when is it too soon to have another baby????

Cassandra - posted on 12/03/2009 ( 45 moms have responded )

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my daughter is 6 months old and my partner and i really want to have another baby already...is it too soon ????

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Emili - posted on 12/18/2009

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that all depends on you. i had a hard time with my first three. they were all a year and a half to two years apart. it was really hard to keep up with a toddler and a newborn. then there was three years in between my third and fourth and that one year made a huge difference! its soooooo much easier.

Rebekah - posted on 12/11/2009

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My OB said to wait 1 year and recommends 18 months... longer if you had a c-section.

Cory - posted on 12/07/2009

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My little girl is 16 months yesterday, and is a very very good baby. I have had no problems with anything at all. She listens to the best of her ability, and always sleeps,however it is more and more time consuming now that she is walking, touching everything, meaning tables are now not quite high enough, everything possible to find on the ground is being brought to me. She is talking, asking questions, short questions like who's tha, whats that, why???, i love this stage and i would not change anything about her. she is as i said a great little addition to our lives. However, i can not imagine having another baby at this point in her life. My husband and i are planning on trying for another around the middle of next year. I feel that letting her be a baby as long as possible is best for her. That being said My little sister and i are 16 months apart, and it was great, however i do see how being a big sister so young you have more resposiblities, and you tend to grow up alot faster. Just my thoughts.

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Shauna - posted on 12/10/2012

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There are studies that show at least a 2 year age gap is best for the oldest child's math and english skills. My husband and I wanted another right after our son was born but that faded after a while (think it was the elation and hormones). Like another mother said on here too, they grow up. They won't be those cute babies that basically just sleep, eat, and poop forever. Soon she will be mobile, getting into things, and having tantrums. I couldn't imagine having 2 under 2, or 1! My son is 26 months now and just getting his little attitude. Couldn't imagine having another while dealing with him at his worst moments. I personally would recommend waiting 'til your daughter is 18 months to try for a 2nd.

Becca - posted on 12/10/2012

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well you should ask your doctor when u could start having sex again and if he says it's OK now then you are all ready to go to having another child

Lisa - posted on 12/04/2012

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I'm looking to have another baby as well, my son is 6 months old now so would be a year and half by the time number 2 is Herr but my husband is worried it will be too much stress. I think I could cope though. His main worry is ne chasing my son round while I'm heavily pregnant but I've told him it would be harder if Logan was running about not just crawling. What do people think? Xx

Lauren - posted on 01/29/2010

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I can't tell you if its too soon because i had lost my first baby then i got pregnant 3 months later, but i had complications with my second baby because my body didn't get to do the healing back together thing you should at least wait a year before you end up having another child. Having a baby does alot to your body so just wait a little while you have all the time in the world to have another blessing

Alexis - posted on 01/28/2010

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My son is 5 1/2 months old and i want another one..lol..but its also not healthy to get back at it again after you'd just had one..I heard from alot of doctors on this to wait at least 2 years..coz your body needs the time to get back to normal and to heal. But again its up to you if you both are ready for another one..but i suggest you talk to you doc about it to



My best wishes for you both:)

Ashley - posted on 01/28/2010

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Haha well when my son was barely three months old I got pregnant again .... WITH TWINS.

I think medically they like you to wait a year, but if you decide to try before then, they just keep a slightly closer eye on you! Your decision should be based on what YOU can handle, medically you should be okay now! :)

Stephanie - posted on 01/26/2010

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me and my fiance have a 4 month old daughter and we been talking bout having another but im on depo now so we cant try until she is like 7 months but im not 100% wat we are going to do. but i say go ahead if you both are ready!!

