Losing The Baby Weight

Miranda - posted on 05/11/2010 ( 42 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 7 months old and i've been trying for the past 5 or 6 months to lose the weight i gained while i was pregnant with her and I can't seem to shed the pounds! I did hard core exercising, slim fast, cutting out carbs and sugar EVERYTHING!! Please someone tell me there is something i can do to lose the weight!.. my husband keeps bugging me about it and i would like to lose the weight asap!

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Claire - posted on 05/24/2010

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Hi there,
I am taining to be a personal trainer and I would very strongly recommend Pilates for shedding baby weight. It is amazing for core muscle strenght and toning. A healthy weight loss is to lose 1 or 2 pounds a week, I know it seems so slow but make yourself a short term goal to get to before your long term goal, as it may take some time for you to reach your longterm goal and in the meantime the short term goal can motivate you. Make sure you get some cardio into your workouts. You need to get a well rounded training program that includes cardio, flexability(aka stretching) and resistance training/body conditioning. If you are not a member of the gym, walk....everywhere! If you want any exercise tips feel free to message me.

Em - posted on 05/25/2010

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if you breastfeed you naturally lose weight and would actually need an extra 500 calories for your baby. i gained almost 50 lbs when i was pregnant but because i breastfeed exclusively and am active with my baby, i lost 40lbs in the last 6 months. i have never been on a diet and i dont do hard core exercise. just try to eat good portions and balanced meals including carbs and sugar. i also stretch when i can because it helps like with lower back pains. i think yoga and pilates are the easiest and most fun exercise but i havent had time for them so stretching will do for now. i also do things with the baby like go for daily walks to get the mail. it just so happens we live on the 2nd floor so there are stairs. i also "wear" my baby and carry him around a lot so it's toned my arms...tell you husband it's not healthy for you to go on hard core excercise and diet. and it's not good for him to give negative reinforcement. i got really insecure with the added weight but since my husband is so supportive and tells me all the time how im a hott mama and he thinks my body is amazing for being able to do a miracle like giving birth, it made me FEEL sexy and when you feel it, you usually start LOOKING it as well. :)

Clare - posted on 05/25/2010

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Well for one I would tell him that it took 9 months to have a baby and it's going a while to shift the weight and not to hassle you. Forget the fad diets and just eat healthily. It's coming into summer so eat lots of salad and fruit. You could try a proper diet such Weight watchers or Slimming world. I lost 2 stone that way. Good luck and just enjoy being a Mum. x

Vicki - posted on 05/11/2010

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Is your husband's weight perfect? Does he look after a baby 24 hours a day and manage to fit in a trip to the gym as well as preparing perfect nutritious meals. Sorry, I think the problem here is with him not you. As long as you're eating healthy and getting some exercise he should shut the f up. Are you breastfeeding? If so it's probably not a good for your wellbeing to go on mega crash type diets. Eating healthier is fine, but don't cut out too much food. Same goes for bottle feeding really, you need the energy to care for a baby either way.

Megan - posted on 05/11/2010

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I would definatly tell my husband to kiss my ass as far as losing the baby wieght he didn't give birth to a child so tell him to shove it. As far as losing the wieght i would just keep eating right and excersise every day. I lost twenty pounds in my first month. Just keep at it and it will come off I gained 60 pounds with my little girl just remember it took your body 9 months to get that way it will take time keep your chin up

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Elizabeth - posted on 05/29/2010

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Are you breastfeeding? I only gained 19 lbs during my pregnancy, and I was only 3 lbs away from my pre pregnancy weight when I left the hospital after delivery, but then all of a sudden I started gaining, I gained 42lbs this last year, I went to the doc had my labs checked and there is nothing wrong medically, the doc said that sometime women tend to gain weight while they are breastfeeding rather than lose it. Since I have quit nusing last month I have lost 11lbs, its gonna be a long road though! Good luck

