Should you have your child in their own bed by 6 months?
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Stasia - posted on 03/23/2009
There is no right or wrong answer. Some people will tell you it is difficult to switch babies into their own bed if they are used to being in yours and honestly that all depends on the child.
We co slept with our daughter until six months and then put her in a hammock beside our bed. Then we coslept with her again from eight months to nine and she now has her own crib for the past month. It wasn't difficult to switch her over at all.
Whatever is convenient and easy for you. Some people are against co sleeping but there are so many places in the world where this is normal. My sister in law is Japanese and just moved from Japan a few months ago. I told her that some people don't approve of co sleeping here because they are worried they might roll on top of their babies. She thought it was hillariouse because everyone where she is from co sleeps and she has never even considered it "dangerous"
Michelle - posted on 03/19/2009
I have 3 girls, ages 4, 2 and 7 months. My 4 year old slept with us until she was 3. I still sleep with my younger 2 girls. When my second daughter is about 3 (whenever I feel she is ready) she will move to a big girl bed like her big sister. I had no problem switching my oldest to her own bed. She is only 4 and she wakes me up at night about once a month, but never asks to sleep with me because she's a "big girl." It all depends how you handle the situation. I breastfeed, so it was so much easier just to sleep with my babies. I never even set up a crib for my second and third daughters. My girls are very independent and I have had no bad experiences co-sleeping. We love it. And the bonding is incredible. But of course it's not for everyone. Whatever you feel is best for your family.
Momof1 - posted on 08/02/2010
I'm not too sure about what age it is okay or not okay for children to have their own beds, but my son slept in his own crib and his own room from day one. When he is teething, he sleeps with us, because he needs to suck to fall asleep, but that's it.
I've heard from others that the older the baby is, the harder it is to get them into their own beds and bedrooms. My friends son is 1 and a half, and has problems sleeping in his own bedroom. I did hear that babies should be moved into their own rooms in 6 weeks. But mainly it is up to you and what you think works best for your baby.
Kat - posted on 08/02/2010
i put my son in his own bed at 3 months, and then his own room at 6 months. mainly because i didnt wanna have to try to break him of wanting to sleep with me when he was 3. my husband's cousin has a 2 year old who wont fall asleep unless she falls asleep on her mother. but i think it depends on the child and parent more than anything else
Terra - posted on 08/01/2010
We co-slept with my DD until she was 2 and the transition from our bed to hers took a little while but really wasn't a big deal. We simply put her in a single sized bed so I was able to lay with her at night in her bed until she was comfortable enough to be there alone. She is now 4 and is very secure and confident. We recently moved and she was able to sleep in her new room, all by her self on the very first night we were there. She wasn't scared at all because she new that if she needed us we would be right there for her just like we had been from the day she was born. We are now co-sleeping with our 8 month old DS and it is such a joy. I love snuggling in with my son at night and waking up in the morning to his amazing smile. I don't know how long we will co-sleep with him but I know that when the time comes to transition him to his own room that we will be able to do it with just a little patience and a lot of love.
Yesenia - posted on 08/01/2010
I have a nine month old turning 10 months who has slept with me in my bed since birth because i was scared about sids.. But honestly i wish i would have started him in his own bed around 6-7months because now that he is about to be ten months and i try sleeping him in his crib he screams and cries till i get him in our bed. So sepreate them when u feel comfortable but make sure they are ok and handle the transition well...Good luck and i hoped i helped!!
Serena - posted on 08/01/2010
Every child is different so though it was nice to hear so many mothers having very positive easy transitions from co-sleeping to their cribs/beds, we didn't get so lucky. I know I have no one to blame but myself, but I have difficulty with my two oldest children, my 3 year old at least once a night crawls into my bed and my younger one, 12 months needs someone to fall asleep with, he will sleep in his room on the floor but not in his crib. My daughter though does not seem to mind sleeping in her car seat carrier (she's almost 4 mos but premature). It seems to be the only place she can sleep longer than 3 hours, so like I said each child is different.
So it is completely up to you and good luck with whatever decision you make.
