When do babies stop crying and just go to sleep?

Kellie - posted on 12/02/2011

Given this thread is 2 years old I'm going to lock it, Helen please start a new thread if you are still looking for answers. But CIO isn't the answer you're looking for.

Helen - posted on 12/02/2011

I feel you! My 5 month old has been crying before she goes to sleep. Sometimes its for 5 mins, but usually its for ages, and tonight it was so long I couldn't believe it. Like you said, you just think, why? why fight it!? you're tired, go to sleep then! Maybe they are scared of something like being without us for a period? I too am reading all the posts to try and get help. Personally, I try not to pick her up unless I think its wind but do stroke or touch her, 'shhhhhh' her and just sit in the room for a small amount of time but I'm not into moving closer and closer to the door and stuff like that. Good luck to all!! :-)

Kathryn - posted on 08/11/2009

Yes, routine is definitely key. I keep trying to stress this to my hubby. I don't really like to go anywhere in the late afternoon or evening because it messes with her routine and bedtime, then it's just that much harder to get her to sleep. He keeps wanting to go to his parents for dinner or down to our boat to hang out. I can't get him to realize that sometimes, this just isn't possible anymore. We have a baby now, and need to respect her sleep times, and can't expect her to adapt to our pre-baby lifestyle! So yes, make sure you do the exact same thing every night when putting your LO to sleep.

Diana - posted on 08/10/2009

I'm no pro but, I think that routine is important.. I know that helps me with my 3 kids, 2 of which share a room. So putting them to bed around the same times every day helps. I know it's hard because being a busy mom and doing a lot of running around messes up their routines. The kids wake up at 7:30 Am and 2 take a nap at noon, then # 3 takes nap at 4 and then all of them go to bed at 8:00pm.
Hope that helps!

Kathryn - posted on 08/10/2009

I should also add that I don't expect my daughter to sleep through the night yet. She's pretty good, only wakes once between 3 and 5am. I DO NOT ignore her crying in the middle of the night, as I know she is hungry. My problem was only getting her to sleep at bedtime.

Kathryn - posted on 08/10/2009

Ohhh, the hot topic of the CIO! I have pretty much the same problem with my DD. I know I'm fanning the flames here, and definitely gonna offend some, but all you ladies who say not to cry it out need to cut her some slack. Every family is different and they need to find the solution that works best for them. If she has tried everything else, then I say cry it out. I was pretty much spiralling into post-partum depression because it was a fight each and every night to get my DD to sleep. The stress was unbelieveable on me, my hubby, and most likely my DD too, because I was starting to resent her. I was afraid I would do something I would regret. So you know what the best option was for me? To let her cry. She is bathed, changed, fed and comfortable and safe in her crib. Some nights my hubby doesn't get home until late because of his job. I found it very hard to deal with alone. I rocked her, sang to her, shushed her, patted her, cuddled her, played music, white noise, bounced her, and pretty much everything else you can think of to calm her. She.Would.Not.Go.To.Sleep. This would go on anywhere from 7pm until midnight. When my sanity and the safety of my child was at risk, thats when I finally broke down and decided to let her cry. And guess what? She hardly fusses at all now, and I am a much healthier, happier mom. A happy mom is a healthy mom. And a happy, healthy mom is much more capable of taking care of her baby. We do what we can as mothers. You need to find what works best for you and your baby and family. This is what worked for us. Do not feel guilty for letting them cry for a bit. I'm not saying let it go on for hours. I did the gradual extinction method of gradually increasing the time I went back to comfort her. How many times have you heard a lady from a previous generation tell you that its okay to let them cry? Did the majority of the adult population from that generation of babies turn into mass murdering, self loathing, wicked people afraid to ask for help? No. Do what YOU feel works best for your family.

