6 month old waking up at night

Shannon - posted on 02/06/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )

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My 6 month old is waking up several times a night and screams when I lay her down. Should I let her cry?

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Tammy - posted on 03/23/2010

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Shannon I know how you feel and for me it's not that my baby wakes up the couple of times a night - I don't have a problem with that part, it's that she's suddenly started to SCREAM when I lay her back down and only at night. For me the question isn't letting her cry instead of me going to get her it's when my 6 month old is waking up at night do I just let her scream or not when I put her down?

Emily - posted on 02/06/2010

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When your 6 month old is waking up at night I wouldn't let her cry. Babies cry because that is their way of communicating with you that something is wrong. Could be hunger, baby could just need a cuddle. But ignoring it is just sending your baby the wrong message in my opinion.

Bianca - posted on 04/27/2012

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Letting your child cry is not parenting... It.is.neglect. Baby is crying because.it needs you... It cohld be.as simple.as comfort. Give the love they are begging for. :)

Cathy - posted on 02/06/2010

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I found with my three littles ones at that age that if I gave them an extra bottle before bed that would help-could be growth spurt. I'm a sucker. Baby usually comes back into bed wit me at that point and falls asleep. With all three of my girls-this systematically happened from 6-7 months. Eventually each one outgrew it and I got both my Ned and sleep back!

Cathy - posted on 02/06/2010

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Ha! My 10 month old just woke up softly crying. I flipped her back onto her back, put the pacifer back in and gave her her blanket. This wouldn't have worked if it was teething or a bad head cold. She would have ended up in bed with me as it wouldn't be an isolated waking like this "should" be.

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Stacey - posted on 02/06/2010

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im a young mummie an i hve a baby whos jst turnt 1 an when she ws born an cryd all the time at nite i went an picked hur up which startd 2 be a bad idea at nite becos she jst ended up wakin up everynite cry cos she expected me 2 cum in an get hur becos it ws like a route of hurs.. so i startd at 4months which ws hrd the 1st few days 2 let hur cry whn she woke up constantly at the same time every nite an scream for 10mins then wnt bak 2 sleep she then learnt that no 1 ws cumin 2 get hur so she jst stoped cryin an wnt 2 slep.. now she sleps all nite without wakin up.. i also had givin hur a route 7pm till 7am an do not pick hur up ne time at nit only if she has done poos on hur nappies or is sick an she sticks by it now which is gud an dosnt cry at nite..

so my advice is 2 b brave an jst try 1 nite without gettin ur baby everytime she crys she will learn that its nite time an time 2 sleep..
or mayb she mite b havin a long or a few naps durin the day which wakes hur up alot..
whatever you do ull make the rite choice.. gud luck!!

Danielle - posted on 02/06/2010

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What to do with your 6 month old waking up at night depends. Some "old school" folks will say let them cry. Some new school folks say don't let them cry at all. I agree with the ones that say, do what feels right for you and your baby. There is a pretty good method out there that we used with our little one who is 6 months old. She cries for a few minutes now sometimes, usually not at night though and is sleeping from about 7pm to anywhere from 3 to 5 am.



When you lay her down and she starts crying comfort her for a moment and then leave. Let her cry for 3 minutes and then go back in there and comfort her again. Don't pick her up and don't stay in there more than a minute or so (they suggest if you breastfeed you might want to have dad go in since she probably associates you with food), comfort her with ssshhh's and patting. Leave for 5 minutes...repeat...10 minutes...repeat, stretching out the amount of time between visits.



It has worked very well for us and that was even with me comforting her (my DH works nights). She is still a bear to put down during the day sometimes but even that is getting better, she'll go to sleep ok, but doesn't stay asleep very long. She's very curious.



This method also recommends a "comfort" item like a stuffed animal or blanket for her to associate with sleep. If you cuddle with her before bedtime or naps make sure you hold it with you so she associates with sleep and cuddling, etc. Also, another tip we used that helped I found in a parenting magazine said that when you do your nightime routine (which if you don't have one, I would highly recommend, helps a lot...dinner, bath, bottle, bed is what we do) make sure to turn the lights off within 30 minutes of bathtime, but put baby to sleep the same way you usually do, rocking, nursing, etc and they said within 3 days or so the little one would go to sleep quicker and with less fuss. It helped a lot.



I know that's a lot, but I know how frustrating it is to deal with sleeping troubles. Most of the tips I got from the baby whisperer book by Tracy Hogg. She also tells you how to figure out if your baby is waking up out of habit or if they really are hungry, because obviously you don't want the little one starving but you don't want to encourage a bad habit. Mine was waking up at 1:30 almost every night. It's a habit for her. It said in the book if they're waking up at random times it's probably hunger. Also, when you're trying to get her back to sleep don't change her unless she's poopy, just comfort her as much as you can (using the method above) and it won't be long and your 6 month old will stop waking up at night. Rorie usually only wakes up now if she gets cold because she's kicked her blanket off.



