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Post Pardem Depression

Jackie - posted on 05/27/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I was wondering how other moms felt when the doctor told them they had post pardem depression? I have known for a little while now (about 4 months if not longer) that something isn't right and that my anger was out of control and the crying spells were not normal. This morning drew the final straw when I litterally blew up at my husband for not answering his phone. He has been nothing but supportive to me the whole time with not understanding whats wrong with me. After I hung up after leaving a HORRIBLE NASTY MESSAGE about him finding another wife I couldn't stop crying knowing I would never mean that to him. I called my doctor and told him I needed to see him or get a referral and he told me that I have post pardem depression. Now I am terrifed.. Never had a problem with depression before.. Any advice or suggestions?

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Kristin - posted on 05/27/2010

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PPD is really pretty common and NOTHING to be afraid of or ashed about. It is just a side effect of what our hormones do to our bodies and our brains.

Get a referal to a mental health professional, and ask lots of questions about any meds they offer. A support group is a huge help; you are not alone in this. Talk to your friends and family and ask them for help, even if it's just so you can take a shower or go for a walk solo. Talk to your husband and tell him what PPD is and how you feel about the diagnosis and your treatment of it. Tell him how you really feel about what you said to him.

You have a diagnosis now. You can move forward with help and your family. You are a wonderful mom and person for facing up to this and getting help.

Rebecca - posted on 05/27/2010

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Don't be scared, don't think you're a terrible mother, and don't think that you're the only one. Postpartum depression is extremely common, especially for new mothers, and the best thing that you can do - and have done - for your little one is to acknowledge there's a problem and to get help for it.

Whether or not you've ever had problems with depression really doesn't have any bearing on PPD - people who have never had a history of depression are diagnosed with PPD as well.

Find yourself a support group, or, if you're not comfortable sharing with people in front of a group, find an online forum or community for moms with PPD. You can also ask friends and family if they've ever experienced what you're going through - and let them support you. There's nothing to be ashamed of, and there's nothing to be scared of. Remember, dearie - you had a BABY. You carried an eensy-weensy little life around inside your tummy for the better part of a year, kept it safe and sound, and brought it in to the world. You've done something that's miraculous in every sense of the word - if you can bring life in to being, then you can handle PPD like it's nothing but a splinter in your thumb.

So get help. Have a friend with you and the baby if you feel like that will help; someone who can step in and give you a break when needed, or will hold your hand and let you cry when you feel like you have to. Chin up, be strong, and you WILL get through this.

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