ok. my baby is six months old and still wakes up in the middle of the night.

Breanna - posted on 09/29/2010 ( 11 moms have responded )

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Sometimes she'll always want a bottle even if i feed her before she goes to bed. And when i try to let her play til she sleep it takes hours. I just don't know what to do. My mom said i was the same way. so shes not much help. my sister says to just let her cry. i tried and she didn't go to sleep. She cried forever. I need help. So please comment.

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Sarah - posted on 09/29/2010

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Honey, it's NORMAL for a 6 month old to wake during the night! Unfortunately it's just the way it is. It's the rare case that a baby will sleep right through the night at 6 months.



You have to remember, babies have small stomachs, so they get hungry more quickly. Is she breastfed or formula fed? Have you started her on solids yet? It's normal that she will be hungry during the night at this age. Try to increase her daily calorie intake - it might help, but not necessarily straight away.



Does she have a set bedtime routine? Babies thrive on routines, and having a good bedtime routine will help her learn that night time is for sleeping. My little one's routine since Day 1 has been: bath, massage, pjs, story, supper and bed. She knows what comes next and she knows that it's time to wind down for bed.



Try to avoid overstimulating her during the night too, as this only encourages her to wake more often. It doesn't mean you can't talk/look at her, but make any conversation with her very minimal.



Leaving her to cry is hard - ask any mother! Be very careful if you're thinking about using any CIO or sleep training method. While most advocates recommend not starting sleep training/CIO methods with babies until 6 months, you have to decide for yourself whether you think it's a good idea for you and your daughter.



Personally, I've always been very much against leaving a baby to CIO, but when my daughter was about 7 months and still waking 4-5 times a night, I was getting exhausted and finally decided it was time to do something about it. I used a controlled crying method with her and it worked beautifully - within 4 nights she was back to waking only once a night, and when I cut out her night feed at 8 months (she's b/f), she slept 11 hours straight and has done ever since (she's almost 10 months now).



The key thing with whatever you do, is BE CONSISTENT! Decide on an action plan, one that feels right for your family, and stick to it. When you keep responding differently (i.e. giving the bottle sometimes and other times letting her play or just leaving her to cry) it only confuses baby and actually reinforces the behaviour (waking at night), which is not what you want to do!



I can really relate to your situation and I know it's hard work! Hopefully you get something useful from this. Above all though, go with your instincts - they're usually right =)

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Heather - posted on 10/02/2010

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I tended to give both of my kids a little formula before bed even if they just ate just to give a little more. I also either played lullabies or had a fan going for noise. That way it is not completely quiet when they go to bed. My kids will not sleep well if it is to quiet.

Renae - posted on 10/01/2010

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50% of babies still need to be fed at least once during the night until they are 12 months old so what your baby is doing is perfectly normal. At 6 months the best you should expect is a 6-8 hour stretch of sleep. Yes some babies sleep for 11 hours straight, but they are the minority.



You could try dreamfeeding her. This is when you feed her at 10pm before you go to bed. Try to lift her as gently as possible to not wake her too much. Most babies can drink the bottle without waking up and this sometimes keeps them going until morning.



Most babies sleep all the way through the night when they are physiologically ready regardless of anything you do.

Nikki - posted on 10/01/2010

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my son is almost 16 months and still wakes up in the middle of the night...... at 6 months its extremely normal

Alyce - posted on 10/01/2010

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My second bub is 15 months old and still gets up some nights, when she doesn't my 2and half year old will, it gets easier to deal with. I had to let my first cry for hours while i cried when she was 9-10 months old before she slept thru before my second came along

Danielle - posted on 09/30/2010

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My son woke up every night until he was 10.5 months. It is completely normal. Give her a bottle, change her, put her back to bed. No play time, just do what she needs and back to sleep. She'll sleep through eventually and so will you :)

Ashley - posted on 09/30/2010

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My son is a little over 7 months old and every now and then he too wakes up in the middle of the night..

Sarah - posted on 09/30/2010

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My son is 12 months & STILL wakes up in the middle of the night. He USED to sleep great through the night, but at about 8 months started waking up again. Sometimes he'll sleep 11 hours straight & other times (like last night) he woke up twice. It gets VERY tiring, but just remember that it will eventually get better lol. When my son wakes up, I go in and rock him back to sleep....sometimes it takes awhile. I'm not a fan of the CIO method, because my son doesn't just cry, he screams lol. And I just hate to leave him like that. Anyway, like Sarah mentioned, just be consistent with her & try to get a very solid bedtime routine down. I don't have a very consistent bedtime routine with my son, so that's something I need to work on too. When he gets way too overstimulated, he has a hard time going to sleep that night.

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my son didn't start sleeping through the night until 8 months and still will ocassionally wake up for a bottle at night. at 6 months, don't worry about it. just give her the bottle and then put her back to bed. with her tummy full, she may cry a bit but she will go back to sleep. you could also try giving her a comfort thing, like a blanket or teddy to help her soothe hrself or at least amuse herself

Lise - posted on 09/29/2010

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My lo cosleeps with us and nurses back to sleep, but on nights when I've been sick and my husband has been in control, he keeps the room dark and doesn't talk except soothing tones and either rocks or bounces her back to sleep. It is very common for babies to still need to eat at night. I read somewhere that kids can't regulate their eating until they're 2 but I don't know if that's from a reliable source.

I'm not an advocate of any form of crying for many reasons I won't share unless you care to know, but I've heard great things about the No cry sleep solution book.

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