Sara - posted on 01/26/2010

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I depends on you guys, and if you think you can handle it. My sister has 7, and #8 is due in April. No multiple pregnancies, very healthy kids. Her oldest is 11 and her youngest is 2. You do the math. :P

Jess - posted on 01/26/2010

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I don't miss being pregnant because it doesn't agree with me, but I miss looking forward to the arrival of a new baby, its such a huge deal and now that its over I feel like I have nothing look forward too :( I want another baby soo badly but I also want my body to be in the best condition possible to grow a healthy baby. I don't think its fair to your unborn baby to not give them the best ! My doctor says it take 2 years for your body to fully recover. My partner and I will be waiting at least 2 years.... I can't justify taking any chances !!!

Iysha - posted on 01/26/2010

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My mom's mother had 4 kids all 11 months apart. I don't think you can get much closer than that. My mom had me and my sister almost 4 years apart. My MIL has a 25 year old son and a 13 year old daughter and a 10 year old daughter. There is a pretty large gap between my Fiance and my SILs. If you and your partner want one now...have one now. Nobody's stopping you =]

Roxanne - posted on 01/26/2010

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I don't think so. Me and my boyrfiend just had our bbay girl in September of 2009 and we already want another one! =)

Meghan - posted on 01/26/2010

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My Daughter was born on April 09, of 2009. I'm due with my Second Daughter on March 06, 2010. She will be 11mo old when my second baby is born. I really missed being pregnant. Its a strange and almost Lonely feeling. The only big downfall of getting preggy so soon after giving birth is, that my body hadn't gone back to 'normal'. I hadn't lost all of the pregnancy weight from my first. Also my body has been really sore throughout this whole pregnancy b/c my joints hadnt healed completely.
pros and cons i suppose. good luck.

Carly - posted on 12/29/2009

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Oh my god hun you just took the question right out of my mouth! Lol, I am desperate for another! I look at pregnant women with envy! My son is 11 weeks old and all I can think about is how much I want a brother or sister for him. Me & my brothers were close, my mum had the 3 of us in 4 years and Im glad she did. I always think about Xmas' and holidays when my Son would be older and how lonely he would be on his own! It's like giving them a full time play mate! Lol, I am really lucky and my son is a star and although I am aware the next may not be as good I really don't care. They way I am feeling I'd have 10 babies! Some women are just born mothers and obviously we are! :) Let us know when you have deicided to try again or if you fall preggers :) All the love in the world to you & your family :) xx

Jenna - posted on 12/29/2009

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I say to wait until your first child is 1 or more. Enjoy all the milestones of your first. My daughter and son are 20 months apart. I wish i would of waited alot longer to have my son because i did miss out on the one on one time with my daughter and it was easier with just one. Having two babies was harder although i was a stay at home mom but it was a pain having to get both babies ready to go to the store or to do anything for that matter. Just seems like you miss out on certain things with each child because your busy with the other one vice versa. Now im 7 in half months prego with my third not planned so now my third is going to be 30 months apart with my middle child. So im going to have a baby, a 4 year old and a almost 3 year old. Im going to be one busy busy mom.

Ruth - posted on 12/27/2009

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no one can tell you when youre ready for another baby.

personally i want my babies close together in age. 3 years MAX! life for them will be so much happier with a sibling close in age. they'll never feel lonely. so if that's what youre looking for, 15 months apart is a great place to be.

Kristina - posted on 12/27/2009

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my son is 5 months old and we had a pregnancy scare when he was 2 months old....we were a little excited to be honest but we were actually happy when we found out i wasnt....we are using birth control and we are looking to have another when i am finished with school in 2 years then i will be almost 23 and he will be 26 and our son will be going on 3 it will be a good time for us...so whatever is a good time for you!!!!

Sarah - posted on 12/27/2009

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Im wanting another one as soon as i can
I want all my kids to be close in age
My son will be 2mnths on new years eve and we are trying
The thing is my son isnt his biological
And we are gettin maried in Feb
But if you think your ready GO FOR IT
Im already trying
GOOD LUCK!!

Cynthia - posted on 12/19/2009

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my daughter is only a month old and we are considering another one. it took me the first day to conceive her so it should be pretty easy for when i go for my second

Ruma - posted on 12/19/2009

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wait 6 more months and then start trying for the second one.Will you be able to take care of him with all the morning sickness ?

