When does a baby understand the concept of "NO"?

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Just curious to know when you think or when your child understood what "NO" meant.

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To be honest I think there's a huge difference between saying "No" and the child understanding it. My son is 12 months old and he doesn't understand what it means - all he understands is that for example pulling the DVD player off the shelf= being moved away from it.

Amanda - posted on 12/10/2010

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I don't remember when my son learned the word "no" um we don't use no a lot anymore.. he's 15 months and we tell him "put it back" when he takes something. or when he has something in his mouth we say "what is in your mouth" or "take it out of your mouth" and he will take it out and throw it lmao... ummm generally we say it when he is approaching something we do not want him to get into. he understands it. he just doesn't like it lol.. sometimes he will throw a fit when we say it. so we try to avoid it.

Alison - posted on 12/09/2010

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I think they understand "no" very young (6-9 months), but the ability to control their urges comes much, much later (maybe around 2 years).

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My son understood no from about 7 months old, although we try to limit the use of negative phrases such as no. For example, when my son is running on the sofa, I tell him we sit on the sofa, we run on the floor and I place him on the floor to run (if he doesn't sit on the sofa that is) instead of saying no. Babies have really good comprehension of what we are saying before they can speak.

I know my son understood no because he responded by stopping what he was doing.

Janielle - posted on 12/06/2010

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at ten n half mos, dominic and i can communicate! he understands, no, not for dominic, turn around, look at mommy, calm down! just a few! ive been pretty much always talking to him! but alot has to do with my tone, i think! the same words arent as effective when dad or grama use them!

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Audrey - posted on 01/07/2011

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My daughters 8months and she gets told no when going to bite someone and she stops straight away i think it all depends on the child to when they understand it.

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My daughter is 16 months & definitely understands "no" but that doesn't mean she abides by it! She has developed quite a defiant personality. We can even say "no" in a low normal tone and she gets it. She's understood it for a while but just recently started IGNORING it! That's the real question... what to do when they start ignoring the rules???!!!

Amanda - posted on 12/30/2010

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I'm sorry. I have been reading about people saying try to keep a straight face. and OMG I CAN'T lol my son is 15 months. we tell him, "leave it" most of the time. no is when he bites or hits us. which is never anymore.. anyways. I CANNOT keep a straight face sometimes. but he doesn't take it as it's a good thing. he gets his punishment and we laugh about it afterward. usually at his reaction. I know that sounds mean. but we laugh when he falls. (and we know he didn't hurt himself) and he laughs it off and gets up.. he's not a disobedient child. YET lol.. anyways. just had to share that.

Julie - posted on 12/27/2010

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Theoretically? Around 18 months. That being said I don't know that my kids truly understood the meaning of no until they were at least 3.

Febriani - posted on 12/23/2010

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My son understands it since he was 12 months old. I think consistency and reasoning is the ultimate key to get your kid to listen. Baby proofing the house is also very necessary to avoid too much "no" in the house, which can limit their exploring urge.

I tried to keep the house safe from dangerous stuffs, and when I was forced to use the word "No" I always told my son the reason behind it, such as dirty, dangerous, it's not a toy, it's not yours, etc.

good luck

Sandra - posted on 12/20/2010

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thankyou! Kiley ( my daughter) understands NO as well but does it anyway... Dont know if i mentioned that. I think she, as well, is testing boundaries. Good to know this is a normal thing :) Thanks for your imput!!

Melissa - posted on 12/20/2010

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my LG understands 'no', she stops what she's busy with when i ask her. i dont overuse it though, she'l be 9 months on wednesday.

Amira - posted on 12/19/2010

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from 5 or 6 months my daughter wanted to eat the slippers & shoes.. lol so she started to understand the no word 2 days after that

Jen - posted on 12/19/2010

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My Daughter understood no I would say around 9-10weeks. And I KNOW she did. She was trying to suck her thumb ( which we didnt want her to do but have now given in because we don't want to hinder any other learning process by stopping her from putting her hand to her mouth) BUT I would say NO sternly and remove her hand from her mouth, NEVER MEANLY tho. then as she would raise it up there again I would say no in the same tone and she would stop and put her hand back down before putting it in her mouth.