Sharon - posted on 05/26/2010

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Your hubby needs to give you a break! Making you feel bad about your weight isn't helpful to you or your relationship. If he wants you to lose your baby weight, a more productive thing for him to do is help you with the baby so you can have some "me time" and be able to work out or even just unwind. Having a healthy state of mind (you and your hubby) goes a long way in losing baby weight. I gained 45 lbs with my 1st son and did a LOT of walking with him in a front carrier. A lot of times, I would walk to the movie store and back and that was a 4 mile round trip. During my 2nd pregnancy, I ate a lot better and only gained 25. I'm still not back to my pre-baby weight, but I'm close. My hubby is very encouraging, he makes me feel good about my body and therefore I'm more apt to work at getting into shape. Another great thing to give you a "sexy" feeling/mental boost: buy yourself a sexy bra... one that really pushes your assets up "front and center" :) That's one thing about having extra weight that guys don't seem to mind: bigger breasts! :) I can really tell a difference in my confidence level when I'm wearing a nursing bra or my Victoria's Secret push-up!

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Not true. I had a C-section with my first daughter and I don't have the overhang, although I've also been unable to lose the weight, overall. I wasn't able to lose the weight after my first daughter; my doctor says my body is acting as if it is starving because my baby nurses so much, so my body is holding onto calories. He says the weight will begin to come off after the baby weans.

Charity - posted on 05/25/2010

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Tell your husband to shut up, get a jogging stroller and take the baby for a run. My midwife told us "It takes 9 months to put the weight on, It will take at least 9 months to get it off."
Do it for yourself and to be healthy for your child.. not for anyone else.

Erica - posted on 05/24/2010

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Well I just had my princess a little over 2 month and i've be working out already walking, swimming, the gym but I can't give up my sweets. I don't know why it's like when I eat I need something sweet after... I just need to watch my total intake so I can shed this weight become I refuse to buy new clothes I all new clothes when i lost 70 pounds before I was pregnant I just have to work work work harder

Tanya - posted on 05/24/2010

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First off, tell your husband that it's not helpful for him to tease you. It's only helpful for him to support you in what you CAN do. For example, will he start eating healthy with you? You're gonna have a hard time if you're eating a one cup serving of rice and chicken stir fry and he's got pizza and ice cream. I have been on weight watchers trying to lose weight. I had great success before the baby but less after the birth since I haven't been recording my foods faithfully. I think ww is a great program if you record your foods faithfully. I lost 64 pounds on ww (and gained 57 while pregnant). Also, the biggest change I made was portion control. Eat the food you want, but look at the serving size. You don't have to cut it down to that amount immediately. Just slowly reduce the amount you're eating (and increase the size of your salads if you're hungry). I think you will be unsuccessful if you try to make the change drastic. Good luck!

Melissa - posted on 05/24/2010

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Your husband obviously needs to smarten up, no offence. I gained 40 pounds in my pregnancy and just started work again after being off for a year as a stay at home mum. To be honest, I have only lost 10lbs of that weight because I gained some back (I had also quit smoking when I found out I was pregnant and that slowed my metabolism quite a bit) I was told to go and see a nutritionist because apparently even the smallest thing, that you wouldnt even know about, that your body cant handle can make you keep that weight on. It could be anything from lactose to wheat. I am lactose intolorent but since I like my chocolate once in a while and need my milk for calcium ( i wont take pills) I am probably going to have to work that much harder. I was told it takes at least the same amount of months you are pregnant to have your uterus contract down again. I am very self concious but my fiance loves how I look and always tells me I am perfect, as yours should be :)

Lauren - posted on 05/24/2010

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something that i've heard helps women lose weight is regimenting a diet plan based on your blood type. each blood type has different needs for your body and if you cater to those, rather than cutting out the obvious carbs or sugars, you might find that you lose weight faster and have more energy. there are plenty of books available to guide you, if this is something you want to explore.

