed to be carried around by some one all the time. Now she is actually interacting with the staff and other kids and she loves her daycare. I was really worried about her needing so much attention and I couldn't get anything done but now I am back at work I wish I was at home cuddling her. Just enjoy the time you have together and don't worry to much about the daycare. The people are there to entertain your baby all day long unlike us mums they don't need to do laundry, ironing, washing up and cleaning!

Michelle - posted on 06/19/2009

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Quoting Lorraine:

well i think it's fine to let him play. I am trying to get my baby girl in the swing, but she just gets fussy and always wants me to hold her too. I tried washing dishes with the baby in the stroller so when she gets fussy I do a round around the house that seems to quite her for a little while i finish things in the kitchen. I don't really know about activity gym is still have to stay with the baby since we have dogs.



Lorraine,



 



  I have the same problem he will stay in bouncer more then swing....He doesnt seem to like the swing that much and cries quicker....I dont know if it is just the type of swing that we have or the motion of it not sure! But yeah we use the stroller sometimes too when he gets fussy! Like I said before I have no problem holding him and playing with him through out the day I just want him to be able to do some by himelf ya know what I mean?

Lorraine - posted on 06/19/2009

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well i think it's fine to let him play. I am trying to get my baby girl in the swing, but she just gets fussy and always wants me to hold her too. I tried washing dishes with the baby in the stroller so when she gets fussy I do a round around the house that seems to quite her for a little while i finish things in the kitchen. I don't really know about activity gym is still have to stay with the baby since we have dogs.

Michelle - posted on 06/19/2009

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Quoting Lisa:

See my picture? That's how I get things done and keep baby happy.

For the record, I am perfectly able to carry my 25 pound three year old around all day long in comfort in the same carrier. I doubt your four month old is 25 lb.



Well I want my baby to get used to playing with things and entertaining himself! That will not happen well I should say wil take longer to happen if he is attatched to me all day! i've taken advice of everyone I let hiim play in bouncy and when doing laundry i go by and talk to him and then continue folding or whatever. Then i switch it up and put him in play gym...when my task is done I will take  him on the floor and play with him read him books or whatever! I have two months to break him of this before he goes to daycare....No he is not 25 lbs but close to 17lbs he was a big baby!

Minnie - posted on 06/19/2009

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See my picture? That's how I get things done and keep baby happy.



For the record, I am perfectly able to carry my 25 pound three year old around all day long in comfort in the same carrier. I doubt your four month old is 25 lb.

Michelle - posted on 06/18/2009

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Quoting Marabeth:

i like wearing my 3 mo old. any activity on my part interests her if shes awake, it relaxes her if shes sleeping and she can nurse if shes hungry.. you can get things done and still 'hold' your baby. you also dont have to spend a bunch of money on cold, inanimate objects to entertain him/her.. just 3-5 yards of good fabric.



LOL well my 4 month old is too heavy to carry around the house all day! Like I said he will be going in daycare very soon and they do not carry around babies specially all day long they DO need to learn SOME type of self entertaing! I do appreciate everyones opinions! THanks

Marabeth - posted on 06/18/2009

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i like wearing my 3 mo old. any activity on my part interests her if shes awake, it relaxes her if shes sleeping and she can nurse if shes hungry.. you can get things done and still 'hold' your baby. you also dont have to spend a bunch of money on cold, inanimate objects to entertain him/her.. just 3-5 yards of good fabric.

Michelle - posted on 06/18/2009

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Quoting Jennifer:

Hello, Michelle. It is good to leave your son in the swing by himself. You can leave him by himself any where that is safe. As long as you are in hearing distance. It is good to for him to do this. That way when you go back to work it is not so hard on him. If he starts whining when he is by himself then just leave him. You can poke your head in if he does not stop for a few minutes to let him know that you are still near. Do not pick him up unless he starts crying harder or screaming. That can be the hard part. I hate it when my kids cry, even my 6 year old. Well, good luck.
Jennifer



Yeah I know its good for him but he usually just goes right to the screaming part hahaha I know its good for him and i try really i do!

Jennifer - posted on 06/18/2009

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Hello, Michelle. It is good to leave your son in the swing by himself. You can leave him by himself any where that is safe. As long as you are in hearing distance. It is good to for him to do this. That way when you go back to work it is not so hard on him. If he starts whining when he is by himself then just leave him. You can poke your head in if he does not stop for a few minutes to let him know that you are still near. Do not pick him up unless he starts crying harder or screaming. That can be the hard part. I hate it when my kids cry, even my 6 year old. Well, good luck.

Jennifer

Michelle - posted on 06/18/2009

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Quoting Sarah:

i always do this. i've started putting a few toys in his cot in the morning when i'm getting dressed so he can learn to entertain himself. i'm not back to work till dec when my son will be nearly 11months old .. he's 4 and a half months now



I try to give him things he just cant sit there for more then a couple minutes and if he sees me forget it he will stop what he's doing and cry

Sarah - posted on 06/18/2009

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i always do this. i've started putting a few toys in his cot in the morning when i'm getting dressed so he can learn to entertain himself. i'm not back to work till dec when my son will be nearly 11months old .. he's 4 and a half months now

Michelle - posted on 06/18/2009

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Quoting Chrissy:

I work from home, have since my daughter came home, so keeping her occupied so I can work is really important. When she was 4 months I used her swing, bouncy seat (with toys), baby einstein play center, and a play mat with toys to help keep her entertained. Thankfully she's been pretty good at self entertaining. I also would always have her in the room with me (except for nap time), so I could talk to her and take breaks to play with her. He'll be fine in a secure location while you work around the house. Just stay fairly close by, so you can hear if he has a problem. There would be times that my daughter would start crying, but if I let her be for about 2 minutes, she'd start to play on her own.