Shandi - posted on 12/19/2010

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My daughter learned "no" at around 7 months. She really knows what it is now. She also knows "that's enough" and "that's a no-no"

Jolene - posted on 12/19/2010

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my daughter knows what no means. u have to start them young otherwise they'll be uncontrollabe in there older years.

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We've have been using "no" for about a month now. Mainly when our 8 month old touches things he is not supposed to. we say it twice, and if he still doesnt listen, we swat his hand. it startles him more than anything. Now he listens the first time (usually). I think it just takes a lot of consistency and standing your ground so your baby knows, when i say no, this is what i mean.

and i dont really think its the word as much as the tone of voice that babies listen to. no, stop, quit. as long as you sound serious and give them that look, they know you mean it. (at least in my case) XD

Dawna - posted on 12/18/2010

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Mine baby girl is 9.5mo and I use the word no but I don't think she understnds the word perse but I think all babies understand tone. Ithink the consequense is also huge importance.... I typically say no and then redirect her attention to something okay. Sometimes she is very persistant and I may have to do it more than once.

Michelle - posted on 12/18/2010

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to be honest it is different with every child. my 16 month old knows thw word no and says it back but still does things she isnt suppose to do. She tho loves to push my buttons like her father. loli first told her no when she was 10 months and had a mouthful of teeth and would always bite, she doesnt bite anymore but still is rebellious

Jerosha - posted on 12/18/2010

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Around 10months but you must watch yourself and be firm when using the word. Always say it with a firm voice and move baby away from what they are doing that is wrong as you say it so that they understand what is not to be done. Children are sent to try us but this is something that we need to get right. Always move them away from the NO or move the No away from them and as hard as it may seem keep a straight face and save the memory for later and then have a good laugh or cry about it.

Lisa - posted on 12/18/2010

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Some babies learn faster than others depending on the social enviroment[number of persons talking around the baby play a big part]. And face to face communication, baby facing you is easier. From eight to twelve months depending on the social enviroment. How you socialise the baby.

Lisa - posted on 12/18/2010

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my son is a year old and since he was 10 months old he knew when we said "no no baby" he was to stop what he was doing. doesn't mean he was happy with it though. or that he'd even obey. but he knows.

Noor-Us-Sabah - posted on 12/18/2010

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By the age of 18 months my baby started understanding the meaning of NO. He is now 20 months and is using the word NO.

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My own mom gave me the best advice ever and i want to share because it is soooo true.

If the behavior is not going to be funny when they are 10 then it can't ever be funny.

once you tell them no and allow them to laugh it off means you have taken a huge step back in being the parent. never laugh at bad behavior in front of the child.

If you don't make them a believer when they are young you are so screwed when they are teenagers because they won't take you seriously.

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From the first time you move their hand away from something and tell them NO firmly. Usually about the time they get mobile.

By the way, saying no does not stunt their creativity, instead, it teaches them self control, right from wrong and gives them parameters.

If you want them to be creative keep them away from video games, tv and cartoons and interact with them instead.

Megan - posted on 12/17/2010

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My son is 10 Months and whenever i tell him no, he lookes at me and smiles, witch i know, he knows what im saying but just kinda ignores me and keeps going, but hes getting pretty good so id say 11months +

Lorraine - posted on 12/17/2010

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In my experience my son is premature and I talk to him and show him why "NO" in deferent ways, and show him with love that I said "NO" but baby's forget thats why I repeat and be patient, they can learn when you less expect it he's going to show you that he learned, sometimes you give the tap in his hand if he did something you did not like and clap if he does it right! Your love is want counts! My son is a year old and I'm still teaching him but he's a good boy he's learning everyday always talk to him, don't guugagaga him that will slow him down in learning!



Hope this is helpful for you!