Samantha - posted on 08/09/2009

we used to have this problem. try getting a good strict bed time routine set and put him down a little earlier. our routine is bath (every other day) jammies bottle then we lay him on his back with a blanket, paci in hi mouth and we turn on his moblie. he just watches his mobile untill he falls asleep

Christina - posted on 08/08/2009

Jill there are many books and many opinions. I was so whelmed, I have read a bunch on sleeping and I was super diligent about the follow through with each method. Five months is about the time to be thinking about sleeping alone. I Co-slept way too long I think she was 10 months and it became a habit for both of us/ as well as Bfeeding through the night. They are both habits that I created because I wanted sleep. Look this is the time to try out different methods if your Dr. thinks this is the method you should try then research it and the pros and cons. Some of these gals post from the sound of it don’t or did not have a hard time with sleeping babies or at least not to the existent I did. So I can tell you might start out using the Dr. Sears’s method or end up trying three others before trying this but it worked for me that is all I can say. In the beginning I would go in and comfort her with a rub on the back and put her down (but never pick her up) I would go in every 5-10 min. After a few weeks I made another Dr. App due to sleeping, he said that it was more than a habit I prevented her from self soothing and inhibited her coping skills buy not letting her cry. I am not here to judge you and I hate that most of these gals who have responded are very judge mental. Once I let her cry it out for a few nights she sleeps through the night and wakes up happy and energized. And that was not the case before she woke up grumpy and tired (cuz she was waking up so much looking for me to hold her and or move her back to my bed). Now this is hard but once I saw that she needed sleep as much as I did then I knew, I was doing the right thing. Those first few nights I would get teary and upset but I would not change a thing. She sleeps and is HAPPY in the morning and through out the day even before nap times!!!



So just a recap this worked for me but I tried a bunch of different methods before trying this. And I have a lil gal who sleeps through the night and who is so much better for it. My hubby is so happy to get her I the morning and play with her before he goes to work. Bed time is sweet he never cries now and it is not such a frustrating daily event. Good luck and do what you think is right… which is not always what you feel.

Greer - posted on 08/04/2009

at 4 weeks old, your little one shouldn't be up more then half an hour to an hour change feed swaddle, put down sleep for 3, 4 hours, if aunties uncles, grandparents don't get a cuddle in that time too bad if you want a sound happy baby and the feed takes up most of the time too bad you need your sanity

Melissa - posted on 08/03/2009

I breastfed my son to sleep until he was 2 1/2. he has never cried himself to sleep. they are babies for such a short time. why do we feel the need to put so much pressure on them learn to fall a sleep by themselves in their own room. You enjoy snuggling up to your husband don't you? why does the poor little baby have to be pushed so far away. follow you intincts and don't listen to doctors about sleep, unless they have 3 or more kids that they have put to sleep every night themselves.

Julie - posted on 08/02/2009

my son is 9 months and still crys for like a half hour before bed & you just needa comfort them .. SOME doctors say that and want them to just cry it out but the trust is some babys fuss & wine and cry and some have a full blown tantrum where they can hardly breath ,.. all babys are different & only you should decide how to deal with your child . in my case all i can do is make him feel safe and console him when he crys before bed and he eventually does

Dana - posted on 08/02/2009

I'm not sure I would love to know my son is 8 months old and to put him to sleep for naps of bedtime i have to rock him he won' t do it on his own!

Cayla - posted on 08/02/2009

I was in the same boat!!! i did the co-sleeping in bed with my daughter (WHICH I KNOW ISNT RIGHT) but i did need some sleep lol.....eventually i knew we were moving from our one bedroom apartment to a 3 bedroom townhouse so needed her to be in her crib, so i started letting her put herself to sleep using the cry out method she was 7 months mind you not 5 months. for the first week she would cry for about an hour somedays and 2 other days but if it was 2 hours i would be in there after one hour soothing her and calming her down it broke my heart to see her cry like that but since we moved and she has her own room and is now 8 months old she cries for about 10 minutes and is sleeping. having they're own bedroom makes a huge difference trust me :)