Christine - posted on 05/19/2010

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I'm trying hard to lose baby weight too. My daughter is just over 4 months and the weight is coming off slowly but surely. Everybody's body is different and I've heard from others it can take 9months-1year to get your body back in shape. I enjoy running and have signed up for the Race for Life which is only 5k but it's a start. I would suggest signing up for a 5k or 10k run as it gives you something to aim for and takes the focus of losing weight. Just eat sensibly and don't deny yourself anything, everything in moderation. As for your husband, I would have a serious word with him...Having had serious issues with food/losing weight in the past, I would not stand for any man telling me to lose weight! Good luck!

Sam - posted on 05/19/2010

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your metabolism is gonna take a dive with the baby, remember that. and I was breast feeding for four months then stopped and I had not lost any of the 50lbs i had gained until just this month which is the 8month since my son was born. and then i have only lost 5lbs. I would just worry that what you are eating is healthy and that you are getting your body moving enough and ignore weight loss, it will come when it comes, and tell your husband to squeeze a watermelon through his vagina and then loss the weight, if he cant do that then bite it

Kim - posted on 05/19/2010

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first of all, your husband shouldn't be bugging you about that. he has no idea what your body went through for 9 months. it takes nine months to gain the weight, so you have to realize it might not come off so easy! lose the weight only for yourself, try watching your sodium intake, and drink lots of water. If you are happy with yourself, then tell your husband to get over it!

Deb - posted on 05/19/2010

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Like many moms here, I am angry on your behalf at what your husband is telling you. The next time HE gets pregnant, HE can lose that baby weight himself. It's not easy for everyone. My daughter is 19 months. Before her I was quite fit. Not superfit, but healthy for me at 5' 3" and 129 lbs. A lot of that was muscle. 19 months later I still have 10 lbs to go and I am much softer. At one point I only had 6 or 7 lbs to go, but with working a near-full-time desk job, doing most of the cleaning, and all the other mom tasks we women have to do, there is precious little time for exercise if I ever want to relax and go on facebook or anything self indulgent, which we all deserve now and then. So I don't beat myself up about it too much, and my advice to you is not to stress yourself out about it too much. Other than that, lots of people here have said sensible things about taking baby steps to eat a bit better and exercise a bit more or change your routine to get some cross-training benefits so your muscles and cardiovascular system doesn't get used to the same thing and cause you to plateau. Incidentally, lots of people told me the weight would "melt off" when I breastfed, and I went till 17 months, and no, the weight did not "melt off." So, I think it's your body's natural balance point plus what you eat and how you exercise, and if you can't do it all and you're not so heavy that your health is in danger, *give yourself a break*, take your time, and tell your husband what all these supportive moms are saying!

Angel - posted on 05/18/2010

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Some men arev subtle in their approach, my husband just placed a flyer for a gym in my reach. I have exercise equipment, but can't find the time. I gained 31 lbs throughout my entire pregnancy. I managed to lose 17lbs within the first 3 months. My eating habits are getting bad...time management is off track. And, I have noticed that my enegy level has decreased, because I walk maybe 2-3 days a week when walking kids to school bus. I start and stop 100 crunches maybe 2 times a week. But, with an infant, ask your husband how do you find the time, with all the cooking, cleaning, diaper changing,bathing,playtime, his playtime to focus on you and your body. Be happy with you and your body. Walking is a great way to start, but I have found that it does not happen over night-It takes between 6months- 2 years to get where you want to be weight-wise. If your husband is willing to take on all or more of chores and baby responsibilities. I can see you concentrating on your body. If not tell him to go to you know where.

Renee - posted on 05/18/2010

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Let me know what you find out.. I am in the same boat. The time I was BF I lost 30 lbs. Now nothing and she will be a year next month and I have 30 more to loose

Jenn - posted on 05/17/2010

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I hear sit-ups is the only way to lose your stomache, but I also hear that with c-secs you ALWAYS have the "over hang" :). JOY

Heather - posted on 05/16/2010

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I wish I could find out too...cause I have had a total of 5 kids but 4 csections..I only weigh 143 lbs but i Hate my stomach...everyone is asking me if i am like a month or two pregrent

Jenn - posted on 05/16/2010

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You hubs is bugging you? Tell him to gain the weight you did and see how long it takes him to lose it :D...I have been told over and over that it took 9 months to make a baby and it'll take just as long to get it off.

