ok kinda personal but i need to find out...

Stefanie - posted on 08/08/2010

Could be an infection. I get adjusted by my chiro every month, it really helps to move the pelvic area. I also do Kegels. Trying to relax helps me alot, breathing and knowing my hubby will go as slow as I need. Talking with him and letting him know what is going on has helped him to understand it isn't easy for me and it hurts (and lube doesn't help me). My baby is 6 months, and the pain has gotten better. I told my doctor about the pain, she check the iud I have and made sure there wasn't any infections and there wasn't, my doctor told me to realx and not to worry. That helped me a lot.

Mihaela - posted on 08/08/2010

not personally but i have a friend with the same problem... it may be a wound somewhere in the vagina but it may also be the lack of (natural) lubricant, if you are breast feeding that is.... you should see a doctor and till then try use codoms or extra lubricant... it may help

Kez - posted on 08/05/2010

Im still like that and Kyria is 8 months im told it gets better just have to wait for your body to let yu be ready.

Mercedes - posted on 08/03/2010

Yes im 6mnths post partum && we've only had sex 5 times && everytime it hurts so bad i almost cry during && do afterwards!

Felicia - posted on 08/03/2010

My son just turned two months and my sex drive has been through the roof. My husband and I kept trying and it would just hurt so bad. Finally, I sucked up my self consciousness and got on top. OMG. It is a big difference. I use a lot of lube because I BF and it naturally makes it harder to become self lubricated. Try that. I hope it helps. I didn't mean to get too into detail.

Janelle - posted on 08/02/2010

I would talk to a doctor asap. I had the same thing and my doctor said it was due to an infection from giving birth. She put me on antibiotics. The pain came back (I think the infection didn't completely go away, because I had an iud) and the dr kind of dismissed my symptoms. My son is over a year old now and I am still having pain. I finally demanded some answers and found out that I have infection and it may be the same one since I gave birth! I am praying there are no long term damage from having an infection for so long

Marya - posted on 08/02/2010

I had that after I had my son 3 yrs ago. It took lots of patience on my husbands part and lots of extra lub to make is easier. Sometimes having a baby dries it out some time down there the doctor told me which causes pain. And when we experience pain down there he says we involuntaraly clinch down no matter how much we try to relax. Dont give up and I hope this helps. It will get easier aventually

Katie - posted on 08/02/2010

I had a similar problem for awhile. My doctor said that hormones and/or breastfeeding can sometimes cause it. Make sure that you have plenty of lubrication and go very slowly. It will go over over time. Good luck!

Jennifer - posted on 08/02/2010

I had a second degree tear which healed very well and after about 8 days after the stitches had came out we had sex. It hurt a little the first time but after that it was fine. Everyone is different but at 4 months post-aprtum you should see your doctor if you're still having problems.

Alicia - posted on 08/02/2010

Wish I had an answer for you however I gave birth on july first and have not had sex yet...dont plan to for a while either! good luck!

Veronique - posted on 08/02/2010

I had that problem. For me it seemed like i had closed up. But they more i thought about it the more i got scared and the more it hurt. What i did is use a lot of lub and relax. Yeah it will hurt but only for a few minutes then as soon as you relax everything else will come.......

Domitila - posted on 08/02/2010

Maybe you should do some KEGEL exercises, they help. My doctor told me i had to do them.. for the rest of my life haha you should try them :) They strenghten your muscles down there and sex will feel better

PS I still havent had sex since my baby was born but im still doing my kegels when i remember...
GOOD LUCK!

Terrell - posted on 08/02/2010

I had that prob after my twins...my OB gave me estrogen cream to apply "there" and it helped.

Taylor - posted on 08/02/2010

After i had my son,, we waited about 4 months, then started again and it hurt really bad in the beginning,, but i just pushed through it and after a few minutes it was better. It's like losing your virginity all over again!! lol

Lorraine - posted on 08/02/2010

i had a second % tear aswell and i didn't even think of sex before i felt ok down there after getting sticthes, and i tried after 3 months and yes they have to be gentle because your like a virgin again, i was still sore but you have to take it easy for a while. i think it took me 5 months before i didn't feel to much pain so it does take time to strech again not like birth so hope it get's better for ya. now it's been 3 years and not a sight of pain but i am pregnant again with my 2nd so lets hope no more tears.