Ashley - posted on 08/01/2009

leaving your baby to cry at 4 wks til they fall asleep??? thats horrible! i'm sorry but it is. as i read that my 4 wk old son was falling asleep on my chest. babies cry for a reason especialy that young. my baby loves to snuggle. he will cry sometimes just because he wants to be snuggled and i snuggle him. as soon as i pick him up he stops and falls asleep right away on my chest. how can you let your 4 wk old cry like that? how can you look at their little face and walk away while they lie in bed and cry?? even a 6 wk old is a little young to be letting them cry especially for over an hour! my 1st son is 14 months and still gets up once a night. the minute i hear him i go into his room. i cant lie in bed and listen to him cry. he would probably wonder where i am and why i'm not going to comfort him. i personally dont beleive in letting a child cry themselves to sleep because i have done it myself and i dont like it very much so i can just imagine how they would feel. and going to take a bath while your child screams?? thats pretty bad advice. nothing like making yourself feel great while your child needs a little snuggle

Katie - posted on 08/01/2009

Jill I was just wondering after all the information you have received what your thoughts are on the subject?

Kylie - posted on 08/01/2009

Posted by Amber Levesque (July 29, 11:19 am)
I had the same problem with my son when we moved him into his room around 6 weeks. It was crazy...it was seriously an hour of crying before he feel asleep. We would go check on him to make sure he had every thing he needed and was comfortable. It has gotten much better though and he pretty much falls asleep right at bed time or rolls around some laughing and playing for like 10 mins then goes to sleep.

Shocking! leaving a 6 week old to cry for over an hour!?? that poor little baby....

Lanie: burn that book babywize it is the worst parenting book ever written..let me tell you i never let my daughter cry, she slept through the night for the first time at 18 months..i co-slept and nursed her to sleep and never forced her to "learn" to sleep independently and now she is 4 years old, sleeps 12 hours a night, loves her bed and bedtime and is incredibly outgoing, independent and confident. Leaving a baby to cry so they don't become clingy or demand is a crock.
Trust me, if you listen to your instincts and mother from your heart you cannot go wrong.

Nadine - posted on 08/01/2009

Hi,
I have had the same routine since the beginning and now my 7 month old sleeps from around 7ish to 5 or 6 in the morning and I feed him then put him back to sleep and he sleeps until 8ish when I get him up for breakfast.
I bath him everynight, then I feed him in his room with a dim light on, sometimes I need to put his dummy in to send him to sleep others he will just fall asleep. He used to have a mobile in his cot but I found this was over stimulating him so I removed it. I also wrap him, and then wrap another blanket around him and put him inside a baby sleeping bag so he can not get out of the wrap and pull the blanket over his head.
This works for me.

Katie - posted on 07/31/2009

Like I said before read nighttime parenting especially if your a new mother. It adresses the cio method. The book also discusses how certain night time parenting can reduce the risk of sids. Any many other things that will comfort you. This book is suggested by La Leche Legue International. They introduced me to it.

Donna thats okay I just really liked the quote, i'll have to write it down. Thank you for sharing!

Jessica - posted on 07/31/2009

I am doing this right now. We are doing a method called "Ferberizing" named after the person who invented it. Basically you start with letting them cry for 5 minutes, then you can go in and comfort them by patting or shushing. But NO talking or picking them up. Then you wait 10 minutes and repeat the process. Each time you add 5 minutes to the time the you wait to comfort your baby. It's only supposed to take 3 or 4 days to work. We started 4 days ago, and it worked like a charm today!! Good luck.

Georgia - posted on 07/31/2009

Lainie, 4 weeks old? His little eyes haven't even focused yet. Go with your instincts, which are obviously telling you to comfort and protect him. I've seen children who were CIO babies and they are far more demanding than my 2 1/2 yo son (who was carried, cuddled and comforted all he wanted as well as coslept). My son is "independent", insofar as feeling safe to leave my side and explore the world around him without fear that I'll just leave him, and he's always been able to entertain himself. He had some trouble settling for a couple days when I put him into pre-school (he only goes 2 days/wk), but the teacher was surprised that he'd settled so quickly given that he's never been in care before.
Loving and comforting an upset baby is not a bad thing. Leaving them on their own, when they have no capacity to know that we are trying to teach them "independence", doesn't let them sort themselves out it just leaves them anxious and not knowing when you'll leave them again.

