Stupid things people said to you while pregnant

Andrea - posted on 08/08/2009 ( 28 moms have responded )

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i am wondering what stupid or anxiety producing comments people said to you during your pregnancy and how it has affected your pregnancy and delivery? I realize some of the things people say stem from folklore and tradition but they have caused great stress for many women. Please let me know. I am collecting your thoughts to help set the record straight for us all.

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Brittany - posted on 08/15/2009

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Okay this is a really dumb one but i was told that if i ate milky ways when i was pregnant that there was a risk of my baby having her body being underdeveloped but after i asked my doctor i found out it was just a lie. But some people thought just because i was 17 when i got pregnant ment that when i turned 18 and had my baby girl they could tell me any thing and i would belive it!

Jessoliver87 - posted on 08/14/2009

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It took me a long time to come around to the idea of being a mum and also took a while to really bond with my son after he was born. I believe this is because when I found out I was pregnant, so-called friends of mine told me I was making a big mistake by choosing to continue my pregnancy when I was single. One of these so-called friends was sleeping with my sons father and she said it was better for me to abort because she wanted to continue whatever was going on between her and my sons father, but was unable to due to the fact that my being pregnant made things too awkward for them to be together. I was also told that I will never find a man and I will be single for the rest of my life because no other man is going to want me when I have a child to another man. My age also got thrown into it (I fell pregnant at 20, had my son a few months after I turned 21), and I was told that I was throwing my life away. Those people are no longer a part of my life, I don't need crap from those I thought I could rely on as support.

I had ridiculous cravings for anything and everything sweet and sugary while I was pregnant and as a result of eating a lot of sweet foods, my mum kept telling me that too much sugar was going to make have a ginormous baby. It didn't help that I started showing at 11wks either, I got big quickly and kept getting bigger. In the end, it didn't matter because my son was only 6lb 13oz :)

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Shenique - posted on 05/02/2013

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I'm 9 1/2 weeks pregnant, and my boyfriend's dad is constantly smoking in front of me (We do currently live with him, we also pay our rent and buy our own groceries and other necessities). Whenever my boyfriend's stepsister comes over with her 2 year old daughter (By the way, she's their favorite grandchild) or when his brother and his then pregnant wife comes over to visit, his dad will smoke outside. Then I asked him, why does he do that? He told me that second hand smoke doesn't harm the baby, and if I want he could buy me a dust mask! Then he gets mad when I spend the entire day in my room, even though I can still smell the smoke. What do I look like walking around the house with a dust mask on my face? I just don't understand why couldn't he just walk less than 3 feet out the door to smoke?

Stephanie - posted on 08/15/2009

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I was told that if I drank any caffeine that my baby would be hyperactive, also i was told that if i took a hot bath it could rupture something causing my baby to be premature. Oh yeah, and I also got a ton of people telling me horror stories about not crossing my legs when I sit, and not sleeping on my stomach. Man, you'd think people would tell you good thing, not bad!

Ginny - posted on 08/15/2009

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My belly got so huge while I was pregnant lots of it due to so much extra fluid from a virus I caught. But, ppl would always say things about it. One lady, working in a store I was shopping in, said, "OH, you're having twins." I replied, no just one little boy. And she said, "What, were you due like 2 months ago?"

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I worked with a lady who used to be a midwife, one day a large poster fell off the wall at work and despite many of my collegues seeing it happen none bothered to put it back up. So after a while I got up and did it myself, standing on a chair, reaching up to re-hang the darn thing and the ex midwife announces "look Louise is trying to strangle her baby" and laughed while she said "don't you know reaching above your head makes the cord wrap around the babys neck?" I must have gave her a pretty evil look because she was quick to reassure me that that was most likley a old wives tale.



My son was born with the cord around his neck and things got kinda scary for a minuit or two during/after the delivery and I will always wonder if it was my fault or just a coincidence...

Amy - posted on 08/15/2009

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One of my patients said to me " your a full figured woman now". I was mortified. Was that a nice way of saying I got fat? :)

Emma - posted on 08/14/2009

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i got a whole list of things i was told not to do..i dunno which ones are true or not but god i got grief if i did any of the below:



1. your not allowed to sit on your feet

2. your not allowed to cross your legs

3. your not allowed hot baths

4. your not allowed yo lie on your front

5. your eating for two now



how uncomfortable would you be if you obeyed these apparent rules?!

your not eating for two cuz the baby only takes what he/she needs to grow healthly which isnt that much.

and crossing your legs does not suffocate the baby (father of my child told me that one lol)

and sitting on your feet causes cramp but more fool you..it does not damage your baby :)

Kristen - posted on 08/14/2009

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My friend was told by her baby's dad's family that she couldnt sit with her legs crossed because it was going to cut off the baby's circulation . . . LOL sorry but we still laugh about that one.

