Smoking during pregnancy

Georgia - posted on 10/04/2009 ( 122 moms have responded )

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At 5 months pregnant, i'm always getting "advice" on the horrors of smoking while pregnant. My OB says everything is fine and the baby is growing perfectly, even though i've been smoking a pack a day (really not much by smokers' standards) for the last 4 years. It's getting difficult to go out in public even with my response of "smile and say thank you". My husband is ok with my choice to continue smoking, but leaves it to me to field the comments. Any suggestions?

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Ashley - posted on 10/04/2009

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i used to smoke about a pack day. i found out i was pregnant and was so sick i couldnt smoke. i was getting severe migranes everyday so i ended up smoking 1-2 a day sometimes not even. did i feel guilty?? absolutely! it's most def easier said than done. for those who can quit cold turkey thats great BUT some people just dont have the willpower that others do. i'm not going to sit here and say that it's right and that it doesnt harm babies because i know it does. two of my friends were heavy smokers. prob about a pack a day and both of them had premature babies. one had hers at 31 wks and the other at 34 wks and it was caused from placental abruption which is an effect from smoking. when my first son was in the hospital i was asked numerous times if ismoked during my pregnancy and i was honest. i told them how much i smoked and was told by a specialist that 1 smoke a day would not harm him. now i'm not saying go out and do it but maybe try cutting down. cutting down is most def a start and smoking a lot can harm your baby. now to say that it doesnt affect the baby at all, thats just lack of education. ANYTHING you take in while pregnant goes to your baby. if that was the case we wouldnt need to take prenatal vitamins right? they wouldnt tell you what you should and shouldnt eat. everything goes to your baby. noone can tell you what to do. Ashley Jensen you are right. women who have smoked during pregnancy do get all defensive and i truly beleive it's because they are ashamed. they may not want to admit it but they are. i know i was.

Sheryl - posted on 10/04/2009

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Quoting Georgia:

i understand why you're upset...i deal with that all the time. My job was a waitress in a casino, normally in the smoking section. Since studies show that second hand smoke is much more damaging than first hand, i gave up the job i had been doing for 4 years and loved. Thank you for your concern, i hope your children are beautiful, as much as you have given up for them. It seems you gave them the best you could. Thanks to everyone who commented. Love to all.



Very nice ...You took the high road Georgia.  And yes even though I did not say it in my earlier post both my children are very healthy. But I am also very well aware that that is not the case for all babies. I did not say that it was the right thing to do.....Only that I did smoke.  It is a personal choice and ultimatlely it is a mothers right to choose.  As a mother there will be many times when your decisions will be scrutanized....Some times we make good choices and sometimes not so good ones. Be greatfull all for the freedom of choice and do the best that you can!!

Georgia - posted on 10/04/2009

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i understand why you're upset...i deal with that all the time. My job was a waitress in a casino, normally in the smoking section. Since studies show that second hand smoke is much more damaging than first hand, i gave up the job i had been doing for 4 years and loved. Thank you for your concern, i hope your children are beautiful, as much as you have given up for them. It seems you gave them the best you could. Thanks to everyone who commented. Love to all.

Christina - posted on 10/04/2009

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Im sorry if i came off as being "cruel" i understand that this is for helping moms. I just get so mad when it comes to this subject and when i came to your convo all i saw were people saying they smoked while they were pregnant and their babies were fine. So i figured i would represent those babies who are born everyday and arent fine due to smoking. I really do hope your children are healthy dont get me wrong i would never wish harm to anyone.

Sammy - posted on 10/04/2009

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All I have to say is would you light up a cigi and blow the smoke in your babies face after s/he is born?? Smoking while pregnant is exactly the same thing!

Ashley - posted on 10/04/2009

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I was not being nasty. Everyone who is pro-smoking while pregnant seems to be pretty defensive. I was saying my opinion and why I feel that way. If you have an issue with other people's opinions that may be different than yours, then you shouldn't be bragging that you smoke while you are pregnant.

Emma - posted on 10/04/2009

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i just want to say to everyone who hasnt got anyting encouraging or helpful to say: PISS OFF!!!!!!!!fair enough we all have different views but there is no need to be nasty. try and be helpful or jus dont say anything! i think its ok to smoke when your pregnant so shoot me then!

Brooke - posted on 10/04/2009

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I dont understand what is wrong with some women!!! I wouldn't go anywhere near a person who smoked, I wouldn't dring a drop of alcohol not even eat a cherry ripe!!! I wouldn't drink coke, coffee or tes!!

I think you people need a reality check and need to stop being so idiotic.. the fact that any of you would endager the life of an unborn child is sicking!!!

Ashley - posted on 10/04/2009

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This does bother me. My grandma smoked when she was pregnant with my dad, and he was a small baby and developed asthma, which are the most common and less severe of the consequences. My husband was a small baby, over two pounds lighter than his sister at birth because his mom didn't want to stop smoking. There are just so many proven facts that it can and usually does so much harm. Since this forum is for discussion, I will say that I think it is very selfish to smoke knowing there is a high chance of harming your baby. I loved my coffee, chocolate, and tea, but I valued my son more than what I liked to do. I really hope you change your mind on this. As a previous smoker, I found that cigarettes only temporarily make you feel better. And it isn't just your life like I hear so many say who smoke, drink, and do drugs during pregnancy. Just think of it as EVERYTHING you put in your body goes to your baby first. That's how I thought while I was pregnant. I really hope your baby will be healthy. And really, for everyone glorifying it by saying your babies are healthy does not excuse it. There are so many babies that are not ok because of smoking.

