Problem with 9 1/2 month old son

Elizabeth - posted on 11/23/2011 ( 12 moms have responded )

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I posted this in Positive Behavior Strategies, but I decided that maybe I could get some help here.

SPECIFIC PROBLEM: He is chewing on my mom's shoes while they are on her. (We live with her) Normally he chews on the laces but sometimes the sole and if there are no laces he chews on whatever he can get too. This has been going on for 2 months now and is getting worse. It is unsanitary as well as frustrating mom more and more.

He is perputally teething. Since the end of August he has cut 7 teeth and is working on 4 more right now. He chews on EVERYTHING. The steps, door frames, chair legs, coffee table, cabinent pulls, even the strip on the floor between rooms, if he can put it in his mouth he chews or even chomps on it. He has at least a dozen teethers and they all get used. The only thing I want to correct is his chewing on shoes. (He chews on others shoes too, just he favors my mom's shoes to an extreme.)

WHAT I HAVE TRIED: He knows "don't bite" and he knows that he is not allowed to chew on certain things, but he is not easily disuaded.

Distracting him with play and other things to chew on including things with shoelace type strings.

Offering him something brand new to explore.

Giving him a teething type bisquit.

Our most recent attempt is to remove him from the room everytime his mouth touches her shoe. It is a swift silent removal. He is set down and then I walk away, and sit in his path to her and try to get him distracted on his way back.

Nothing does any good, as soon as he is able, he makes a beeline straight to mom's shoes (unless he decides that someones shoes will work.)

WHAT I WONT TRY. Putting him in his walker so he can't reach her shoes. The walker is for emergency when he really wants to walk and our backs are too tired and sore from the multiple times we have helped him. We don't want him to have negative associations with it.

Same with not wanting negetive associations with his playpen. It is used in the late spring and summer almost every weekend for sleeping in because we go away.

Mom needs to keep her shoes on so removing temptation is not an option. She is the only one that always has her shoes on which may be the reason he goes to her. Even if she is up walking, there are many times that as soon as she stands still for a moment, he is right there on the shoes.

Spanking or my physically restraining him is not an option either.

I'M CONSIDERING: I'm taking into consideration putting something on the shoes which is yucky tasting, but I'm not quite sold on the idea. Besides as of right now, I can't think of anything that would be yucky tasting yet has no harmful affects to him. I'm concerned that lemon juice or vinager would be to acidic for him. (I sometimes get mouth blisters from acidic foods.)

HELP. A large chunk of my day is spent taking him away from mom's shoes. I need to find a way to train my little puppy, I mean son.

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Elizabeth - posted on 12/05/2011

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I had considered getting him one of the rope type dog toys. The only thing is, I'm not sure how much chemical crap might leach out. Same problem with the shoes too.

Kelina - posted on 12/04/2011

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Hey, i'm glad he's foud something new but if he does start trying to eat shoes again, maybe consider one of the puppy kongs. i know it sounds weird but it was my sons favortie teething toy since I gave up trying to keep him away from it after the first couple of times. Or let him pick one out in the store.

Helen - posted on 12/03/2011

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Hey Elizabeth, really glad the issue is becoming resolved, slowly but surely! :-)

Elizabeth - posted on 12/02/2011

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Fortunatly, right now he is into trying to walk and the shoe fasination has gone by the wayside, but I fear it's just temporary. Right now, when he gets close to someone, he tries to grab our hands then takes off trying to drag us with him. lol Just like he was obsessed with mom's shoes, now he is obsessed with walking.

Helen - posted on 12/02/2011

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Oh or has the health visitor got any suggestions, or a behaviourist. Doesn't have to be a serious indepth pysc session, just ask for suggestions :-) Good luck!!

Helen - posted on 12/02/2011

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Yes, love the new shoe suggestion! Fab one April! Ashley, how did you get your son to stop? I'm guessing you've already whisked him away to distract with fun and cuddles then perhaps put him on a playmat or given him a teether? I wish I could offer more suggestions, but a bit stuck Elizabeth, I really hope you get sorted very soon x

Ashley - posted on 11/24/2011

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I like April's idea. I found my sons both loved shoes too... especially my husbands work boots (YUCK) or his slippers. It was frustratingly long time to get them out of the behaviour. I wish I had thought to buy the boys textured rubber soled shoes (as both pairs they devoured were)... maybe with baby 3 I will remember April's advice :)

Elizabeth - posted on 11/23/2011

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Thank you April, that is something to consider. I wish I knew why he went after my mom's feet.

April - posted on 11/23/2011

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This may seem weird, but have you considered buying him a pair of shoes that he can chew on. Maybe there is something different about the rubber on the soles that feels good on his gums. With the other things you've tried or are not interested in trying, that's all I've got. Good Luck!

Elizabeth - posted on 11/23/2011

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Unfortunatly it doesn't matter what footwear mom wears, he wants to chew on it.

I have been using "Don't bite" since he was 5 1/2 months followed by "bite this" and handing him something he can bite on such as teethers or toys with tags or strings. Unfortunatly he is persistant. Monday I spent two hours picking him up as soon as his mouth hit mom's shoe, taking him to another room, trying to distract him as he came back by me and pulling him off her shoes again. Probably 100 times would not be an exageration. Even after she was done with her knitting and she tried to play with him, he wanted to chew her shoes.

And I had said that this has been going on for 2 months, however he's been after shoes for 3 plus months it is just that he stopped responding to redirection about 2 months ago.

Keli - posted on 11/23/2011

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My only suggestion would be,when he goes to bite the shoe give him a teething toy of somekind instead,Positive reinforcment...

~♥Little Miss - posted on 11/23/2011

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I need to wear some form of footwear in the house too....I have crappy feet from dancing in point shoes. My suggestion would be for your mother to put her shoes in a closet when she is inside, and have her where something like crocks in the house. They are easily washable. To actually get rid of the behavior, just keep taking him off the shoes saying "NO BITE" and take him somewhere to redirect his attention with some toys. That is all I got.