Stitches after giving birth...how do you feel about your vagina now?!

Jessalynn - posted on 10/29/2011

i was ruptured very badly in 2 places i lost alot of blood first they used the wrong needle it was 2 small then they had to numb me up 3 times the pain was horrible used a bigger needle .When i got out of the hospital and 2 months later i was still having problems walking in pain ..Its been 4 years and i still am having complications with walking sometimes so for me it was very traumatizing

SHERILL-ANN - posted on 11/05/2009

I had stitches after giving birth to my son nine months ago and everything has healed and is back to normal.I must admit though that being intimate again was a bit scary and sometimes uncomfortble because I was so self conscious about it but eventually it heals and you just forget about it.

Amber - posted on 11/05/2009

Hey, well, OK, so I have had my 5th child.. LOL.. I have always been worried about what I look like down there, tightness and ALL. I ripped twice during two different deliveries. My husband NOW, I have two children with, and I am always asking him, do I look at stretched out and all, and I have even come to ask him, "do I feel real loose?" He always tells me no. I often wonder still, but at the same time, I am lucky cause he is a wonderful man. When the time comes for you to be with someone again, just be honest with them and tell them its been awhile. If you are real worried about it, tell your doctor your concerns. He/she can maybe give you some insight, maybe give you some suggestions on different things. Do you do kegals?? Its a form of exercise but for your vagina.. lol.. helps you tighten up your walls and all. and it works. I did them and still do to this day.. lol. hell, after 5 kids, I need SOMETHING to help keep that thing closed.. HAHA.. anyway.. good luck hunny.

Carla - posted on 11/05/2009

I have two lil girls and with my first one they cut me and I got stitches after giving birth...6 wks later me and my hub had sex and it was very painful...it was tighter than b4 i actually bleed a little. but the 2nd time the doctor let me tear in 4 places then stitched me up, a week after i had her i was in the bath and I noticed one of my stitches floating in the water, so my stitches were to loose, they all ended up coming out too early... now im looser than i used to be but not to bad...my husband doesnt complain...we just do it ways that makes it feel tighter:) goodluck im sure everything will work out...men will be men!

Sarah - posted on 11/04/2009

I had a fair few stitches after giving birth too, my babys only 6 weeks old and i only got the courage to have a look about a week ago, surprise surprise it wasn't as bad as i thought. It looks a bit differant but not bad and theres no scar. When you do find that special someone i can just about guarentee that they won't be looking down there for any scars etc, i'm sure they'll have their mind on other things! I doubt they'd ever even know unless you tell them.

Jillian - posted on 11/04/2009

im so sorry, that sounds like it really sucks, i was really worried about infection but it turned out okay,doctors need to listen to us when we say something is wrong, no one knows our bodies better than we do!!!

Chelle - posted on 10/27/2009

i hate mine now. my stitches came loose and the area got infected. i told a woman at the hospital that all didnt feel right down there and she just said its only because its healing and bound to feel odd. she didnt even have a look. and after three days of nagging the hospital they had a look and it was a right mess. i had to let it heal as an open wound along with two corse's of antibiotics and now 5 n half months on its awful to look at. ive questioned my partner about how it feels for him to have sex with me. he told me that its still the same really. he said that it feels a little diferent on the outside but the inside still feels the same as before i gave birth so his not botherd (sorry if that was to much info)

Tiffany - posted on 10/26/2009

I had an episiotomy as well. My son was 10 lbs 2oz and his head circumference was 38cm which I guess is extremely huge(from what the doctors told me). He just wouldn't budge without it being done (not surprisingly). Anyways, I feel extremely odd saying this but just days after my son had been born I was just curious to see what had happened. I took the huge leap and looked (yes, while freaking out). There were NO stitches to be found and nothing looked abnormal(not completely the same, but not abnormal). I was confused. Did I just have a 10 pounder or what happened? Anyways, I wasn't told I tore real bad or that I ruptured but I'm sure all parts look just fine. Don't worry about it at all when it comes to being with the right person. I was so scared to get intimate with my husband but I finally did after 3 months of his impatiently waiting. It hurt a tiny tiny bit but got back to normal almost instantly. It actually almost feels better for me(yes, when I give in and am not too tired) and he says he notices nothing different. Hooorraaayyyy to being a woman and having a child is REALLY a miracle!!!

Vikki - posted on 10/26/2009

Thankyou all for your comments and i have taken them all into account and feel alot better about this situation now...just need to build up the courage of actually taking a look.. haha xx

Lindsay - posted on 10/25/2009

I know how you feel even though i have a faince i was really worried about what it looked and felt like. It took me about 2 months to finally look at it and was surprised to find it wasn't bad like i thought. I have a scar but i have showed it to my fiance and he says he can't even see it. My son is now 6 months and proud to report im over that issue and things have really improved down there. Just know it most likely doesn't look as bad as you think and when you find the right person they will love you no matter what.

A - posted on 10/24/2009

Natural childbirth was a cake compared to my CNM stretching me and being stitched up (I wouldn't numb). I was so sore and swollen I had to have a cath to drain my bladder for about 18 hours afterward. Recovering was hard, but now I don't mind it. I actually think that sex is not as painful as before, I'm not so tight as I used to be.