Georgia - posted on 07/31/2009

Katie, wouldn't you know it... I can't remember! I've wracked my brain trying to remember, but I've read so much it's all blurred together. That concept stuck with me though. It was like an "A-ha!" moment.

Another thing I read was a study on the level of stress hormones a baby releases when crying and distressed. Sustaining the higher levels can lead to heart problems, lowered intelligence and anxiety disorders, as well as a few other things. I suppose when I was a first time mum I read all that I could and some things, like this study (and the caveman thing) pointed out to me that we are not supposed to let babies cry for extended periods of time. Of course sometimes it's unavoidable, but why create mistrust in your child and possibly affect them physically if you don't have to?

Lainie - posted on 07/31/2009

Hi, I so feel your pain!..and your confusion as to what you should do. Although I don't have any "solutions" for you... I just wanted you to know that you are so not alone. I think I cry more then my son when I put him down and have to walk away. The first day I made myself sit in his room with him throughout the crying spell.. I got down on my knees cried & prayed.. It's all I could do. I have been reading up on a feeding schedule from a book called Babywise. My son is 4 weeks old and I am still struggling with the age of my boy and leaving him to cry. The book will tell you that it's not going to hurt him and that you need to establish a program now because if you don't you run the risk of having a demanding child blah,blah,blah... but when his crying goes to screaming... I can't help but pick him up and cuddle him to give comfort. Through trials and prayer I have decided I like the schedule Babywise has laid out. I will follow their guidelines with my own flexibility. I just have to determine when I'm putting him down for a nap and he fusses and cries just why I should go in there and interupt?? Is it for me or for him? Everyday, every naptime I worry. I have been journaling every aspect of this journey... So from me to you... listen to what your inner being is telling you...continue to seek advice from your family and friends and hang in there... God Bless.

Samantha - posted on 07/31/2009

well if i were you, id count myself lucky. my daughter is 7 months old.. and has never slept through the night once! i have to nurse her to sleep, and if i want her in her crib.. i either have to lean over the crib with my breast in her mouth, or get right in there with her. if i let her cry she gets soo histerical that she pukes then chokes..

Amy - posted on 07/31/2009

I can't stand my baby crying for ten minutes let alone an hour. He has been in your womb all cosy and safe for nine months so how can you expect him to feel cosy and safe after five months? You are meant to make him feel safe and letting him cry for an hour is doing the opposite.

Emma - posted on 07/31/2009

Posted by Sarah McCoy (July 29, 3:19 am)

My daughter still cries after doing this for a few weeks now. It gets easier to walk away. Go take a hot bubble bath. Your baby needs this independence that this is teaching him!! Good luck



are you for real?? your baby screams because she needs you and you go take a bubble bath??? that is very wrong and upsetting.. your baby has a need that is not being met and you just ignore her and go pamper yourself!! wake up woman and care for your child!!

Emma - posted on 07/31/2009

you should never let him cry for that long!! an hour?!?! seriously thats not healthy!!

Shannon - posted on 07/31/2009

my little guy, who is almost six months is a lot like that. and sometimes the crying even turns into screaming. last night i turned on a lullaby CD i got with a can of parent's choice formula, and placed it next to his crib. the crying stopped by the time the first song was over and he had fallen asleep in about 15 mins. Something else that I found that works is turning off the lights, and having both me and his father stay quiet, when we would talk, the crying would get worse

Katie - posted on 07/31/2009

Wow Donna I couldn't agree with you more. Where did you read that?

