My son is 3 months old, and he won't stay sleep for more than an hour. What do we do?

Marqita - posted on 02/08/2010 ( 14 moms have responded )

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He tosses and turns after we have put him to sleep and then he ends up waking up. We can't get anything done because he needs so much attention. What's worst is that it has caused fights between my man and I cuz we are so over-tired and cranky. We are desperate for a solution. Please help!!!

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Cassie - posted on 02/08/2010

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It's most likely the 45 minute intruder.... your child has sleep cycles and after about 45 minutes of sleeping, there's a light sleep in the cycle that can make it very easy for your baby to wake up. What I learned to do was let the baby cry for about 5-10 minutes (no more than 20) and go in to check on them if they hadn't stopped (and if I've ruled out any other reason than lack of a full nap). I'd go in, tuck them back in or pick them up and calm them, then lay them back down and leave the room for another 5-10 mintues. I leave the baby in their bed for about 30 mintues before I'll go get them. Often times, my kids would be asleep before I went in to check on them the first time. After a while, they just stopped waking up and continued to sleep until their nap time was over.
I've also descovered it happens at different stages.... 3, 6, 9, and 12 months. Usually around important mile stones in the baby's development........ espeically teething.
Anyway, if you can figure out why your baby is crying, you're set 'cause you know what you need to do to fix the problem. If you don't know why, it could be their teething, sick, or just over tired.

Jennifer - posted on 02/08/2010

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Do you know if he has reflux? Some babies with reflux can't sleep very long because it burns. You could try elevating one end of his mattress/ crib to see if it helps. Babies sleep in cycles which end every 40-45mins. If your baby does not know how to self settle (thumb suck, cuddle toy, soother etc) and get back to sleep he will wake up then you pick him up then shortly he is grumpy again and the whole cycle goes on and on. My son used ot do that during the days and I had to tech him self settling. It is different from Crying it Out or Controlled criing as you do not emotional tease them etc. I highly recommend the book 'Save Our Sleep' by Tizzie Hall. It helped me big time:) It is an easy, quick read with lots of tips that make sense and it explains how to read their cries etc. I read 4 different sleep/ routine books and this one is the only one I liked. Nip it in the bud sooner rather than later.....a standing baby who won't sleep can get a bit trickier!



http://shop.saveoursleep.com.au/ecms/cat...



Good luck!

Amanda - posted on 02/11/2010

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Yes! I too swaddled both my babies with the SwaddleMe blankets and they worked wonders! I highly recommend them. Babies like to feel cozy like they were in the womb. My son even preferred being swaddled and then placed in the car seat for the first 3 months or so. We placed the whole seat in his crib so he'd slowly get used to it and the transition went just fine. He slept so much better that way. Good luck to you. Sleep deprivation is such a killer. We have another baby due soon and neither my husband nor I are looking forward to the lack of sleep those first few weeks brings!

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User - posted on 02/11/2010

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Trust me this works... Wish I read and followed the techniques in this book i would have had my son sleeping a lot longer since the beginning. We lost almost 8 weeks of sleepless nights with our son. he is now 3 1/2 months old and has been sleeping like a charm since we been using this advice. He now sleeps unswaddled with no music and in his crib for at least 8-9 hours.



The name of the book is called the happiest baby on the block. If you dont want to read the book then here it is in a nutshell...



Use the swing, swaddle blanket, pacifier.

Give the baby a nice bath then a bottle. Make sure you burp the baby and if the baby has gas mylicon is a life savor. Once that is done... turn the lights off leave a nite light on wrap the baby ina swaddle blanket (swaddle me brand/) and in the swing with the pacifier...As he gets used to the routine he will start to sleep longer. Give it a try. It can't hurt. If he is teething same routine but use orajel along with humphreys #3 teething tablets.



Keep us updated.



ps the swaddle blanket is fine it kepts the baby from stretches and overstimulating himself. Give it a try for a week or two then do without it jsut because he is getting bigger.

Harneet - posted on 02/11/2010

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i have a night routine for my baby, i make him wear a diaper, feed him and let him be in my lap for some time... and when he sleeps i put him down. and then he goes off to sleep, he sleeps at 8pm everyday and wakes up at 4:30am just for one feed. :) i know babies can make u tired, and sleepless. but plz dont feel frustrated ... if u do... it will automatically pass on to baby. just try and sooth him by giving him ur touch, for ur baby ur the only life support as of now... just be patient ... :) Lord bless and help ...

Julienne - posted on 02/11/2010

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I agree with Cassie. My little one is 5 months and during the day she sleeps for ~ 45 mins and then wakes up. I use a dummy and literally put it in her mouth and her eyes roll back in her head and she goes back to sleep. Do you wrap your little one?

During the night waking after 45 mins doesn't happen. We have low lights for feeding, quick nappy changes and classical music - there is no smilng or singing or talking at nights and she has worked out that it is night and not play time. She never wakes anymore at night. SHe is EBF and is thriving with our routine. Dummies are for sleep time only. The minute she shows tired signs she is in bed - wrapped in the cot with her dummy.
Are you rbeastfeeding? sometimes the food you are eating may be causing some tummy problems.
Good luck

Marqita - posted on 02/10/2010

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Cassie i think you might be right because my son is at the phase now where he is teething.

Marqita - posted on 02/10/2010

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jennifer all of your information was extremely helpful.. i never knew about the reflux and i plan on asking my pediatrician about it. im also going to inquire about the book. i will update you. thanks again!!

Jennifer - posted on 02/08/2010

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Also think simple and check his room to see if something could be interrupting his sleep- noise, light, too hot/cold, clothing he wears may be too tight/small. Some babies can also be clingy and you may want to try a carrier/ sling during the days.

Does he sleep well at anytime during the day or is he always a catnapper?

Sammy - posted on 02/08/2010

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Try putting him in a bouncer that has a vibration setting, or a swing =)

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