sex ???

Leslie - posted on 02/18/2010

I also had a bad delivery with episiotomy...we didnt try til 6 weeks and my OB gave me the ok and it killed me. We tried a few more times at 3 months only because my hubby was deploying again. HE was gone for 4 months so I assumed that I would be healed by the time he cam home. He got back and my daughter was 7 mo. It still hurt but as we worked on it for 2 weeks the pain lessened. We would have sex and then wait 2-3 days and try again. My daughter just turned 9 mo and its all back to normal. good luck!

Jennifer - posted on 02/17/2010

I had a natural birth with my first son and I had 4th degree tears plus stitching inside because some of my insidews tried to come out with my son. I stopped bleeding about 4.5 weeks after I had him and had sex for the first time at 5 weeks. It hurt the first few seconds and then was ok. It was tender inside for the next few months we just had to take it easy while having sex. But it's really just a personal thing. I was terrified that it would hurt really bad with all that I had gone thru but we used a lot of lube and he was super gentle.

Andrea - posted on 02/07/2010

I had stiches and bleed for 4 weeks - then stopped and everything was healed but I still waited until my 6 week check up - to my surprise she said I was STILL healing, just on the inside - didn't really think of that cause I was just thinking about the outside. She still gave me the go-ahead, and if it hurt told me to wait another couple of weeks. Honestly, we used a lot of lube and it still hurt at first (first 5 seconds or so, going in) - not horribly painful, but enough to kill the mood. Then it just felt neural - meaning it wasn't bad, but it wasn't good either - it just was - he finished, and I made it through - lol. We have had sex a couple of other times, and it got better - still isn't there yet, and it's been 6 weeks since the first time.

Jennifer - posted on 02/07/2010

I was given a few leaflets before I left the hospital one of which was about sex after childbirth and it stated that you do not have to wait until your 8 week check before you have sex but to use protection as soon as you resume if you do not wish to become pregnant. I had a few stitches due to a 2nd degree tear (tearing of the skin and muscle) and grazing and I had sex about 2 weeks after having Logan. The first few times it hurt a lot but now 10 weeks on from having him it doesn't hurt at all! Plus I feel so much more sensitive down there!=] Just take it slow the first few times and use plenty of lube!

Amber - posted on 02/06/2010

After your doc gives you the ok, I would wait until you feel comfortable and ready to have sex. At 6 weeks, my midwife said that I could have sex if I wanted, but I was still scared that it would hurt. So we waited. I decided I was ready around 11 weeks and it didn't hurt at all. I think that being physically AND emotionally ready are very important.

Rebecca - posted on 02/06/2010

Alright, I definitely would wait till your doctor gives you the thumbs up, they have to check and make sure you are completely healed and that your cervix has closed up completely because you can get an infection if not.
I had stiches also, they gave me an episiotomy and I tore further than that into the musle. So even when six weeks came around It was very uncomfortable for me, Also when you are breastfeeding your hormones dry you up. so I would recomend a waterbased lubricant.... and a lot of it. More than it being slightly uncomfortable you may just find that you aren't in the mood that much... at least i'm not, but when I am in the mood we go for it, and my husband is extremely Happy :)

Serena - posted on 02/06/2010

I had stitches with my second child. Sex was the farthest thing from my mind at the time I was just wondering how am I going to BM? But once that happened and it was not nearly as frightful as I thought I figured sex would be the same too. So we waited about two weeks or so and went slow at first until things felt comfortable. It all depends on you and perhaps the position. But remember birth control, unless you are planning to have one real soon. I am the walking moral of the story. I am almost 6 months pregnant with a 7 month old at home :)

Sheree - posted on 02/06/2010

I didnt have any stitches or tearing, just a couple of scrapes. But we had sex again at about 4.5 weeks as the bleeding had stopped. It was uncomfortable but didnt hurt, just the discomfort. Some people say to wait until your 6 weeks check up but others are advised to try before then so if you have any problems you can discuss it with your dr. Good luck

Chelle - posted on 02/05/2010

i had a 2nd degree episiotomy with two layers of stitching one lot on the under flesh and another lot on top to seal the skin.... my stitches got infected and had to be taken out so my wound had to heal as an open wound....wich personaly i think made it heal faster then it would have if the stitches had have stayd in. but once id finished my anti-biotics for the infection and stoped bleeding(at 4 weeks) i had sex for the 1st time.... with the help of lots of lube because i didnt know if it would be painful so the lube just helped it slip in lol....but it was fine for me after 4 weeks and i had no pain...but every body is different so only do it if you feel ready, if not just wait until your 6 week check.

Mandy - posted on 02/05/2010

They say to wait until your doctor gives you the go ahead at your 6 week post patum checkup, but I know a lot of people who feel ready and do it, with no problems.

Myself I had 42 (!) stitches and was terrified. We just went really slow, used lots of lube

(important if your breastfeeding because you'll be much drier) and it was actually really good. I finished and everything.

Good Luck!