Georgia - posted on 07/31/2009

Jill, if your instincts are telling you not to let him cry, there's a reason for that. He's not supposed to! I wanted to cry hearing that a doctor could recommend you let a 5 month old cry it out. You're not supposed to try CIO until the baby is at least 6 months old. I recently read something that made the whole baby crying thing make sense: We have evolved as a society since caveman days, but babies haven't. Caveman babies cried (as they do now) as a form of communication, but mostly for protection. They cry, we pick them up and protect them from harm. If left alone, they are afraid. It also makes sense that he cries more when you put him down, because his protector is leaving him.

We carry them inside us for their entire existence, but once they're born we expect them to be "independent". Why? They're totally helpless. We should teach them to sleep, I agree, but there are other ways of doing that. I read a book called "The No Cry Sleep Solution" which helped me with our first born. It gives you heaps of different things to try. It's a gentler method of helping a baby sleep.

I did notice that you said he's going to bed at 9pm. That might be a bit too late. It's sounding like he's overtired. Maybe try starting your bedtime routine at 6pm with the aim of getting him to bed by 7-7.30. Both my sons have a 7.30 bedtime and if we miss that they start getting harder and harder to put to sleep. My 2 1/2 yo actually goes a bit mental if he's going to bed at 9pm (which has had to happen a few times).

Personally, I get the best sleep when my youngest (7 months old) cosleeps with me. He knows I'm right there and doesn't cry (except when he wants a feed). If you want your son in another room, try putting one of your worn shirts into his cot. Lay it down and then lay him on top. It will have your smell on it, so he'll know you're around because he can smell you.
Good luck!

Ashley - posted on 07/30/2009

Hi Jill- I read through most of these posts and came across one where you said your son goes to bed at 9pm. One of the reasons it may be taking him a while to go to sleep, especially if he is crying for 60 min, is his bedtime might be too late. I met with an infant sleep expert a while back for my baby and she told me that all babies have a circadian rhythm that typically cycles on a 6pm-6am clock. So around 6pm their brain is telling them it's bedtime and around 6am their brain is telling them it's time to get up. I did let my daughter cry at 10 weeks because she was doing the same thing your baby was. I would walk her, rock her, bounce her, you name it and she would fight sleep. I would also go in every 5 min and pat her back, etc and it would only make it harder for her to fall asleep. The best thing I did was put her down at 6pm, fed, bathed, and bottled and left her alone for 30 minutes. If she was crying off and on I did not go in because I knew she was close to going to sleep. If she was screaming for 30 minutes then I went in and picked her up until she was calm and started the whole thing over again. I did this for 3 nights and it usually took my baby 20-25 minutes of crying on and off before she went to sleep. But now she's 9 months and she babbles and whines a little for 10-15 min and then she's out. Good luck with it and hang in there!

Jennifer - posted on 07/30/2009

Yes they do. Keep with it. My son was the worst sleeper ever. Finally I just had to let him cry. He sleeps great now. The book "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" by Dr. Weissbluth saved me. Check it out.

Katie - posted on 07/29/2009

Please read Nighttime Parenting BY William Sears M.D.. Your will be so enlightened on this cry it out method. This book made me feel at ease with doing what felt right as my childrens mother rather than comparing with the neighbors about who's baby sleeps the longest.. Remeber crying is your childs only way to communicate and when your not responding your not teaching to self sooth, your teaching him that his cries are meaningless. I wish you the best of luck.

Lynlee - posted on 07/29/2009

We disagreed with the CIO method, so when we put our son to bed we walked him and sang for 5-10 minutes then put him to bed still awake. He would cry for half to one hour but we never left him alone. We would go into his room and pick him up, walk him, sing to him for a few minutes, then put him down. After about a year he stopped the crying thing and to this day - he's three - goes to sleep brilliantly. I would not trust what your doc says - just because he has a medical degree doesnt mean he knows what is best for babies in regard to sleeping.