Mikayla - posted on 12/19/2009

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after having my son i really wanted another one soon after but i think thats just a natural feeling, hes now 6months and altho i do want another one the feeling isnt as strong and i now think i will wait untill hes 9months and that way when the lil one is born there willbe at least 18months gap.

Emili - posted on 12/18/2009

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i just read about the csections. i just had my fourth csection 7 months ago. i have had them all within 6 years and im fine! :)

DAWN - posted on 12/18/2009

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I do not think it is too soon!! you know your body best & I say go for it when you are ready!!! ;o) (& they will always be close siblings!)

Mattee - posted on 12/18/2009

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Quoting Trish:



Quoting Nicole:

Im glad you asked this question... My daughter is only a mth and 2 wks old... Me and my husband are already talking abt having another baby. We want to but at the same time you cant forget reality. I dont feel alone anymore in wanting a baby soon after :)





I felt I wanted another baby straight away and still feel the same way about having another baby now but i'm scared getting pregnant will open my c-section.. my child is nearly 4 months old, he is really well behaved and sleeps through the night so basically i'm worried about my health and wanT your opinions .. thanks xx





My son is only 4 1/2 weeks  old, and I feel ya both on this one! My husband and I talked it over and we are going to stop trying not to concieve when he is 9 months old. Some would say it's to soon, but I really don't care what they think. It's not their family... it's ours :)

Richelle - posted on 12/18/2009

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Wow, good on you. The thought has crossed my mind too..but my partner doesnt want another.. i dont know what to do.. i desperatley want 100+ kids hah, but i know the hubby doesnt want to. Maybe you should get your hubby to call my hubby and convince him to have another 20 haha =]

Kelsey - posted on 12/12/2009

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Im going to wait till my daughters about 2 before I try for another one. I just had a pregnancy scare yesturday and was warming up to the idea of already having another one. My daughter is almost 6 mos. But In a big way Im glad Im not, that would be so hard!

Chelle - posted on 12/12/2009

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Quoting Trish



 



I felt I wanted another baby straight away and still feel the same way about having another baby now but i'm scared getting pregnant will open my c-section.. my child is nearly 4 months old, he is really well behaved and sleeps through the night so basically i'm worried about my health and wanT your opinions .. thanks xx






just want to say my mum had three c-secs in 4 years and she was 100% fine.



my mum fell pregnant with me 1year 3months after having my sister and then fell pregnant 3months after having me.



but all womens bodies are different and some may cope better then others with all the streching on the scar tissue

Chelle - posted on 12/12/2009

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i started to try for another when my daughter was 3 and half months....i fell pregnant within the 1st week of tryin!!.... so my kids will be 12 months 20 days apart. one born may 8th and the other due may 28th.
i thought id get starting for another baby soon after my daughter because she took 7-8 months of tryin. but im more then happy with the outcome...they will be so close

Crystal - posted on 12/12/2009

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i have 2 kids that are 18 months apart and my only piece of advice is that it wasn't that hard on the body but once my son was born even being a stay at home mom i really missed my one on one time with my daughter i wish that we would have waited you get so busy dealing with baby sometime the youngest can get left out. But it really doesn't matter now that they are older they are best buddies. good luck

Kristin - posted on 12/11/2009

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I think that as soon as you're ready, it's fine to have another baby. I want another, but I'm waiting until my body has time to fully bounce back and I have time to really enjoy it before I get pregnant again.

Kristy Lee - posted on 12/10/2009

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we had our boy 9moths ago just got married and really really want another one now!!!!! but worried about what others will think?

