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stranger anxtiety please help me!!!!!

Tiffany - posted on 05/26/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )

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ok so i love my son to bits but after 7 months of not being able to leave him with anyone ( his grandparents,sister,family) so that me and my husband can go out alone for once i have learned that it is impossible b/c he will wail till i get home he is on solids now so its not that he hungry but it is caused by stranger anxtiety.i cant take him anywhere ( store,grandparents, so forth) with out having to lock myself in a room with him till we go home.i can deal with this but im going back to work and i need help how i can get him to not mind being out and not mind being around new ppl. he only lets me and his daddy hold him no one else no matter how much i try and get him warmed up to someone else and no matter how many times i take him out with me he still wails the whole time!!!! i have tried walks every single day!!!!! i need help please so i know whenhe goes to daycare he can be fine. anyone deal with this before? and what did u do? when did this pass?HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!!!peace

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Tiffany - posted on 05/26/2010

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yeah i spoke to my doctor basicly he said it as learned behavior which is nuts cause im a very quiet person although im not shy basicly i think he just said that cause my lil is perfectly healthy otherwise,he has only been breast feed up untill 6 month plus im on the breast feeding diet cause he was very colicky when he was first born. he is very happy when he is home with me he already has 4 teeth, crawling,sitting up so i dont thinki ts medical

Kristin - posted on 05/26/2010

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Have you spoken with his doctor about this? Stranger anxiety doesn't really start until 6 to 9 months, not day 1. Also, have you ruled out illness, dietary allergiy, or teething?



That being said, keep socializing him. Have other friends and family hold him and don't take him right back as soon as he starts to get upset. He will learn that he is okay with people other than you and his dad. You and his dad must always be upbeat and confident around him while he's with another caregiver and during any hand off.



You can't force the warm up. Have the people around him and let him observe until he is ready to go over to them. Tell them to sort of ignore him beyond a short hello when first arriving. Some kids (and adults) just don't care to have everyone be so easily friendly with them. When you do have someone take care of him, they need to follow his regular routines for the consistency that he knows. They need to find their own ways of comforting him though.



It takes time, but he will be okay if there is no underlying something complicating this. Good luck.

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