Mom is going to go crazy. I need help calming a fussy baby

Amber - posted on 04/11/2010 ( 12 moms have responded )




Hi. I have a one month old who is really hard to get along with at times. He gets fussy and nothing that I or my husband does seems to calm him down. I feed, change, burp, rock, swadle, check his temp and even try humming. Nothing works! Moms i don't know what to do. Anyone have any advice?


Bonnie - posted on 04/14/2010




Have you tried to sing to him? Hold him agasinst you skin to skin, and sing to him while rocking? Cover him with a blanket, but the skin to skin always helped calm my little guy down, still dose when he is sick too. And you will walk the hallways so often you could walk to london and back, but they love movement, reminds them of the womb in told.

Singing helped my little guy alot, and for the first few months half his naps happened in my arms. So i hoped any of this helps! Good luck Mommy!!

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Google or U tube Dr Harvey Karp. There are videos of him demonstrating various calming technics on real crying babies and explains how/why they work. He has some very helpful suggestions, plus a book and a dvd that you can order.

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Virginia - posted on 04/15/2010




My son was incredibly fussy at that age too. Nothing we did worked on calming him down. We then discovered that he wasn't getting enough breast milk at his feedings and was crying out of hunger. Maybe try extra feedings and see if it helps. Also ask your pediatircian if you could stop by for weigh-ins, in between office visits, just to make sure that your baby is gaining enogh weight.

Kristen - posted on 04/15/2010




Sometimes babies can be out of alignment. You could try taking your baby to a chiropractor. Other than that, Dr Harvey Karp is seriously the best out there!

Vashti - posted on 04/14/2010




Could it be a colic baby? Talk to your pedi about colic, sometimes it helps switching brands of formula, or use mylicon or gripe water. Also massages before bathtime with baby oil, a good rub usually tends to tire them out. And sometimes all they want is to be held or cuddled,and give them that time, they grow so fast and outgrow the need to be cuddled very soon. Goodluck.

Nadia - posted on 04/14/2010




Check out Dr Harvey Karp the author of Happiest Baby on the Block. My friend recommended this to me while I was still pregnant and the techniques worked like a charm... The second my son even began to start fussing I went to the techniques.

Good Luck!

Pollyanna - posted on 04/12/2010




Gripe water, gripe water, gripe water.
You baby is probably colicky. So was mine and the ONLY thing that worked was gripe water. I tried swadling, and shushing and name it, I tried. She was fussy until about 3 months but it gradually went away. I can deifnitely say gripe water saved my sanity though.

Brean - posted on 04/12/2010




i just try several different things, because there is not just one thing to calm my daughter down. (she is 4 weeks) feed, diaper change, burp, swaddle, rock, bouncer, swing, car ride, walking with the sling, stroller, etc. maybe he is either too hot or too cold. try a little bit of tummy time for him as well, thats pretty calming.... my sister used to put on a bathing suit, run a warm bath and lay down in the tub with my nephew on her chest. she said the water reminded him of the womb and he could hear her heartbeat. =)

Jascinta - posted on 04/12/2010




def check dr harvey karp like everyone said. but try to remember that at this age (my second is now only 6wks) sometimes they just do that- this new big world is overwhelming and so are the feelings that go with it. i know also that we as mothers sometimes tend to stress ourselves out at the time thinking 'i must be doing something wrong" etc. but remember baby can feel that stress too. stay calm, hold him close, and maybe just let him have a moment. i've found after a few minutes he'll just calm down and be happy again. oh! and i've also found this usually coinsides with him being ready for a sleep but because they aren't sure of what each feeling means at this age they will quite often get frustrated... so after a little cry in my arms (which can often feel like forever! lol) he will also calm then fall asleep. most of all though remember you are a good mum and stay calm :) best of luck...

Chelsea Cleo - posted on 04/12/2010




I remember that stage and its so frustrating and the lack of sleep doesn't help.
My daughter was the same, i guess i just didn't really know what to do and id try everything.
I think Louise's advice about Dr Harvey Karp is a good idea.

Valerie - posted on 04/11/2010




be as relaxed as you can...if you use formula consider switching if there is spitting up, gassiness, or lots of fussiness after feeding...sometimes babies need less holding to calm down..make sure not too much with lights, sounds, movements can sometimes do more to agitate..try massage with baby lotion...all the best

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