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Cassondra - posted on 10/07/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )

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there is a chance right now that i could be pregnant. my husband and i have a 8 month old girl and a 2 yr old boy. we weren't planning on haveing any more. at least not right now. we used protection and i am on the pill. the other night i asked him if he wants another one and he said no. it kind of hurt my feelings. i have been thinking that when i am done with school about possibly having another one. but then he said that. i dont know if i should confront him about it or not. but the more i think about it the more i get depressed. i feel that he is making a decision for me. i just don't know. help please!

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Suzanne - posted on 10/08/2009

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my husband and i have a 4 month old and he has mentioned that if we were to decide now about having more children his vote woul be no, but later his answer might be different. timing is everything when deciding to try for more kids or not. definately find out if you're preggo before saying anything to him and take heart in the fact that your husband may change his mind about having more as time goes on. try not to dwell on his current answer. it will just make you sad and that's not necessary or helpful.

Hanna - posted on 10/08/2009

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I agree that you should try to find out for sure...If you are pregnant, than that's just the way it is. I would think he would get used to the idea. After all, it's not as tho you tried to make it happen; on the contrary. God has a plan for each one of you, as well as each one of your children, be they inside or out :) Keep your head up! Remember, you have 2 beautiful kids already, and you have nothing to be ashamed of!

Kristin - posted on 10/07/2009

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You have an 8 month old... anything your husband says can be colored by a lack of sleep. He may be totally overwhelmed and appalled at the thought of doing it all again right now, but that could change if/when he finds out. If you end up not being pregnant, just give him some time to settle into the dad of an infant routine again before deciding anything. I really liked a book I read recently called, "I'd Trade My Husband for a Housekeeper." It reminds you to think about things several different ways and has some great advice for keeping your marriage strong. It WILL be ok... If you turn out to be pregnant, it may take awhile, but I bet your husband comes around. Let us know how it turns out.

Brittany - posted on 10/07/2009

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Hello, Cassondra, you and your husband our a team, he is more than just your husband he is also your best friend, your lover, and at times even your teacher, dont be afraid to talk to him, although the said he didnt want anymore kids he might be very excited about it. First just find out if you really are pregnant and if you are sit him down and muster up all the courage you have and talk ot him about the pregnancy and even if you arent pregnant still talk to him and let him know how you are feeling. wish you all the best, God bless

Laura - posted on 10/07/2009

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Have you taken a test yet? I wouldn't bring it up with your husband until you know for sure. Men are never ready for another baby because they get nervous about having another mouth to feed and that can be very scary for them. Try not to get too worked up over it until you know for sure and then calmly discuss the matter with him. I thought that I might be pregnant a few months after our daughter was born but it was a false alarm. I was torn because I didn't feel that I was ready for another baby but then when I found out that I wasn't pregnant I was sad! It's such an emotional topic-I'll keep you in my prayers!!

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