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TIFFANY - posted on 05/24/2009 ( 1 mom has responded )

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MY EXHUSBAND COMMITED SUCIDE ON NOVEMBER 30,2006, MY DAUGHTER WAS LIVING WITH BOTH OF US AT THE TIME. WE FOUND OUT A COUPLE OF DAYS LATER THAT HE GOT INTO TROUBLE AT THE SCHOOL HE WAS TEACHING AT AND WAS ASKED TO RESIGN WHEN 2 COPS AND A CHILD'S MOTHER SHOWED UP AT SCHOOL TO PRESS CHARGES AGAINST HIM..

MY DAUGHTER KEEPS ASKING ME HOW HE DIED AND ALL I HAVE TOLD HER SO FAR WAS THAT HER DADDY WAS OUTSIDE AND HE GOT VERY SICK AND BABY JESUS CAME DOWN AND TOOK HIM TO HEAVEN. I DONT KNOW WHAT ELSE TO TELL HER. SHE ONLY ASKS ABOUT HIM OR THELLS US THAT SHE MISSES HIM WHEN ME AND MY HUSBAND FUSS OR PUNISH HER I DONT KNOW WHAT ELSE TO DO I NEED SOME ADVISE. HAS ANYONE EXPERIENCED SOMETHING LIKE THIS?



THANKS FOR LISTENING



TIFFANY LANDRY

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Catrina - posted on 05/26/2009

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My son is 10 now, his father committed suicide 10.23.00 and I have not had to face the questions. His father's mother has told my son that Daddy went to sleep and didn't wake up. I fear the day I have to actually tell him what happened. I know I can't live the rest of my life or his without telling him the truth. My ex had physically abused me and that night came within inches of our sons face...who was only 19 months old at the time......I have no reason why he felt he had no other choice. No note, not video no signs.



I am sorry Tiffany that you are having to face this extremely tough question. I almost would re-direct her and ask her what makes her miss or think of her dad when you are punishing her or fussing....just what's she thinking about? One thing my son and I still do to this day, is get balloons. I let him write on them, whatever he wants, and he lets them go to his dad. It's a great release for him. I can see it in his expressions. Today was my nephews birthday party, and all the kids got balloons --- my son convinced my other son (4 yr old) to let the balloon he had go too so that his dad would know that even his brother knows about him and thinks about him. Some things are just left better unsaid. But I would seriously get her talking.

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