Sincerely,



Lorraine

Kanda - posted on 12/17/2010

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He understood "no" at 10+ months and fully listened by 12 months, but he's now at the stage where a simple no doesn't hold the same weight. You have to raise your voice just a little when you're saying no and trying to them from harm.

Patti - posted on 12/17/2010

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My son is 9 months and we do use "NO" alot! Which I know is bad... but it just comes out. Well no my sweet little boy when I say "NO" he turns looks at me, then smiles, then moves in slow motion to go after what ever he was going after. So I am pretty sure he knows what I am saying. Little smart ass! Needless to say we have been not using no unless we really mean "NO!"

Tiffany - posted on 12/17/2010

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i think it all depends on the kid my daughter understood no at like 7 months but my son is 11 months and when i tell h im no he still does it each kid is different they could understand but still do it

Jill - posted on 12/16/2010

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Mine too! He is 12 months and I am not sure what he understands most of the time. i am always excited when he does something appropriate, like clapping when others are clapping.

Jauna - posted on 12/15/2010

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My son is 15 months. They may understand the word no. But some (or most) will still do things you tell them not too just to see how many times they can do it before you give up. I know my son understands but he likes to push buttons to really see what he can get away with.

Alejandra - posted on 12/15/2010

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My little monster - her first real word was "NOOO!" This started at around 12 months, but she understood that we said "no" when she was doing something she shouldn't. She would slowly start doing it, all the while watching my husband and me - waiting for our reaction!

Chynetta - posted on 12/15/2010

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My daughter is only 14 months and she understands very well what it mean and even reaches for stuff and say no if i told her not to touch it previously.

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Sandra I don't think time-outs are effective until your child has a good enough vocab to verbalise why they are being put in time-outs at this age, repetition is the key. Oh and I know what you mean with the wires, my son (15 months) will walk up to the wires wait for me to look at him and tell him no touching the wires then continue to do what he is doing until I move to move him - he understands he shouldn't be touching them, he is just seeing how long he can get away with the behaviour, he is learning boundaries. Some days he is really good listens and obeys instantly, other days he wants to push and see, repetition is the key!

Tiffany - posted on 12/14/2010

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I think it varies for every child, but I think around 8 to 10 months is probably the general age? My daughter is almost 14 months and she understands No now...she should, cos I have to say it a lot to my little daredevil lol.

Sandra - posted on 12/14/2010

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I am wondering the same thing. I have a 13 (almost 14) month daughter. She loves going to electrical sockets and anything with a cord. I say no to her and she stops, looks at me and then continues to do it. Other times she'll walk up to it, look to see if im paying attention, and then grab a cord ( or something shes not suppose to) and wait for my reaction. Is it too early to try time outs?

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My son understood what No meant around 8-10 months. We don't really say NO very often- rather, I'll say things like, "please don't do that."

My 20 mo son, on the other hand, uses NO with great vigour and regularity.

Merry - posted on 12/14/2010

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About 8 Months Eric understood no. I started at 6.5 months when he started crawling and he wanted to go in by the dog dish!
He fully understood that no ment stop by 8 months, but he still needed to do trial and error for a long time, like 6 months! He would touch the tv, I say no, he looks at me,touches it again, I say no, and I could see him trying to understand what exactly I wanted him not to do, he would touch the tv stand, I said nothing, then back to the tv, I said no, etc. He needed to learn why I said no and now he is quite good at knowing what I'm saying no to!
I think learning no is the most essential thing you can teach your kid. My friend doesn't use the no word and when her son pulls my sons hair she tried explaining that hurts him, he doesn't like that, that's not nice, and her son never stops. Eric hits a kid, I say no, he doesn't do it again.
He knows he has to respect my word no, and that it's serious that he listen.
You shouldn't be reasoning with them so much that they never get the idea that sometimes mom has to say no and it's for the best to listen.
Dont let no become your favorite word, and praise more then you correct, but no HAS to be used when your kid does something really bad, like hurting another kid!