Angela - posted on 07/29/2009

My little girl is 3 months old. She started sleeping in her own room at 2 months. She will sometimes not want to go to sleep and she gets really fussy. She will start to scream and cry and it seems to help when I swaddle her. She didn't like being swaddled before but I do it now because it seems to calm her when she is really fussy. I usually do not let her cry over 2 minutes. I say if you are going to "cry it out" I wouldn't let them go any longer than a minute for each month old they are with a max of 10 minutes. When you lay him down is he still awake or sleeping already?? I like what another mom had said also about maybe moving his bedtime up. IT really doesn't matter when I put Riley down, she always wakes up for the day around 6am. So maybe push the bedtime back.

Sherry - posted on 07/29/2009

I've tried the cry it out method...for 10 minutes! My husband was like "just let her cry". My mom instincts told me to go to her. I figure she is only a baby for a short time, if she needs me, I should be there for her. An infant isn't trying to stay up past their bedtime to watch tv or to get away with anything...they want comfort! When they are 14 and want nothing to do with us, we'll wish we were still rocking or walking them to sleep. Especially if he sleeps through the night...give the kid a break!

Minnie - posted on 07/29/2009

Yep. Willingly and consistently at about three years of age.



Before then, they're not made to sleep long stretches, and they're not made to not need your help.



He's FIVE MONTHS OLD. I have never had a nursling that did not need me to help her when she woke in the night. Do you expect your son to get some herbal tea and a magazine when he's lonely in the night and can't sleep?



http://www.kathydettwyler.org/detsleepth...

Aleks - posted on 07/29/2009

I wish people who recommend crying it out would find themselves in a situation when they are scared, feel alone and helpless and then have people ( they so desperately need for comfort ) to ignore them... May be then they will know what a little baby feels like...
Just like a few of the mothers who posted here have pointed out, little babies don't know or understand. They just know that they want to feel loved and comforted and are not getting it, without a reason or knowledge of why.
They are only this small and dependent for a very short time, don't waste this opportunity to bond with your precious little boy. Before you know it he will grow up quick enough and not want even a cuddle for goodnight, and you will find that your heart will ache then, and don't be surprised that you will feel that you wished you got those cuddles then, but you won't be able to...
So, take my advise, as I am now wishing I could lay down with my little man and cuddle him off to sleep, something I was always annoyed about because everyone told me that kids should be able to put themselves to sleep!!! But now, he rarely wants it and also I am now busy with a second baby so don't have time to attend to him as much either....

Joy - posted on 07/29/2009

Jill I didnt read any of the other posts, i just read your one that says your son goes down at 9pm...am thinking maybe the reason he screams and cries is because he is over tired? Just a thought,maybe try bringing his bedtime forward a little more each night until you find the right time where he takes little fuss in settling. Overtired babies find it very hard to self settle as their little minds are running a million to one. I hope this helps.My son has a 7pm bedtime and i have found this to be a perfect time for him to be able to fall asleep without fuss.

Lucy - posted on 07/29/2009

To the OP, does he cry for that length of time if your cuddling him/ rocking him before he falls to sleep?

Angie - posted on 07/29/2009

One thing I forgot to mention is that he has always slept in his own room. Every once in a while I take a nap with him in our bed, but not very often. He just never took to his bassinet in our room and before we knew it he was too big for it. So he's been sleeping in his own room the whole time. I never had to make this transition. Maybe we're just blessed with a good sleeper? :) Like one of the other posters said, every baby is different. One of the things to remember is whatever you do to help your baby go to sleep they may desire it again if they wake up. That's why they recommend putting your baby in bed tired but still awake. That way if they wake up in the middle of the night, and they will, they can go back to sleep with no problem. If they get used to being fast asleep in your arms, they may desire to be held if they wake. Also, if the last thing they do before falling asleep is eating, they may need food again to go back to sleep...which isn't a good thing...it creates comfort eating. But to each their own. Every situation is different. Every baby is different. The best thing you can do is follow your heart. I know there have been times where my husband has insisted that our son needed to cry it out...and I just didn't feel right about it for some reason...so I went and picked him up...and what do you know...a dirty diaper. :) No wonder he wasn't happy. Just think what would have happened if I didn't listen to my heart? Best wishes to you!