Amber - posted on 08/01/2010

yeah i totally get where your coming from after i had my son the thought of sex was disturbing, i had stitches so i had to wait a good couple of weeks before even thinking about it, *we tried plenty of times before but it was TOO painful, and he could barely get in because it hurt so much.

My advice would be to try and stay relaxed as possible when he's trying to enter so your muscles aren't really tensed up, and try a lubricant too, that might help out a lot to make entry more easier and comfortable, also man on top is the easiest position to try that won't hurt you too bad in the beginning, but take it slow and at your pace it won't feel the most amazing for you when you start to get back into it it'll take time, but no worries :)

Deanna - posted on 08/01/2010

i had the same problem...i never even tried for at least 3 months and when i did it would hurt soo bad and i would give up....but i finally sucked it up and tried it again.. try using some sort of lubricant and just let him try to do it but slowly.. it will hurt.. just grab onto to something and once its in and he starts going the pain started goin away.. thats the way it was for me... just keep trying... it will hurt at first but trust me once its in the pain will start going away....

Andrea - posted on 08/01/2010

I may not be of any help cause i have the same problem. After my first i had sex a few times 6 weeks after but it hurt untill right after he got in. than t was fine for a few min but than i said rush and get out. With in those few time i got pregers with my second son. by the time i was 8 months some what of the pain had gone but than thee are the other pains of having the baby there and all. Now when i had the metal tool go inside it hurt the same way. So i think down there all neeeds time to relax.

Fiona - posted on 08/01/2010

I was exactly the same, we tried no less than a dozen times before i could go all the way - even then it hurt like hell! Took a good 8 or 9 months and as everyone else has said, a whole lot of lube, before it got pleasurable for me again. I had a 3rd degree tear too, so that's why mine what so painful. Speak to your doc just in case but it's more than likely just your body healing. Just keep trying and i promise it does get better... :)

Christina - posted on 07/31/2010

There is an article in Baby Talk I read today in the car which actually made me feel a bit more normal. It talks about some of the pain as well as the differences bf'ing and non-bf'ing mom's go through. http://www.parenting.com/article/Mom/Rel...

Lauren - posted on 07/31/2010

i started out that way too heck my daughter is 10 1/2 months and sometimes it still hurts try having your husband stick 2 fingers up there lubed and easily and slowly twist his fingers it hurts like hell at first but i helps strech it out i know how weird it sounds but it might help it helped me

Jasmine - posted on 07/31/2010

I had same issue for about 6 months.. even now that she's 8 months, we still need to be gentle. Same with both my kids. Will not last forever though. Remember what your body, not to mention your vagina has just done. Give yourself some time!

Faith - posted on 07/31/2010

try some lube. don't push to have sex. I was scared to death after i had my son to even think about sex. eventually you will get to the point that you will want to. Your partner should be understanding as well. i don't think we did anything for 6 months after i had my son. Good luck! oh and you can try extra foreplay before hand too. and tell yourpartner to ease in...not try to just push in and go at it. Even if you can ease in over time, it will help.

Kristie - posted on 07/31/2010

i have a 3 1/2 month old an when i had sex for the first time it hurt like hell we had to stop. i think is is because they had to stitch me up a little. they made my vagina hole smaller. just put it this way we only had sex 1 time cause i just can't take the pain. with my first daughter they did the same thing and an we just keep trying and it still hurt every time. but what helped a little was me being laying on my back an him on top try that.

Melody - posted on 07/31/2010

Same thing with me. I tore and the delivery doctor wasn't very careful about sewing me back up. My regular OB suggests that we re-cut the area and sew it correctly. (ow, just thinking about it) I will probably go that route but not right now....Needless to say, my husband is understanding and we have our fun in other ways until then! Have you gone in for YOUR checkup yet? If not, do it, there may be a legitimate issue. Perhaps you may need pure estrogen cream to loosen the area....good luck!