Sarh - posted on 07/29/2010
My son started out sleeping in our room, but in his own little bouncy seat type thing, NOT in our bed! I only did this, because I did not want him waking up his big sister (4yrs old) every 2hrs. At about 4 or 5 wks old he started sleeping 7hrs at night, so I put him in his room, which he shares w/his sister. He sleeps in his crib and is perfectly fine doing so. I think all parents should start their newborn out sleeping in his/her own crib due to the simple fact of the parents not having to struggle w/the transition further down the road....
Katrina - posted on 07/29/2010
At first my little one was sleeping in the bed with me (my husband works nights) mostly because I had a c-section so it was more convenient for me not to have to get up and go get him and then get back into bed. However, when he napped I put him in his pack and play. Then when I healed up enough after a month and a half he slept in his pack and play at bedtime and naptimes right beside my bed. I finally decided it was time to put him in his crib in his room for naptimes and bedtime when he started sleeping through the night at 4 months. I was very reluctant because I was going to miss the times we cuddled after he would wake up around 3 or 4 in the morning for a night feeding. Plus I didnt think I would be able to sleep because I would think I heard him crying so I would constantly be checking on him. So I got a video monitor that is wonderful BTW. I can hear and see his every move, day or night. He is now 5 months and still has no problem going to sleep in his crib. I have a rocker by his bed for when he wants a night feeding so I still get to cuddle with him for a little while until he goes back to sleep.
Varda - posted on 07/27/2010
I can only speak for myself - I moved all my 3 kids to their own bed around 3-4m.
I needed my space with my partner and they needed a comfortable bed.
My best friend had her boy sleep with her till 1 year and it was so hard to move him to his bed after - it took her another 2 years, we used to lough at her and say she sleeps in 1 bed with husband and a lover (-:
Mel - posted on 07/23/2010
I definately agree with Sarah Kidwell below. Everyone deal with their babies differently. What they think is right. I've been told to never have my babies sleep with us because then they will become too clingy and wouldn't want to sleep on their own bed/room. But my mother & even grandma always have their babies sleep with them so I took on their advice rather then what the experts told me. My oldest son sleep with us in & out of our bed til he was 2.5yrs old. When we felt he was ready we put him in his own bed (but still in the same room). Then just recently he went to his own room. We told him that he is now a "big boy" which he accepted just fine & proud of it too :-) He never have a problem sleeping in his own bed or even in his own room (even sleep with no light). Our 2nd son is almost 10months and lastnight we just put him in a cot for the 1st time (in the same room as his big brother) and it was the first time he slept through the night. Bare in mind my oldest son also sleep through the night from the age of 10months too. I breastfed both my boys til they're were only 6months. It was alot easier to have them sleep with us. My husband and I have very strong bonds with our boys. And our boys also have very strong bond towards each other. I guess as parents we have to make them feel comfortable, secure and lots of love. Of course when they're not well then they can sleep with us. Our oldest is almost 4yrs old now and he's very independent he has been dressing himself, brush his own teeth, even washes himself in the shower from the age of 2yrs old.
Courtney - posted on 03/23/2009
Our Daughter Sleeps Half and Half ... Depending On what Kind of Temperment she is having ... Some Nights we Will not Settle So its easyier to take her to bed With us and cuddle her to Sleep (and When she Does go to sleep with us She Settles right away ... ) but Some Days She goes right to Sleep in her Bassnet ... However She refuses her Crib ... She Hates it ... :( I think it Scares her perhaps to Big or Saculed ... however in hte Morning after My hubby Leaves for work I move her after her Feeding to our Bed ... I am Scared of Not hearing her...
whatever feels more comforable for you ! but you can always try her in the crib but roll a blanket up and Put t beside him/her to make them think you are there !