Jules - posted on 07/28/2009

Yes They do. My daughter is now 1 1/2 it took a long time for her to just go to sleep with out screaming. I think she was about 12 months.

Stephanie - posted on 07/28/2009

There is a site that I found recently that has many suggestions on how to get your baby to sleep.There is a whole page of ideas there.Some I have tried and they work for me.But all babies are different.The top of the page is about feeding to sleep but there are many more ideas if you scroll down a bit.I hope it helps.

http://www.tribalbaby.org/Feedingtosleep...

Sidney - posted on 07/28/2009

Hi there! Every baby has their own milestones! My first son started sleeping full nights when he was a week old, in his OWN crib! My second son had to always be on my chest because he loved to hear my heartbeat. It was many months beofre I put him in his crib and when I did, all hell broke loose! He cried for hours spinning in circles! I found a bear for him that had a heartbeat in it and it was his comfort bear that allowed him to sleep alone in his crib! I am a firm believer in allowing the babies to cry themselves to sleep! They hae to learn one way or another and we have to claim our comfort zones back!

Laura - posted on 07/28/2009

There is a reason its hard to listen to them cry because you are supposed to comfort them. That is your job as a mom. What are you really teaching your child by making them cry it out? Do you think they understand that you want them to be independant and self sufficiant - no! All they know is I don't like laying here, I'm alone, where is my mom? They don't understand that you are in the other room. They cannot see you therefore you are gone and its scary especially that young! Please find another doc

Amber - posted on 07/28/2009

I had the same problem with my son when we moved him into his room around 6 weeks. It was crazy...it was seriously an hour of crying before he feel asleep. We would go check on him to make sure he had every thing he needed and was comfortable. It has gotten much better though and he pretty much falls asleep right at bed time or rolls around some laughing and playing for like 10 mins then goes to sleep. We are starting to have him nap in his crib and trying to get him on a schedule with those and we are now running into the same issue. We make sure he has everything he needs and he is comfy then put him down. Bc its a new process...we go in about 20 mins after we put him down and talk to him for a min, rub his belly, give him his paci and rewind his mobile. He does eventually conk out for a good nap, but its something new he has to adjust to. Id say give it time. If you are sure he has everything he needs, he isnt going to be scared for life for letting him cry. My son is as happy as they come and we have let him cry it out more times than I can count! Good Luck...and the sleep is so worth it once things settle down!

Nancy - posted on 07/28/2009

I am a mom of a 10 year old, a 14 year old and now a 10 month old. I can tell you every baby is different. My first was colic for 6 months and never did anything by the book. My doctor told us to let her cry it out! What a mistake! Her face would be covered with big red blotches from getting so worked up. Definately not worth it. It was a rough first year but, she did learn to go to sleep on her own. My second baby I could just lay down in her crib and she would just go to sleep. Go figure!! Now, here we are and our third just needs to be held. Once she falls asleep she's pretty much good until morning. I think it's a little early to kick him out of your room, he's 5 months. He's hardly been here, let him be with you as much as he needs. Baby love..

Sarah - posted on 07/28/2009

My daughter still cries after doing this for a few weeks now. It gets easier to walk away. Go take a hot bubble bath. Your baby needs this independence that this is teaching him!! Good luck!

Jill - posted on 07/28/2009

Yup same boat. Same name too.
That's the thing you get all kinds of advice, but which do you take.
We have been trying this for almost a month now and he still cries before naps and bedtime. But he has always fought his sleep and cries even if you are comforting him. He may just have extra energy to burn off. Who knows.

Shannon - posted on 07/28/2009

he is 5 months old.

Shannon - posted on 07/28/2009

My son does the same thing, he actually just stopped crying a minute ago and I put him to bed at 9... its 9:53. I got him up to rock him, walked around, let his dad try, made sure he had clean diaper and everything. so I'm not really sure what to do I just hope someone will give some good advice! I know he's full and he's ok he just wants his mama. maybe just a few weeks of this will break them of this.?.?.?