Kellie - posted on 11/11/2011 ( 11 moms have responded )
If you're a MIL maybe you can explain to me why you don't listen to your grandchildren's Parents .
My MIL is fricken crazy. My partner and I went to see Kings of Leon last night (totally awesome btw) and I get to my partners parents place to drop off our almost one year old daughter and she reeks of alcohol (she has a drinking problem and as the hubby had been out all day so she sat there drinking), it's 5pm n the evening woman and ffs you knew I was dropping the baby off and you couldn't refrain from drinking?
Then I tell her to give my daughter her bottle just after I leave as it's been ages since her last bottle. Oh you don't want me to give her her solids first? No I want you to give her her bottle. Why don't I wait for a while and give it to her when she's showing she wants it, by that she means crying her little heart out, I'm like No give her her bottle when I leave. I even get the fucking thing out and put it on the bench so it's right there for her to heat up.
So I leave thinking, fucking bitch for being drunk and I'm fuming (thankfully the FIL was home), and I bet she doesn't give my daughter her bottle and goes ahead and ignores me.
We get back after the concert and she goes, Oh I did't give her her bottle right away I gave her her solids and she ate the whole jar. I said I'm not surprised, she was starving, that why I told you to give her her fucking bottle when I left and her solids later.
Oh and we bathed her (she's also started bathing her, again this shits me as I don't fucking ask you to bathe her and it's also not necessary for you to bathe her). blah blah etc etc.
Then the FIL goes (after my partner asked him when she went to bed how'd that go) oh he goes, she cried but eventually she fell asleep.
YOU FUCKING LEFT MY BABY TO CRY HERSELF TO SLEEP? I cannot tell you how much I loathe CIO. It breaks my heart to imagine any child, let alone my own, left to cry their little hearts out until they realise no one gives a crap and no ones coming back.
So number 1. I asked you to give my baby her bottle and you ignored me. Number 2. You were fricken drunk. Number 3. You bathed my child for no reason and without me being present. Number 4. You left my baby to CIO. Number 5. I know you ignored me to get back at me for refusing to let you walk all over me and just invite your MIL to my daughter's first birthday (my MIL is a sneaky manipulator). Number 6. It's going to be a while before I leave my child with you again.
So MIL's while I get you have raised children before me I am also the best judge of my child and I parent differently to you, you need to respect this. When I ask you to give my child her bottle, I'm not asking for shits and giggles, I'm asking because I KNOW it's time for her bottle! And maybe instead of leaving her to cry herself to sleep you could take 5 freaking minutes to rock her to sleep. And you could also maybe LISTEN TO THE CHILDS PARENT ARGH!
So Why, why is it so hard for you to listen to your grandchildren's Parents?
P.S and If I ever find out in the future your using hitting (spanking) as a discipline method you will never be alone in the same room as my child again.