Georgia - posted on 10/04/2009

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thanks christina. i truly do understand the risks involved with smoking right now. i research everything well ahead of time and am not one to take risks without knowing what the outcome might be. i had an aunt who did almost every drug known to man during her 4 pregnancies, and every one was born with a major disfunction, from needing a tube in his brain because the fluid wouldn't drain right, to being mostly deaf, to autism. i found every smoking article i could and read all the books i could get my hands on, and asked every person close to me for advice, before i decided that as high strung as i am, with my clinical depression, and with a previous miscarriage a year ago, as well as problems with my husband, that smoking was one of the least likeliest things to hurt my unborn child and would keep my nerves at a safe level, since i had to give up my job, sports, sex, most friends, and most of my outdoor activities up in order to make this as safe a pregnancy as possible for me. I believe that one bad habit is not going to do that much damage after all i HAVE given up

Christine - posted on 10/04/2009

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i didnt smoke or drink or do drugs, drink green tea or caffeine. i only ate the recommended amount of fish and watched my diet. i went off all of the meds i take for bipolar disorder and anxiety for three months before we concieved. i did this because i didnt want there to be any chance that i could hurt my baby. it was hard, but i did it. i think that it is your choice what you do with your body and that you have every right to let everyone know that. but it sucks that you are taking a chance, even a chance, at having a low-birthweight, preterm, or otherwise unhealthy baby. good luck to you. i hope that you have beautiful baby.

Natalie - posted on 10/04/2009

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thanks christina i asnt going to waste my breath and post a reply to that one. and i agree this ite is meant to encourage mums not put them down!!!

Emma - posted on 10/04/2009

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ahh hang on christina.i think ur in the wrong place.this is a site to help mums n pregnant women..honestly ur comment is just cruel.if u want to go and be a cow to people then go somewhere else.ur meant to help n encourge mums not put them down. and hey if u havent got anything nice to say then dont say anything at all!!!

Christina - posted on 10/04/2009

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Well thank god that you have 2 healthy babies. It just upsets me that a mom would put her wants over her babies needs. I smoked before i was pregnant so im not gonna feel bad for you because you were addicted. People quit everyday and their couldnt be a better time to do so than when your pregnant. I know the risks of smoking while pregnant and just because your child appeared healthy when born does not mean they wont get something when they grow up. God bless you and your children.

Natalie - posted on 10/04/2009

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dont worry about anyone!!!its your choice!! i smoked all through being pregnant with my son and he wieghed a healthy 9pound when born. had his first 2 teeth at 4mths and is doing fine. i am pregnant again and yes still smoking and yes get looks from people and crap from doctors and midwifes but it is my choice and i just ignore them all...

Emma - posted on 10/04/2009

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i have smoked for 6 years and had 2 nice fat babies.i smoked about a pack a day or more.people used to glare at me because i was yound and smoking but i dont really think it affects the baby at all.i mean unless u have health problems then smoking isnt good but hey alot of mums have smoked in pregnancy and have had healthy babies.dont give up jus beacause people are glaring at u.just ignore them hey.it might be hard but they have no right to stare or comment on it.

Iysha - posted on 10/04/2009

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You know, I never smoked in my life, but just with the second hand smoke from my boyfriend, I had problems in my 33rd week of pregnancy. I had sex one night with my boyfriend and started bleeding a whole lot. I had an ultrasound and everything looked fine. All through my pregnancy everything looked fine. At 33 weeks, I went into preterm labor and luckily it was stopped. I found out at that time that my placenta was aging faster than it should have been which is common for smokers, drug users and older women (I'm 21). I was in the hospital for 9 days and on bedrest for 4 days before I went into preterm labor again. My baby spent almost all of her first month in the Hospital NICU. It was torture not being able to take my little girl home. If I would have known this, I would have stayed as far away from my boyfriend during my pregnancy. It is your choice, but just be careful. Your baby's safety might not seem like an issue right now, but it could be. Just make sure you are ready for anything that might happen.

Sheryl - posted on 10/04/2009

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Try...."Thank you I appreciate your concern...But these are my decisions to make"

I smoked while pregnant with both of my babes, and while I was not proud of it, it was an addiction that I could not break at the time. Those who live in glass houses should not cast stones!!!!! As an OBS nurse myself I was well aware of the risks of smoking during my pregnancy. All I would say to you is educate yourself on the potential risks involved and ultimately the choice is yours! Not to minimize it but there are far worse things you could be doing. And I'm sure you will love your sweet baby just as much as any other devoted mom!

Good Luck

Christina - posted on 10/04/2009

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I just love how you have the nerve to try and excuse the fact that you are hurting your unborn baby by saying "i only smoke a PACK a day"! Its women like you who make me realize that not all moms are willing to put their needs aside and give their babies what THEY need. Stop being soo selfish and i cant believe your husband thinks its ok! thats a shame, why even have a baby if your so selfish! You'll survive without cigarettes but your baby could die! I hope you grow up and step up!

Katherine - posted on 10/04/2009

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I have smoked with both of my pregnancies, and I just tend to ignore people. My babies have grown just fine.

Crystal - posted on 10/04/2009

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i have been in you situation and you just have to accept that people will frown on you smoking while pregnant. I do have to say though that i have a six week old boy that is perfectly healthy, and i and an easy pregnacy. and i smoked the entire time. But i figured that it would do him more harm if i quit while pregnant after 15 years. also all of my friends that didnt smoke during pregnancy had babys with problems but all of the onces that smoked had no problems.

i wouldn't let people bug you, you do what you think is right and get used to the strong opions they contiue after the baby comes

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