Dearne - posted on 10/24/2009

I had stitches after giving birth when I had my lil girl, she tore me pretty bad. Its now been 5 months nd everything has healed really well. I am able to be intimate with my partner and he doesnt care what it looks like coz we love our daughter to pieces.



I hope you feel better soon about your body,

Good luck and congrats on your baby.

User - posted on 10/24/2009

I had an episiotomy and while it was quite sore at first everything healed up great and was back to normal by 6 months, so i wouldn't worry too much about it! I was quite worried as i scar really badly, but i can't even find a trace. Just make sure you keep everything clean down there and take salt baths which will help you heal faster. And if you feel self-conscious about it just think at least you don't have a big ugly c-section scar which would take much longer to heal and will always be noticeable!

Jillian - posted on 10/24/2009

when i delivered my daughter 6 1/2 months ago they had to use forceps and when they turned her head just a tiny bit she came shooting out and the doc had to drop the forceps to catch her. the forceps lacerated me pretty badly, From just past my cervix out, luckily it didn't tear my perineum much but the doc had to go all the way back in there to stitch it all the way out. my husband and i were intimate for the first time about 8 weeks later and that scar stretched and hurt really bad, i was really selfconscious as well and kept asking him if it looked and felt the same until he had reassured me over and over that it was fine and started to get a little annoyed, i still wonder about it but i think it is fine. and the extra stitch, michelle, i think the doc took him seriously when my husband said that!!!!! lol when i felt it while it was still healing there was an extra stitch at the top and i kind of freaked out thinking it would heal deformed but it was fine.

Michelle - posted on 10/24/2009

Vikki I had stitches after giving birth. I had my daughter 21 months ago. Still i am sub - consious (cant spell) about how my parts look. I think they actually stitched me up tighter than before lol. Your son is only 18 weeks old and you dont have to think about the opposite sex just yet, just focus on your baby boy for now. Again its only been 18 weeks for your bits to heal so id give it another 2 months before you even look down there.



Im pretty sure that when you do find that 'special' someone he will be special enough to take you as you are, saggy tits, stretch marks and all.

I think maybe you need to build on your self confidence first. This is who you are now and it is because of this beautiful child in your life. There is many women that feel the way you do, but maybe it is sometimes just life and we have to deal with it. you can always get reconstructive surgery if you feel its so different from before..and by the way who says that mr special is gonna notice the difference anyway....hes a man! iyswim :)

Kelsey - posted on 10/24/2009

i was lucky enough not to have stitches after giving birth but if i were you i would worry so much about it. things like these happen and it just comes with having a child not everyone has to go through it but not everyones labour and delivery are the same

SHERILL-ANN - posted on 11/05/2009

I had stitches after giving birth to my son nine months ago and everything has healed and is back to normal.I must admit though that being intimate again was a bit scary and sometimes uncomfortble because I was so self conscious about it but eventually it heals and you just forget about it.

Carla - posted on 11/05/2009

I have two lil girls and with my first one they cut me and I got stitches after giving birth...6 wks later me and my hub had sex and it was very painful...it was tighter than b4 i actually bleed a little. but the 2nd time the doctor let me tear in 4 places then stitched me up, a week after i had her i was in the bath and I noticed one of my stitches floating in the water, so my stitches were to loose, they all ended up coming out too early... now im looser than i used to be but not to bad...my husband doesnt complain...we just do it ways that makes it feel tighter:) goodluck im sure everything will work out...men will be men!

Sarah - posted on 11/04/2009

I had a fair few stitches after giving birth too, my babys only 6 weeks old and i only got the courage to have a look about a week ago, surprise surprise it wasn't as bad as i thought. It looks a bit differant but not bad and theres no scar. When you do find that special someone i can just about guarentee that they won't be looking down there for any scars etc, i'm sure they'll have their mind on other things! I doubt they'd ever even know unless you tell them.

Dearne - posted on 10/24/2009

I had stitches after giving birth when I had my lil girl, she tore me pretty bad. Its now been 5 months nd everything has healed really well. I am able to be intimate with my partner and he doesnt care what it looks like coz we love our daughter to pieces.



I hope you feel better soon about your body,

Good luck and congrats on your baby.

Michelle - posted on 10/24/2009

Vikki I had stitches after giving birth. I had my daughter 21 months ago. Still i am sub - consious (cant spell) about how my parts look. I think they actually stitched me up tighter than before lol. Your son is only 18 weeks old and you dont have to think about the opposite sex just yet, just focus on your baby boy for now. Again its only been 18 weeks for your bits to heal so id give it another 2 months before you even look down there.



Im pretty sure that when you do find that 'special' someone he will be special enough to take you as you are, saggy tits, stretch marks and all.

I think maybe you need to build on your self confidence first. This is who you are now and it is because of this beautiful child in your life. There is many women that feel the way you do, but maybe it is sometimes just life and we have to deal with it. you can always get reconstructive surgery if you feel its so different from before..and by the way who says that mr special is gonna notice the difference anyway....hes a man! iyswim :)

Kelsey - posted on 10/24/2009

i was lucky enough not to have stitches after giving birth but if i were you i would worry so much about it. things like these happen and it just comes with having a child not everyone has to go through it but not everyones labour and delivery are the same