Natalie - posted on 07/31/2010

Not sure what type of delivery you had. But I had a C-section, and I breastfed my baby girl for 12 months. During those 12 months i couldn't have sex at all it hurt so bad. I did some research online and sometimes the hormones that come along with breastfeeding tend to make the lining in your vagina very thin which causes the pain. Once i stopped breastfeeding the pain went away totally. I agree with the other posts about using lots of lube and being relaxed. One thing that really helped me was going really slow, and if i felt pain then we'd stop, with him still inside me, and just wait a little. It takes a while for the pain to go away, but we got it right once or twice.
hope this helps, i know how frustrating this can be.

Amelia - posted on 07/31/2010

Hey Brooke, I know exactly how you feel. I had that problem after I had my second baby. My guess after I did lots of research about my own problems is that you could possibly have a condition called Vaginismus. It often occurs after you experience a trauma to that area. It has alot to do with your worries preventing you from being physically able to have sex. If you are so consumed with the idea that it will be painful, your body creates this block down there and all your muscles tighten making it literally impossible for penetration. My suggestion is google it, if it sounds like something you are experiencing got to your doctor and suggest the idea. Good luck girl. It does get better over time and with the correct therapies :)

Brittany - posted on 07/31/2010

I did at first. Just take it slow and make sure you're well lubricated. It's going to take a minute to get back into it and it's going to be awkward for the first couple times but it'll be ok!

Christina - posted on 07/30/2010

Kalli is 6 months now and I still have some minor pain, sometimes more than minor in certain positions. I would talk to
the doc

Kalley - posted on 07/30/2010

Have a 3 mo old and having the same problem. I had severe lacerations when giving birth so that's part of the problem but my midwife told me that because I'm breastfeeding, I'm not producing as must estrogen which results in less moisture, hence more discomfort. She gave me some Estrace cream to topically apply daily where I experience pain. Also, the anxiety of pain will cause you to naturally tighten up so she recommended having a drink to relax. (obviously to be used at your discretion). And she said to use lots of lube. Maybe see if one of these works for you. I'm going through the same thing though...

Aicha - posted on 07/30/2010

Have you seen a doctor about the pain it could be a codition called Vaginitis

Rachelle - posted on 07/30/2010

I have not had this problem, but after I had my daughter my chiropractor did this adjustment and it snapped all my pelvic bones back into place. They loosen and shift while you are pregnant and birthing, so maybe they are still out of place? Good luck!

Brooke - posted on 07/30/2010

its not just me not being lubricated it feels as tho my pelvic bone wont let anything in there like nothing should even go in there..its weird...

Amber - posted on 07/30/2010

Brooke,
I am in the SAME boat as you!! My son is almost 5 months old and sex hurts like hell! I don't even want to do it but I feel really bad for my husband. I know he wants to bc he has needs and i want to too but the pain makes me say no. I am breast feeding and all the research i have done says that some women just dry up while breast feeding. Anyway, sorry getting off track. I know this is really personal but i just found out that it helps. The lube was making it worse, making it burn when i went to the bathroom. So, my husband started to go down on me b4 having sex and that helped a ton, made me more in the mood and easier for him. I am not saying it didn't hurt but didn't hurt as much. We now have been trying to have sex once a week and that has helped a ton.

Brooke - posted on 07/29/2010

yes we use lube and an iud...i just hope it gets better! thanks!

Amanda - posted on 07/29/2010

I have not had your extreme problem, but my son is 10 months old, and it is still uncomfortable for my husband and I to have sex. It used to really just hurt. Luckily we are not there anymore, thank heavens! I have a personal question, are you guys using birth control or condoms? I am wondering if some of it could be the condoms. However, if it hurts as much as you say, I'd suggest going to the doctor.

Sara - posted on 07/29/2010

I have the same problem. Almost... it's just really tender. We have to make sure we use lube and sometimes that doesn't even help like it should. My son is 6 months old. Don't get discouraged. :)

Jennifer - posted on 07/29/2010

I tore and stuff and it hurt the first time, but then got better. I think at 4 months it shouldn't (providing u have tried a few times - like a virgin - lol), so maybe go to doc to make sure u have healed properly.