Hannah - posted on 05/16/2010

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It's not easy that's for sure!! My daughter is now 1yr 2 months and I am just now back to my pre baby weight!! Once the little one starts walking you'll find yourself chasing after her and loose it unknowingly!! It takes awhile but watching the scales is only going to make it more stressful on yourself... Give it time. It'll come off :)

Kathy - posted on 05/15/2010

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When I get down on myself for the lack of weight loss my hubby looks at me at says "But hunny you just had a baby!" I'm harder on me than he is. I think I got lucky though I have the most understanding & caring man I have ever met!!

Emily - posted on 05/14/2010

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My daughter is 7m old and I am about 10 pounds up from my pre-preggo weight. It was dropping by itself for a bit them just has stayed in at the same number forever now! My husband and I have taken up MMA/Kickboxing 3x a week. In 2 weeks I had lost 4 pounds! Ive cut out drinking sodas and eating deserts..and have pushed myself to eat healthy meals and snacks every 3 hours like my instructor had mentioned- it seems to work! Its going to take time and I am envious of the ladies that are stretch mark free and bounce back right away- but we all cant be that way. Sit down and talk with your husband about how long it does take just for a womans harmones to balance out..and how it is harder for women to lose extra weight. He needs to be understanding for you to feel good about yourself thus leading to your success! I wish you luck!

Meghan - posted on 05/14/2010

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im staring to do the p90x yoga i did it faithfully before i was pregnant i am really tall so i was 139 when i got pregnant and gained 40 lbs im back to 150 but like most people i have to really try for those last lbs and gotta wait for my muscles to return...

Sarah - posted on 05/14/2010

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Dont let your husband get you down about your weight! you just had a baby, he should be proud of you!. Celebs loose the weight but not eating over excersicing and no dought going under the knife! everybodys body is different youll get there in the end just eat right and excercise daily :)

Jannette - posted on 05/14/2010

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Agreed you DH needs to realize all you bo mine just look at me and says im beautiful i had his child and it happens but try long walks speed doesnt all ways do it heart rate up for a longer time!

Rishu - posted on 05/14/2010

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Hi, first of all have patience n continue some routine. On exercise part go to gym or walk or do any cardios and even do some floor exercise for toning. On Diet part control your diet eat lots n lots of fruit and vegetables. Consume everything in a liquid form like a soup. Do see some combinations of foods which u eat are not good for health so avoid them and stick to 3 rotis or breads a day and cutting out of sugar is the best part u r already doing. All the best to u and hope to achieve ur target soon... Am a mother of 3 1/2 yr old boy and I lost my baby weight within a yrs that too 30 kgs with the help of my gym instructor just by doing aerobics for 45 mins a day n walk n diet control and now am again carrying twins this time and due in Aug.

Marie - posted on 05/13/2010

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Your husband is being very inconsiderate and you should confront him about that. Even in the nicest way, you could say that you don't appreciate the pressure, and that you're doing what you can. My husband walks 3 times a week with me and baby (8months old) and we do about 9 miles a week (3 miles each time). He has been very supportive like that. He also says I'm so skinny. But, I know he's just being nice. I went from a 7/8 to a 12! I did lose 20 some lbs, but it's that last 15 lbs that I can't get rid of! Good luck.

Diane - posted on 05/13/2010

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my son is 7mths old and i have no lift to go to the gym. i know i should but i don't. the baby weight is not moving at all. your husband should encourage you and work out with you to loose the weight. that way you will work at it much harder. i'm gonna start next monday, why don't you too? lol

Kenj - posted on 05/13/2010

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Your Husband needs to reassess his attitude. Having a baby changes you. Inside and out and every way in between!! Everyones body is different and takes different times and different systems to get back into peak condition. Eat healthily, cut carbs later in the evening, exercise regularly and try to do what makes YOU feel good. You are a mother with a body designed for mothering! Take your time, do what makes you happy and until your husband carries and births a baby he has no position to judge! xx

Tamara - posted on 05/13/2010

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Im starting zumba....and Im a turbo kick instructor so im starting gettting back into it. if you can find a gym that has those i would recomend them and if not i would buy the videos they are really really fun to do.

