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My hubby expects sex everyday!!! Please help me!!

Erinn - posted on 04/18/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I really need help! My husband has the highest sex drive of anyone i've ever met! We have a 3 year old son and 5 month old daughter and i'm up very early everyday with 2 young children while he sleeps in (he's unemployed right now) and at the end of the day (despite my major exhaustion level) he expects me to be in "the mood" and if i'm not and just wanna get some sleep, he gets pissed off at me because he expects sex EVERYDAY and miss just one day and there's an argument ready to happen! :*( I really do love him and desperately WANT my marriage to work, but I feel like my needs (of sleep) are being totally ignored!! This is not fair to me and all I do these days is cry. Can someone PLEASE help me??

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Heather - posted on 04/18/2009

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I am now a stay at home mom with my 3 month old son...and my husband stills works full time. But we still switch on and off each night for who gets up with our son. Otherwise, if I just got up every night and never got any sleep...how would I be able to function or take care of our son to the full potential. Let your husband know exactly what you need from him. If he is unemployed he needs a temp job, which is helping you with the kids. This isn't the 1960's anymore the husbands need to help with the kids...not reason why he shouldn't work AND still get to sleep in. I'd be kicking my husbands butt if he even thought he'd be able to do that. Anyway, I hope you get some help, and some leniency from your husband on the sex everyday.

Nancy - posted on 04/18/2009

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Everyday? Okay, if that's his demand than he should at least be willing to put in the effort for major foreplay! It's time to let him know how sexy you find it when he vaccuums (yummy..) or when he's doing dishes or how hot you get when he's folding laundry (and putting it away)!!! If he wants you to put out than he better be willing to do the same. Maybe if he did more around the house he'd be less in the mood himself. I wish you the best in negotiating a resolution.

Natalie - posted on 04/18/2009

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EVERYDAY ???!!!!!! frickin heck ! my husband would have been lucky to get that pre baby when i worked full time ......let alone now with a 4 month old ! ha ha ....your husband should be thanking his lucky stars and kissing the ground you walk on that your rushing around looking after two small children and still finding time to be concerned about his needs as well !!

i agree with previous posts that you have to let him know how you feel and that if you had more help round the house you might feel a bit more sexy at the end of the day, failing all of that lovely, tell him your fine with the sex everyday thing but that it now takes you longer to get in the mood ! and part of the new foreplay you'd like to introduce is a head, shoulder and back massage, given by him... for you ! ....every night !!! .......and if he moans about that then get him a box of tissues, roll over and go to sleep !! ha ha ha ...

Tara - posted on 04/18/2009

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I agree, he needs to understand that you are tired and if there was a little more help on his side and you were able to get more rest and time for yourself, then maybe you would be in the mood more often! Funny how men don't get that lol.

Emily - posted on 04/18/2009

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Tell him you need more help with the kids, and then you might be in the mood more often. Take turns sleeping in. Tell him you're taking an afternoon off!

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