Shanna - posted on 03/22/2009
I am just transferring my 8 month old to her own bed - tonight is night 2 and she did amazingly last night. I am single so I didn't have a problem with her in bed with me. Also, with breastfeeding it's a lot easier for both of you. The only reason for transitioning her is because she will now wingle her way all over the bed and doesn't give me much room anymore lol
Ally - posted on 03/22/2009
Our daughter who just turned one yesterday still sleeps in bed with us. we are still breastfeeding so it is very convenient for me to not even have to open my eyes at night to nurse her. there is no specific time when a baby needs to be in their own bed just like any developmental milestone look at your baby's cues and work them into what works for you. my husband and i love her sleeping with us and we all get plenty of sleep ..and snuggles. :)
Lesley - posted on 03/21/2009
Whatever works for the parents - it's a personal decision and definitely one isn't more right then the other. My 5 month old daughter sleeps with me and it's not an issue with us. The only thing my husband complains about is not being able to fully stretch out on the couch. She wakes up every 1 to 2 hours at night so it's easier for me to have her right there. We should be starting her on cereals next week and once she's adjusted, I will start getting her into her own crib. She is exclusively breast fed at the moment. But I will miss having her right beside me - but it will be great to have my husband back too!
Taliah - posted on 03/20/2009
lilli slept with us from day one. we started with a co sleeper in the bed, and that didnt work, so we just laid a blanket in between us and she slept in the middle... she was a belly sleeper from pretty much day one, and i was too scared to let her belly sleep in a bassinett. it was also easier to bf when she was in bed with me! at about 5 mos she started to move around more in her sleep and scratch me with her toes and i had enough! lol so we set up the crib in our room, and i started crib training. the first day it took a couple hours of screaming and crying, but after 3 days it was no biggie at 6.5 mos we put the crib in her own room and she sleeps much better.
i have never owned a baby moniter! every one i know is like psycho with them lol unless you have a hot tub out side (or similar) and you need one to make sure they dont wake up while your outside.... but you know i dont have a hot tub.... lol and i can hear her from any room in my house she makes herself known lol
its to each their own. some do better by themselves right away some do better close to mommy!
Rhonda - posted on 03/20/2009
My baby (8 weeks) has never slept in our bed. I have her crib in our room and she is just steps away if she needs anything. I would start moving the baby to the crib gradually - have him fall asleep with you and then move him, that way he at least gets used to sleeping in the crib - even if it is in your room and you are close by if he needs you.
Tina - posted on 03/20/2009
My 3 never slept in my bed. They were in my room, in their own bed. Now if they have a bad dream or if they are sick, they are always welcomed into my bed, but I felt from day one they should be in their own safe spot. My 3 were all preemies and so I had them in a bassinet next to my bed and then transitioned to a pack and play further away from the bed then to their rooms with video monitors or baby monitor.
Sarah - posted on 03/19/2009
I'm glad to hear that co-sleeping works so well for you and that your eldest switched to her big girl bed so easily for you. I completely understand the breastfeeding thing, that is why my son spends the early morning hours with me :-) This is a perfect example of why there isn't a right or wrong on parenting and different things work for different parents and children.
Mistee - posted on 03/19/2009
My 7 month old has never slept with us. She sleeps great in her crib, & with the baby monitor I hear her right away, i would be way too worried about rolling on her or her falling off my bed.I have a few friends that let their babies or toddlers sleep with them & now (at 6 & 4) they still won't sleep unless mom is there. I agree with Sarah that there is no right or wrong, but I could not imagine my 5 yr old son sleeping with me every day, he prefers to sleep in his bed & just have lots of cuddle time with me...Babies learn things early & can get too used to things being a certain way, the longer you wait to change the patterns the harder it will be. Good luck
Sarah - posted on 03/19/2009
Personally I think that babies should be in their own beds well before 6 months. Now that doesn't mean that they can't ever sleep with their parents. My 7 month son has gone to bed in his own bed since he was a month old, but he cuddles with mommy in bed most mornings after daddy goes to work. If he is having a rough night he will sleep with us, but I want him sleeping in his own bed for the most part. I feel that the older a child is when you try to have him sleep in his own bed, the harder it is. Everybody does things their own way, and there really isn't a right or wrong, but do you want your 2, 3 or even 6 year old still sleeping with mommy and daddy every night? I don't!
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