Bonnie - posted on 12/12/2010

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"Some areas of the rotator cuff tendons have poor blood supply. Thus, the tissue is very slow to heal and maintain itself during normal use"." Repetitive use & abnormal posturing is different from what is commonly called "bad posture" or "slouching." Instead, it is a tendency to hold a particular body position, or to move one or more parts of the body in a particular way". "This can cause strain or sprain of a rotator cuff".

Jessica - posted on 12/12/2010

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I mean she saw another kid do so she did it then I thought what a good idea. Now i only make them put their hands on their head for like a minute. plusits better than a smack on the bum or tap on the hand wich for some reason is illegal in this part of the world and can result in having your kids taken of you by child services.

I find hands on head a good punishment for whilst we are out shopping to if the keep touching things on the shelf.. or when they started fight push or shove...

Bonnie - posted on 12/12/2010

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rotator cuff

–noun
a bandlike structure encircling and supporting the shoulder joint, formed by four muscles attached to and merging with the joint capsule.

Bonnie - posted on 12/12/2010

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Hi Jessica,
I don't think I am understanding why there is a need to have your daughter stand in a corner with her hands on her head for a time out. Did you ask her to put her hands on her head or did she just do that by herself? It concerns me as this is not good for their rotator cuff, it sounds like a bit much. I would ask whats wrong with having her sit in a naughty spot or just stay in one spot while keeping her hands to herself rather than on her head?

Jessica - posted on 12/12/2010

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MARIA: i talk to my babies normally I cannot stand baby talk and the word 'ta' is so not aloud in my my house my 17 mnth old could say thankyou from 12mnths possibly earleir not quite sure my 4 year old was say thankyou at approx 10 mnths... they understood now at about 5mnths... please started a little later lol but miss 17mnth knows what shoes are and bottle (not botbot another word i dont allow in my home hehe) and can actualy say those word to me.. i tell her to get those things and she gets them... she doesnt know how to ask for things properly yet but finds other ways to communicate when she gets up in the night she brings her bottle to me and i fill then she says thankyou and goes straight back to her bed no fuss happy as anything and falls asleep. gee wiz i am rambling lol. 1.30 in the morning head not with it sry

Jessica - posted on 12/12/2010

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redaing through some of the post here i can definately sypathise my 17 mnth old knows how to throw fit and say no back to me now lol but she also understands time out after observing her sister for so long... ne way i say time out and she walks straight over to the wall faces it and puts her hands on her head... the first time she did it it was so funny i was actualy sending her older sister for time out and she thought she was in trouble to and stood their facing the wall for a whole minute with out moving or crying...HEHE

Jessica - posted on 12/12/2010

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Lets hear it for selective hearing YAY!!! and the '"I don't want to" at 4 and 5 years lol

Jessica - posted on 12/12/2010

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a baby doesnt understand the concept of NO until you start to teach them... if bub tried to pull my hair i would gently say no and carfully remove her hand if she bit whist feeding I would say no and then remove her from the breast for a minute... she quickly learnt she couldnt do those things and learnt to understand no by like 5 mnth... i used this process on both my daughters and it worked... The thing is a No has to be firm but gentle and you have to remove them from the thing that they are doing for them to understand...
Kids and babies only know what you teach them... I hope that made sense!!!

Bonnie - posted on 12/12/2010

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Karianna,

Your daughter sounds like a very intelligent little girl. She has already figured out that no does not mean no. It just means that she needs to figure out another way to get what she wants. Most people don't get that until well into adulthood.
:)

Karianna - posted on 12/12/2010

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Yes i would agree that using the word no too often lessens the impact and meaning of it so i make sure i use it for more dangerous situations and try to be consistent. Your little one will understand it from an early age based on consistency and your warning tone of voice... triggers. I have a challenging little girl whos now 18mths and we are in a phase where she will do things irrespective of understanding what no means or not... it's stronger than them! You can expect your babe to start behaving or responding to the ground rules you have been laying down from an early age -quite a lot later like around 18mths-2yrs or so... this is unless you have a little quiet angel at home xxx lol

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