Good luck and hope it helps.

Kayla - posted on 02/06/2010

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From my experience, your 6 month old waking up at night could be because she is teething. My son started sleeping through the night at 3 months and when got his first 2 teeth was when he was 6 months old. and when he started waking up through the night again I ran to his bed side and picked him up every time he woke up it was a bad Idea... cause at 6 months of age they can learn how to self soothe them self back to sleep, and by me going to get him every time he woke up to rock him or nurse him, now it is a habit for him where he thinks he needs me to get him to go back to sleep and he is now 10 1/2 months, he is starting to get better with it but it got bad where he was waking up anywhere between 2 -4 times a night because he just need to know you are there.. but what ever you do try not to pick her up , make sure she is okay .. give her back her binkie if she uses one rub her back you can sign to her , but try not to pick her up, it will just become a habit for her and then every time she awakes she will think she will need you to get her back to sleep.. I wish someone would have told me this, hope it helps!!

my son is now only waken up 1 time a night but he still insist of me picking him up..i have tried to let him cry aka the Ferber method and he just does not stop he will cry and cry until I pick him up.. its your choice but she is at the perfect age to learn how to self soothe..keep me posted , again hope this helps!

Danielle - posted on 02/06/2010

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What to do with your 6 month old waking up at night depends. Some "old school" folks will say let them cry. Some new school folks say don't let them cry at all. I agree with the ones that say, do what feels right for you and your baby. There is a pretty good method out there that we used with our little one who is 6 months old. She cries for a few minutes now sometimes, usually not at night though and is sleeping from about 7pm to anywhere from 3 to 5 am.



When you lay her down and she starts crying comfort her for a moment and then leave. Let her cry for 3 minutes and then go back in there and comfort her again. Don't pick her up and don't stay in there more than a minute or so (they suggest if you breastfeed you might want to have dad go in since she probably associates you with food), comfort her with ssshhh's and patting. Leave for 5 minutes...repeat...10 minutes...repeat, stretching out the amount of time between visits.



It has worked very well for us and that was even with me comforting her (my DH works nights). She is still a bear to put down during the day sometimes but even that is getting better, she'll go to sleep ok, but doesn't stay asleep very long. She's very curious.



This method also recommends a "comfort" item like a stuffed animal or blanket for her to associate with sleep. If you cuddle with her before bedtime or naps make sure you hold it with you so she associates with sleep and cuddling, etc. Also, another tip we used that helped I found in a parenting magazine said that when you do your nightime routine (which if you don't have one, I would highly recommend, helps a lot...dinner, bath, bottle, bed is what we do) make sure to turn the lights off within 30 minutes of bathtime, but put baby to sleep the same way you usually do, rocking, nursing, etc and they said within 3 days or so the little one would go to sleep quicker and with less fuss. It helped a lot.



I know that's a lot, but I know how frustrating it is to deal with sleeping troubles. Most of the tips I got from the baby whisperer book by Tracy Hogg. She also tells you how to figure out if your baby is waking up out of habit or if they really are hungry, because obviously you don't want the little one starving but you don't want to encourage a bad habit. Mine was waking up at 1:30 almost every night. It's a habit for her. It said in the book if they're waking up at random times it's probably hunger. Also, when you're trying to get her back to sleep don't change her unless she's poopy, just comfort her as much as you can (using the method above) and it won't be long and your 6 month old will stop waking up at night. Rorie usually only wakes up now if she gets cold because she's kicked her blanket off.



Good luck and hope it helps.

Kayla - posted on 02/06/2010

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From my experience, your 6 month old waking up at night could be because she is teething. My son started sleeping through the night at 3 months and when got his first 2 teeth was when he was 6 months old. and when he started waking up through the night again I ran to his bed side and picked him up every time he woke up it was a bad Idea... cause at 6 months of age they can learn how to self soothe them self back to sleep, and by me going to get him every time he woke up to rock him or nurse him, now it is a habit for him where he thinks he needs me to get him to go back to sleep and he is now 10 1/2 months, he is starting to get better with it but it got bad where he was waking up anywhere between 2 -4 times a night because he just need to know you are there.. but what ever you do try not to pick her up , make sure she is okay .. give her back her binkie if she uses one rub her back you can sign to her , but try not to pick her up, it will just become a habit for her and then every time she awakes she will think she will need you to get her back to sleep.. I wish someone would have told me this, hope it helps!!

my son is now only waken up 1 time a night but he still insist of me picking him up..i have tried to let him cry aka the Ferber method and he just does not stop he will cry and cry until I pick him up.. its your choice but she is at the perfect age to learn how to self soothe..keep me posted , again hope this helps!

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