my daughter passed away to sids how do i deal with this
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Erin - posted on 04/15/2010
I don't even know what to say. My fingers hover above the keys of my computer hoping that the right thing will just flow out and send you comfort. I wish there was a magic wand that took pain like this away. I'm not going to say the stupid things that everyone says, like "she's is a better place" and all that junk. Just know that whatever emotions you are feeling...feel them. If you are mad...be mad. If you want to scream...scream. Don't bury your feelings...let them out. Remember that beautiful angel that is in heaven watching over you. Remember the joy that she brought you. Remember that this pain won't go on forever.
Nikki - posted on 04/16/2010
Seville, if you are interested, there is a community of mother's here on Circle of moms, its called "mom's surviving sids" if you follow the link you will be able to chat with mother's going through the same loss as you. My heart goes out to you and your family.
Kassi - posted on 04/15/2010
I AM SO SORRY for your loss! :( Honestly there is no way to deal with a loss of a child. I haven't experienced losing a child but I have been there for those that have. All you have to remember it will get easier to live but you will never fully recover. I am deeply sorry.
Shelly B - posted on 11/23/2012
thank you everyone for ur kind words. as 4 counselling i lost im insurance after my post par was up:( i asked them if they could help me get counselling and pay for tHe med im not on b.c of depression caused by loosing my daughter. they said my husband makes 2 much money. if i wanted any help at all i had 2 file for disability! I DON'T GET IT HOW IS THAT MY ONLY OPTION.
Eve - posted on 11/22/2012
My deepest condolences for your loss. I haven't lost a child but I did lose my mum recently .... I may not have any words of comfort but I'll be here if you need to talk. Sending loads of strength your way, younwill be in my prayers. Big hug.
Andria - posted on 04/19/2010
I am so very sorry for your loss!! I cant imagine what your going through. All I can tell you is that she is in a better place right now. She is watching down on you and making sure your safe. She is watching over you and keeping you out of harms way. You will be with her again someday. Just reamember the good times you had with your Angel!!! Again I am sooooo very sorry!!!
I feel deeply sorry, what a terrible thing. All I can say is that in the beginning you just need to get through each day the best way you can. I agree that seeing a grief counselor may help. Or again if it helps go and see your priest, they can often be a great source of comfort in terrible times. When you are ready it might help with your grieving to be proactive and create something to honour your beautiful baby. A scrapbook of memories, a memorial, planting a beautiful tree. It will get easier but you will never forget.
Again I am so sorry sweetheart, words can't say enough. X
Renee - posted on 04/18/2010
i too am sorry 4 your loss, my sister lost my niece to sids at 5 months and it is very difficult 2 deal with. just don't ever try to hold your feelings in and accept any help others offer 2 give. that was my niece and i still cry 2 this day (she would've been 6 this yr) so i can only imagine how u feel. if u are spiritual (hope im not crossing the line) i would say pray and allow God 2 carry u thru...but it will definitely take time.
Joanne - posted on 04/18/2010
I'm sorry for the loss of your sweet baby girl...I can't imagine what you're going through. Everyone here pretty much suggested what I had in mind...grief counselers. They are great people and very understanding.
You and your family are in my blessings.
Myra - posted on 04/17/2010
I am so sorry for your loss. I could only imagine your pain. I had 2 miscarriages and that was horrible enough for me. But GOD is what help me through my pain. It still hurts when I think about it, but God sent me my little blessing finally. I don't know if you believe in Him or what, but He promises you will see her again in heaven, if your a believer you will see her again, and she will know her mommy. Again, I am sorry for your loss, and i hope you do turn to Him for comfort, because He is there to comfort you.
Alena - posted on 04/16/2010
i belive God had a plan for her and needed her more we can never understand why things happen but everything happens for a reason even if we dont see it. i had two miscarriages and they hurt me alot i cant even imagan what u are going threw i just gave birth to a lil girl 4 months ago and still cant panic cuz i keep having dreams about losing her its just my fear cuz i almost lost her when i was pregnant..i to a point i dont sleep just to see if she is breathing. talk to a pastor or prayer group it does help..u will never get over this but u need to still live and let your husband be there for u even tho i kno it harder on u. ill keep u in my prayers..
Nikki - posted on 04/16/2010
I am so sorry for your loss, I really cannot imagine what you are going through, it must be heart breaking, it brings tears to my eyes having to imagine anyone dealing with such a loss. Have you thought about looking for a support group for mother's? It may help you to talk to some mother's who have experienced the same loss. I know that there are some online sids family support groups if you are interested. I wish that I could hug you, I am so sorry ♥
Brean - posted on 04/15/2010
i cant even begin to imagine how you feel. i cant compare situations but my sister lost her second son, he was almost carried full term and was stillborn. I am so sorry for your loss and although my sister has never recovered or forgotten, our family and friends did help her get through it. all i can recommend is prayer. again, i am so sorry.
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