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Quoting Nicole:

Im glad you asked this question... My daughter is only a mth and 2 wks old... Me and my husband are already talking abt having another baby. We want to but at the same time you cant forget reality. I dont feel alone anymore in wanting a baby soon after :)


I felt I wanted another baby straight away and still feel the same way about having another baby now but i'm scared getting pregnant will open my c-section.. my child is nearly 4 months old, he is really well behaved and sleeps through the night so basically i'm worried about my health and wanT your opinions .. thanks xx

Carrie - posted on 12/08/2009

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They say it takes you 9 monthe to have the baby and 12 months to recover, I would consult ur doc. Your body may not be ready for it due to the strain that a preg can put on it.

Ashlyn - posted on 12/07/2009

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my son is 14 months old. & I really want another baby too. Anytime both partners are ready, then go for it!!!

Nicole - posted on 12/07/2009

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Im glad you asked this question... My daughter is only a mth and 2 wks old... Me and my husband are already talking abt having another baby. We want to but at the same time you cant forget reality. I dont feel alone anymore in wanting a baby soon after :)

Cassandra - posted on 12/06/2009

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lol, thanks karlee, will do, and thanks to the rest of you all your adviced has given me a clearer point of view, i know your situation well karlee zalia too is 6mnths, no problems sleeping or feeding, the perfect baby, and all my friends in the last week have had all there babies and the longing for another child has just become even stronger, but my partner has now made a desision that he would like us to wait as he works 14hr days and is only really here during the night, he feels tht it might be alittle too stressful although he did the night shift wen zalia was newborn, he still thinks it would be a good idea to wait...wich makes things hard on me as the feeling of wanting another child is getting stronger and stronger, i dont want it causing problems between us...

Karlee - posted on 12/06/2009

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I have been umming and aaaring the same as you!! Our daughter is 6mth and has been a total dream so far. I havent had issues with sleeping, feeding etc etc and she is a placid baby and no trouble at all....BUT i am aware that the next may not be so easy and i have made the decision (sorry i should say my husband and i..haha) that we will wait until she is a toddler (18mth) and see how we go with that before trying again!! Its very hard as i too look at newborns and pregnant people and look forward to doing it all again...but my head for some reason says wait. At the end of the day, if you feel emotionally, mentally and financially ready for number 2, go fo it...and keep me posted on your progress ha ha!! I could be swayed yet :o)

Tamara - posted on 12/05/2009

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well ur body is ready n u are ready anytime, i had my son 12 weeks ago and im pregnant again even thou we used protection im 6 weeks so i suppose go for it wen ur ready

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If you and your partner are ready, then go for it! Maybe talk it over with your Dr. first to make sure your body is in the right condition for it, but really, it's ultimately up to you and your partner. Some of my friends say I'm starting way too early for baby number 2, but in the end, my daughter will be 1 year and almost 9 months older than her baby sibling.

Michelle - posted on 12/03/2009

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no way does it interfere with development.....!i have seven, the closest are just over 12 months apart. the only thing i would say is a bit of a negative is that when u have them close like that its pretty hard on your body...but then i have had 5 in 6 yrs so that may have something to do with it! i have found its easier having them closer as they end up being really good mates...good luck!

Cassandra - posted on 12/03/2009

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thank you, you really are ready and i never expected to want another baby as much as i do already, when she was 1mnth old i wanted another but tried holding out as long as possible, but i dont think holding out anymore is wat we really want to do, and was concerned tht it would effect my daughter in her development...

Dana - posted on 12/03/2009

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I was ready about 2 months after i had my son..haha! he is now 1 and we are going to wait until he is around 18 months to try for the second one. It toke us 6 months to concieve my son, so i don't know about this one. They say it takes your body about a year to get back to normal (but i don't know if that really matters if you want to wait or not). i say if you have the time and patience and you are both ready..then go for it.

Andrea - posted on 12/03/2009

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Only you can answer that dear.. My kids our 18 month and 4 say apart... Harley was 11 months but we had not been trying but hadn't been not trying.. It took us 4 months to get prego again.. So if it would have went like we planned it to be he would have been 7 months old... I think if you and you partner are ready then go for it.. Hope this is helpful... Best Wishes and Take Care.... Good luck...

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