PS my hubby asks when im going to lose the weight too. butt heads! lol

Colleen - posted on 05/13/2010

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First, you NEVER let a man put pressure on you to do anything, especially weight loss/gain. Each woman is so very different, and their abilities are immensely varied here. I gained 25 lbs. while going through all my in-vitro treatments, then 26 lbs. during my pregnancy. I lost my pregnancy weight, but still focusing on the prior weight-gain. I run 3-4 times a week with my two dogs, but other than that, as a full-time teacher, I don't have time to hit the gym, commute to work, work, spend time with my family, so on.
Remember that you can only do the best YOU can do. This man needs to be told that in no uncertain words, and remind him of the beautiful sacrifice you made to have his child!!!

Anna - posted on 05/13/2010

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i know what your talking about my daughter is 15 months old. and i gained about 65lbs with her. my husband gained some weight with me too... and the only thing he really says to be is that we both need to get on a diet... which is true ive been eating right and going to the gym i havent seen any lbs come off yet but the inches are going down... so maybe your building muscle and then the fat will come off.. ever one is different but i would talk to your doc.

Kathy - posted on 05/12/2010

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my hubby hasn't bugged me about it, and we're getting married in 2 1/2 weeks!! But he has been sorta supportive... we had went on South Beach Diet it was working but it was getting too expensive with baby & wedding expenses and the lack of a second income. I did it a few years ago and lost about 90lbs in about a year, First 2 weeks you can expect to loose between 9 & 15 lbs, I had lost 10 my first week. Its easier on your system than no carbs, and it teaches you how to maintain it as you go.

Diana - posted on 05/11/2010

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That's not very nice of your husband. Maybe you should talk to him and tell him how he is making you feel and the added presure is not helping with the weight loss. But I think it shouldn't be about how your husband wants you to look but about how you want to look & feel. As long as you're healthy and feel good then the weight doesn't really matter. Good luck!!

Ariel - posted on 05/11/2010

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I had my daughter 2 and a half, almost 3 months ago. first let me tell you I was very active before I got pregnant. I had a normal exercise rutine of running or jogging about a mile every morning. Then throughout the rest of the day I would do a total of 150 crunches and 100 pushups. then I went to tae kwon do 5 nights a week. While I was pregnant. I did pretty much nuthin and lost my muscle. I was 98 pounds when I got pregnant and 148 when I delivered. Now trying too ease back into my routine. Cutting out the tae kwon do and only running a fourth of a mile a day. I am a wonderful 102 pounds. I eat what I want and work my ass off. Once I get my muscle back I will be doin a whole lot better. You have roughly a year too get ur body the way you want it after having your baby. Good luck. You have too work for it. your wont lose it unless you do.

Jessica - posted on 05/11/2010

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i have the same problem....except that im the only one bugging myself about the weight. my bf tells me im crazy cuz it bothers me so much. my daughter is 5 1/2 months and i have lost maybe 10 or 15 pounds of the 65 that i gained.

Jenee - posted on 05/11/2010

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No its not. Everyone is different. My husband has never commented on my weight since having my son. I have gained 50lbs since I had my son. He knows that I would put him in his place right away.

Miranda - posted on 05/11/2010

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my husband has it in his head that since his sister lost the baby weight by the time her son was 4 months that everybody should lose it that quick along with all the celebrities that he's seen have babies and lose it by the time they're 6 weeks...THATS NOT REALITY!!!

Jenee - posted on 05/11/2010

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I would put my husband in place for sure if he was bugging me about my weight. I wouldn't let any man tell me what I should or shouldn't look like. Second I would talk to your doctor to see if you have some kind of medical condition that might be keeping you from loosing the weight. You have to keep sticking to loosing weight. Eating right and exercising daily. Otherwise its never going to come off. I have been hooping for about a month now and have lost 15lbs.

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