Chrissy...I agree with everything your saying and I do put him in the swing/bouncy/on the floor with toys in play mat ect.....but he doesnt last that long or if he sees me walk by its like a min later or so and he's crying...He will stop if I go to play with him but if I walk away again to do something he will sometimes get really upset. It breaks my heart and I usually give in and go play with him neglecting what I was doing haha! He doesnt really self entertain that much that is what im trying to get him to do more!

Michelle - posted on 06/18/2009

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Quoting Chrissy:

I work from home, have since my daughter came home, so keeping her occupied so I can work is really important. When she was 4 months I used her swing, bouncy seat (with toys), baby einstein play center, and a play mat with toys to help keep her entertained. Thankfully she's been pretty good at self entertaining. I also would always have her in the room with me (except for nap time), so I could talk to her and take breaks to play with her. He'll be fine in a secure location while you work around the house. Just stay fairly close by, so you can hear if he has a problem. There would be times that my daughter would start crying, but if I let her be for about 2 minutes, she'd start to play on her own.



Chrissy...I agree with everything your saying and I do put him in the swing/bouncy/on the floor with toys in play mat ect.....but he doesnt last that long or if he sees me walk by its like a min later or so and he's crying...He will stop if I go to play with him but if I walk away again to do something he will sometimes get really upset. It breaks my heart and I usually give in and go play with him neglecting what I was doing haha! He doesnt really self entertain that much that is what im trying to get him to do more!

Michelle - posted on 06/18/2009

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Quoting Chrissy:

I work from home, have since my daughter came home, so keeping her occupied so I can work is really important. When she was 4 months I used her swing, bouncy seat (with toys), baby einstein play center, and a play mat with toys to help keep her entertained. Thankfully she's been pretty good at self entertaining. I also would always have her in the room with me (except for nap time), so I could talk to her and take breaks to play with her. He'll be fine in a secure location while you work around the house. Just stay fairly close by, so you can hear if he has a problem. There would be times that my daughter would start crying, but if I let her be for about 2 minutes, she'd start to play on her own.



Chrissy...I agree with everything your saying and I do put him in the swing/bouncy/on the floor with toys in play mat ect.....but he doesnt last that long or if he sees me walk by its like a min later or so and he's crying...He will stop if I go to play with him but if I walk away again to do something he will sometimes get really upset. It breaks my heart and I usually give in and go play with him neglecting what I was doing haha! He doesnt really self entertain that much that is what im trying to get him to do more!

Chrissy - posted on 06/17/2009

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I work from home, have since my daughter came home, so keeping her occupied so I can work is really important. When she was 4 months I used her swing, bouncy seat (with toys), baby einstein play center, and a play mat with toys to help keep her entertained. Thankfully she's been pretty good at self entertaining. I also would always have her in the room with me (except for nap time), so I could talk to her and take breaks to play with her. He'll be fine in a secure location while you work around the house. Just stay fairly close by, so you can hear if he has a problem. There would be times that my daughter would start crying, but if I let her be for about 2 minutes, she'd start to play on her own.

Michelle - posted on 06/17/2009

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Quoting Amber:

Yeah, it's worth it. I've bought little things here and there trying to keep her attention, but nothing would work. She gets bored easy... Oh, and I keep soft music playing as a background noise too. I'm not sure if that is helping her, but she has been doing much better by herself.



I usually put his cd's on also....This is the gym he has



Bright Starts Baby's Play Place

Stacey - posted on 06/17/2009

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my son was fine to sit in his bouncer or on his play gym and play on his own kicking the toys that hang down. if he isnt crying he should be fine to play on his own and at 4 months they are starting to look round more so you could lay alot of colour full things in front of him to keep him entertained

Amber - posted on 06/17/2009

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Yeah, it's worth it. I've bought little things here and there trying to keep her attention, but nothing would work. She gets bored easy... Oh, and I keep soft music playing as a background noise too. I'm not sure if that is helping her, but she has been doing much better by herself.

Michelle - posted on 06/17/2009

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He has a play gym but maybe i may need t get him a new one! I will look it up

Amber - posted on 06/17/2009

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Samantha was/is the same way. She wants me to hold her or play with her constantly. I couldn't get anything done. She is 3.5 months. My MIL bought her the: Baby Einstein: Seek & Discover Deluxe Activity Gym. It was like $49.99 at Babies R Us I think.It's pricey, BUT Samantha LOVES it! I was able to lay her on that thing for 40min this morning while I straighten my house. I couldn't believe it. It has things hanging down everywhere, so as she scoots across the mat, or rolls over she can see see everything. Plus, it's really colorful, which babies love.

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