Jeannette - posted on 07/29/2010

My son is 8 months and it still hurts. Not too much during, but afterward and especially when I pee. My gyn told me that you have less lubrication when you breastfeed, so maybe that is it. Although my husband and I don't use lube (it feels wet enough) but it still hurts. It could also have to do with the type of birth control you are on.

Monica - posted on 07/29/2010

Yes, this happened to me too. It took about 6 months for the pain to start going away. With lube. Lots and lots of lube.
My Dr had nothing to say to me either, except to wait it out. And it did eventually get better. Sometimes, even 13 months later, I still feel sore but overall it's bearable now. We used a lot of non-penetrating physical relations in those painful months and only if those were going very well did we try a penetration - and I controlled the speed and depth to minimize my discomfort.

Sarh - posted on 07/29/2010

I seen in your comment on this that you are very tense! That has got to be the WORSE thing!!! RELAX!! As much as it may seem difficult to do... RELAX!!!! lol. Try lots of foreplay to get "warmed up" and more into the mood. Also, have your partner reassure you that he will be as gentle as possible. He should also check w/you before he goes any deeper, and pretty much any movement!! I know this crap sucks, I'm in the same darn boat!! Good luck! Just think it's free birth control! haha.

And like Charlotte said if you tore you have guts having sex already!! I tore with my daughter who was 9lbs 13.5oz! She also came VERY fast, I only pushed ONCE!! I however, had 64 stitches after wards, she tore me all the way to my butt (not completely though!!) and all inside as well. Even SIX MONTHS later it still made me cry!!! And I would get small tares. I'm still quiet a bit of pain after having my son 7 wks ago, and I did not tare this time!! :) I just have to continue to remind myself that my hubby will be gentle and try to enjoy myself.

Sorry if there are a few TMI parts!

Maddi - posted on 07/29/2010

did you have your 6 week checkup after the baby was born? i think you should definitely see the doctor about that. just try small at first with his fingers and lubricant. it still hurts for me sometimes too and its been 4 months also! i always thought id get looser after having a baby but it seems like im way tighter.....

Charlotte - posted on 07/28/2010

Did you tear? I had a bad 2nd degree tear (almost a 3rd degree). I had an assisted delivery and they tore me to get him out because he was in distress. I tore all the way to my bum and all the way inside, through the skin and muscle. They did a not-so-great job of stitching me up and I had sex 3 months after and it was painful when it first went in. A year later it was still quite sensitive when it first went in regardless of how turned on I was or how lubed up I was. I have a friend who is the same, she says her scar also hurts when she stands up for too long and she had her baby 2 and a half years ago! I've just had a second baby (and got another 2nd degree tear - yay.) So it remains to be seen what happens this time around. Maybe you just need to wait a bit longer.. a baby did just come out of there!! When you do try again, try to relax because that would make it hurt too. Have a couple of glasses of wine (not get trashed but enough to relax you) and take a warm bath together. If you feel the problem is in your pelvis maybe you should explain that to your dr, maybe something isn't quite right up there.

Brooke - posted on 07/28/2010

Believe me i use lots of lube! lol i am super tense tho cause im so scared of it hurting..but my doctor didnt see anything wrong... ugh

Cheyenne - posted on 07/28/2010

i have the same problem and actually this last time we had sex it hurt so bad i couldnt walk. i know i have ovarian cysts but im not sure how bad. the doc told me to use lubrication also but its doesnt work. ask ur doc and check it out.

Kara - posted on 07/28/2010

Your hormones are probably still all over the place. Are you nursing? Are you nervous or tense when having sex? You may not be lubricated enough, but regardless you should definitely see you doctor to make sure things are ok. All the best!

Sherry - posted on 07/28/2010

It could be that your vagina is more sensative now that you have had a baby, or it could be not enough lubrication. Not completely sure but if it is that painful maybe you should talk to your doctor about it.Your body is still going through changes from having the baby also maybe it needs more time.I had slight pain for months and it now is better .I know that the area can be more sensative but if it painful i would get looked after.Hope this helps you somewhat just giving you a few possibilities.