Charlene - posted on 08/14/2009

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i get sick of people saying your too small to be 5 month. it maked me think am i doing something wrong. i have a 1 year old and i am 5 month preg and one woman said can you look after them properly which realy ticked me off. she said its because i only look 14....i will be 21 when i have my lil girl and they mean the world to me. another thing people always say is never heard of contraception that bugs me because what has it got to do with anyone else.

Katie - posted on 08/13/2009

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I was also told that I was huge, I have a short waist and was showing at ten weeks with my second pregnancy. By the time i'm half way through people are asking when i'm due. I was also told my baby had down syndrome, I was 23 while I was pregnant. I worried about this during my pregnancy,in the end she was born healthy and beautiful without downs. During my first pregnancy best best friend told me I should give her all my clothes because I would never fit in them again. That was really hard for me, I was only 19. I have forgiven her but never forgot what she said. And damn it I made sure I fit into them and smaller, lol

Tessa - posted on 08/13/2009

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i got lots of people telling me that because i was so young i would be a crap mother which made me start to think i would be a crap mother. I used to have horrbile dreams that people were talking Lily away from me because I was unfit to look after her. I know now that age has NOTHING to do with your ability to look after a baby but while I was pregnant it really used to get to me.

Leah - posted on 08/13/2009

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i had my belly rubbed a lot too, and the same thing, it was almost like Ella was moving away because it was annoying her just as much as it was annoying me!!

Hanna - posted on 08/13/2009

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oh god, i heard a few -- from perinatal massage to be prepared because u're a big girl & u'll probably have a big baby so u'll probably have tearing and maybe even need a reconstructive surgery.... to be prepared to not get any sleep first 6 months... to make sure you learn how to breastfeed because you'll probably have mastitis.... and it was like, ok -- i really need to be freaked out right now, thanks! then there was my mother with her stupid obsession with dieting and being skinny -- oh don't eat too much, you're gaining too much weight, you won't be able to lose it afterwards, you shouldn't be eating white bread, you gonna get fat. then as soon as i delivered, it was like oh make sure you walk more (i already walked 3-5 miles a day even before delivery and i did walk 3 miles the day after i came home from the hospital), make sure you exercise (and the fact that i had a C and that the doctor hasn't allowed me to exercise yet didn't matter -- in her mind i could do light exercises), then 6 weeks later it was like so did ur belly go away yet? you should really do exercises because what doesn't come off first 3-4 months you won't be able to lose later. i just hated it!

but the stuff that i found most annoying is when random people in the store, on the bus, would either give me advice about something that's totally irrelevant or better yet, come up to me and rub my belly. and a few times i actually felt the baby trying to move away because he didn't like their touch/energy whatever. i always hated that part -- it's like you don't want to be rude, but at the same time i don't like to be touched by strangers.

Zojoho - posted on 08/13/2009

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The one of many comments I had to endure came from my MIL of all people *insert rolling eyes here please*
She said upon hearing the news that we were expecting our 3rd Child.."Well, we think that you're stupid for having another baby.." hmmm..geez, thank you, thank you very F'KING much biatch..!!

And then it started.."Weren't you on the Pill?" "Wasn't bleep using a condom?" "tell him to put a 'franga' on it next time" "Was this planned or an accident?" "how you going to feed it?" "What about schooling?" "Where is it going to sleep?" "how you going to clothe it?" blah, blah..freakin' blah..arrggghhh..

I was absolutely outraged with her disgusting comments and behaviour.

Firstly, I had been married to her Son for 8 yrs - together for 17, I was 32 y.o. NOT 16 like she was carrying on as if I was, we own our home, had Full-time jobs, already had 2 Children so big freakin' deal about having another one..we rely on no-one but ourselves for anything, and WTF has it got to do with her..whether we use protection during love making??!!!

So yeah, that made for a pleasant last pregnancy..NOT!! Her ridiculous comments has now made it hard for me to even be civil to her, and for me to even let her have anything to do with Holly. Poor Holly's 1st b'day is coming up in about 6 wks, and I sooo don't want my MIL to be there..pfftt, why the hell should she be allowed??

User - posted on 08/13/2009

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Being 16 days over due..the two statements people would greet me with which really got up my nose was. - "Are you still in one piece?" Here I was standing right in front of them...can't they SEE that I haven't had a baby yet!!! And the other was "Oh...your still here!" ...gee thanks..nice to see you too!!

Alishia - posted on 08/12/2009

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i was told im having a huge baby becuase my belly was big at like 4months but it was all water an not to drink coke which is a real no no i had problems with my baby when she was born from drinking coke during pregnancy

Leah - posted on 08/12/2009

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Quoting Monica:

The worst part for me was, I got HUGE when I was pregnant with my son, and I wasn't allowed to forget it. People stared at me everywhere I went, as if they had never seen a pregnant woman before. I got comments on my size all the time. "Are you sure it isn't twins?" "You definitely have the 'waddle' thing down." "You have two months to go?! You look like you're about to pop!" Boy, I wanted to smack some people!


