Should we co-sleep?

Beth - posted on 07/03/2013 ( 8 moms have responded )

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I'm pregnant and already thinking ahead to when out little one arrives! What does anyone think about co-sleeping with little ones? My husband and I are kind of divided on the topic. I know he wants to keep our bed for us but I secretly want to co-sleep with our baby. Anyone with experience in this area?

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Helpful - posted on 07/07/2013

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I did not co-sleep because I was afraid of any tragic incident happening. However, I left my daughter's bassinet next to my side of the bed so if she needed anything I was right next to her. I breast fed her on a pillow in bed or a Brest friend on the glider. My daughter sleeps through the night now (she's 3 months old), super independent baby, extremely happy, & according to her pediatrician advanced. FYI: I let her sleep in the bed once based on others telling me it worked out for them. I fell asleep and, thank God, woke up just in time to help my daughter breathe. She had turned her head into the bed and was suffocating. Needless to say, I would have been devastated if anything would have happened to her so I will not be laying her in our bed again.

Danielle Elizabeth - posted on 07/06/2013

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I looove co sleeping!!! I honestly see so many benefits in my daughter from co sleeping. She has never had to awaken afraid and alone in her own bed which leads to a sense of security. When infants feel secure instead of afraid it helps lead them down a path of feeling confident to be independent . My lo is 17 months old and one of the most independent toddlers I have ever come across( it breaks my heart almost how independent she is!). You can tell she feels confident and secure which is priceless to see as a mother. She also started sleeping through the night at 1 month old which I believe is because she felt safe snuggled up to mom and dad. I also slept so soundly without the constant fear of not knowing if my daughter was ok in a different room. I'm sure it will be a little tougher to wean her into her own bed when the time is right, but honestly the positives of co sleeping totally outweighed the negatives for my family. Many cultures embrace co sleeping and I find it strange that Americans have the mindset that you need to keep your infant in a seperate room. I know I love the security of sleeping next to my husband and I love giving my daughter the same warm and cozy feeling of sleeping next to people that she loves!

Sally - posted on 07/05/2013

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It's the way humans sleep in most of the world and even here it was the norm until (depending on your socioeconomic status) 50 -100 years ago. The modern western bed can be a smothering and falling hazard for a baby, but both of those are easily fixed. Sleeping on a couch is much more dangerous for a baby than sleeping on adult bed.
Babies who sleep with mom tend to sleep better, nurse better, and cry less and co-sleeping used to ease breastfeeding can lower your SIDS risk by up to 50%. In fact, SIDS is almost unheard of in cultures where co-sleeping is the norm. Moms who sleep with their babies tend to get more sleep and that sleep tends to be more restful. Contrary to popular belief, parents almost never roll over on their babies and the ones who do are almost always drunk or stoned. (The last year I saw statistics for a total of 10 babies died that way, nine of them the parents were impaired and the tenth time it wasn't a parent.)
I bought the "safe sleep" hype with my oldest so she didn't move into my bed until she was 6 months and life got so much better for the entire family then that my youngest has never been in a crib. The important things to co-sleep safely are to limit pillows and heavy blankets and keep them off the baby; to make sure there is some sort of barrier (a wall, a bed rail, you) between the baby and every edge (or just put your mattress on the floor; and to make sure that there is no gap between any of those barriers and the mattress so the baby cannot fall between. We put our mattress on the floor away from the wall and traded our large comforter for individual smaller blankets and warm jammies. My husband was concerned at first, but once he realized he would notice (without waking) if she was next to him, he relaxed and enjoyed the snuggles and the much happier and healthier wife and baby.
Good luck

Rhiannon - posted on 07/05/2013

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Co sleeping is a personal decision but with the risk of cot death being higher it is something that frightened me. I kept my daughters cot in our bedroom which ment she was close but I felt safer x

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Danielle Elizabeth - posted on 07/08/2013

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Oh and as for the fear of rolling over on the baby, I can't exactly explain it but I had an intuition that my daughter was next to me even in my sleep . I always woke up just a few minutes prior to my daughter for feedings because I sensed she was ready to eat. Call it mothers intuition maybe but I never slept the same after having my baby and I was always aware of her presence even in my sleep!!! Amazing how nature takes over our bodies once we become mothers huh?!

Leslie - posted on 07/07/2013

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I had my daughter sleep on my chest and half way the night I move her to the crib cause I was hot. I did it till she was 4 months. Then she had her own room and she was too long and heavey to be on mom's chest anymore.

Danicia - posted on 07/06/2013

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I had our daughter in our bed for the first two months of her life. it made it SOOOO much easier for midnight feedings and I was able to sleep much better- as was she. when she started sleeping through the night (2 months old), I made the transition to her own room (starting during daytime naps). I love having the bed to just my hubs and myself but those first couple months it was WONDERFUL to have her so close to me during the night. Whenever/if ever we have baby #2, I will do co-sleeping again until baby starts sleeping through the night.

Alicia - posted on 07/04/2013

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Here is the thing... my hubby and I co-sleep with BOTH our daughters, (aged 18 months and 4 months) and he secretly loves it! Like your husband, he was unsure at first, I mean, what about sex? But you will be too tired for much of that at first anyway, and we have found that with 2 babies in a year and a half, we still are most of the time! But my babies were sleeping all the way through the night at 2 months as a result of co-sleeping, while my sisters boy who sleeps on his own was still waking multiple times at 6 months. Plus, their Dad doesn't feel like he is missing time with them if he has to work all day, because he gets to snuggle with them at night. I also feel more secure knowing that if they need ANYTHING at all, I have it right there and ready for them, so they don't have to spend any time at all crying for me. As far as the sex thing... you will find there are other times of day for that ;)

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