I had the EXACT same thing happen to me. By about 28 weeks people were asking me if I was ready because they thought I was due in a couple of weeks. I also had a lot of people saying I looked like I was carrying twins. Not the thing you want to hear when you're uncomfortable and already feeling huge!



People were also quick to say I was having a huge baby, because of how I was carrying. Ella was a healthy/normal 8lbs4oz! 



I also had a few people tell me their horror stories, about how breastfeeding was extremely painful and I probably won't be able to do it so don't feel bad about bottle feeding. This scared me a lot and now I realise it was that persons way of making themselves feel better about not being able to breastfeed. Ella took to it like a champ :)

Katie - posted on 08/12/2009

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I too frequently received the question: "Are you sure you're not having twins?" I am 5' 1" and by the time I delivered my little girl she was 9 days late, 9 pounds and her length was 1/3 of my height. So no, I wasn't having twins--like I told them, I just had a really big baby!!!!!!!!! People also frequently stared me as though I was either going to go into labor and they would have to witness it or 2. that I was 17 and pregnant!! (I'm 28 and married!!). I never would have thought people could be so rude!

Lorie - posted on 08/12/2009

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I was overweight when I got pregnant and lost 30 pounds during the pregnancy. People still asked me "is it twins? You are so big" and these were people who knew me before I was pregnant! I said no, I am actually smaller than I was before!

Colleen - posted on 08/12/2009

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I got both comments about being "too small" and being "huge". I didn't really "pop" until I was 6 and a half months so before that, people would tell me they couldn't believe I was x-months pregnant and that I was so small. But then at the end of my pregnancy, the last month, I really exploded and I heard all sorts of comments about how I looked like I was ready to pop any second. My uncle even told me I looked like I was carrying triplets.

Hayley - posted on 08/12/2009

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I am very small for my age and people always told me "oh your going to need a cesearian, your hips wont be wide enough" etc. That really annoyed me when my midwife told me that i will grow a baby to a size i can handle. I would tell people this and they would say "well your midwife is wrong". I think my midwife would know when she has been in that area of work for 13 years! I proved everyone wrong by having my baby naturally and she was a very good size for my petite height/body.

Kimberly - posted on 08/10/2009

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oh i hated it when my mom would comment on my weight and size, also i didnt have insurance until i was 4 months or so along so i didnt see a dr until february due to having to move a month after getting insurance then finding a dr and getting enrolled in the system up in ny, so i got questioned at every dr visit why i was depriving my baby of health care, in the end i had a healthy 10 pound baby.

Kelly - posted on 08/09/2009

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The things that i heard the most were...."Wow you already have 4 kids and your having another one?" ....it was my first pregnancy, but i watched my sisters kids while she worked...so it looked like i already had 4 kids....."Wow you are huge"....yeah i am huge and its not like i didn't notice, but thanks for reminding me......

Monica - posted on 08/09/2009

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The worst part for me was, I got HUGE when I was pregnant with my son, and I wasn't allowed to forget it. People stared at me everywhere I went, as if they had never seen a pregnant woman before. I got comments on my size all the time. "Are you sure it isn't twins?" "You definitely have the 'waddle' thing down." "You have two months to go?! You look like you're about to pop!" Boy, I wanted to smack some people!

Sheri - posted on 08/09/2009

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I am only 5' 2" and just 100 lbs, so i'm a very petite woman and i constantly was told that i was to small, i didn't eat enough, i was 'starving my growing baby'. I got really sick of it. Everyone who knows me and co-workers all knew that i ate very well and ALL the time, i constantly had some sort of food in my hand. Another stupid and annoying thing that was always said to me was about how i carried, i carried very low and people were always trying to tell me what it meant, 'oh its going to be a girl', 'oh its going to be a boy'. Everyone said something different. I myself did not care, i wanted it to be a surprise. With people telling me this constantly it was kinda like ruining a surprise.

Iysha - posted on 08/09/2009

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"you're too small to be that far along. You aren't eating enough." That statement pissed me off. I didn't start showing until I was 6 months prego. That statement made me feel like I was doing something wrong. I would weigh myself every day to see if I was gaining any weight. I even called the doctor's office and requested to hear what she had to say about my lack of weight gain straight from her mouth.

Lynlee - posted on 08/08/2009

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A couple of stupid things my mum has said to me about this current pregnancy is suggesting that it could be a phantom pregnancy because the midwife could not feel the baby yet - i am only 9 weeks so it is understandable that she can't feel it yet. Also she is freaked out that the midwife did not weigh me at the last visit even though they don't routinely do that anymore (in this country any way). She freaked out that they are not going to be able to tell if the baby is growing etc even though weighing mums is totally unreliable for that...it made me feel as though I am being negligent...

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