The moment you knew you were officially "a mom"

Bethany - posted on 03/17/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )

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Hey ladies...I just thought we could talk about that moment when we all officially felt like or knew we had become "moms".

Here's my story. I am so not maternal by nature and wasn't "excited" to become a mom even though we had planned this pregnancy and I knew that I didn't want to not have kids (does that make sense?). Anyway- I was really scared that I wouldn't bond with my baby and that I would realise after he was born that I had been mistaken and I really didn't want kids! So, when Eric was born I really didn't have that love at first sight experience. He was taken away to have his lungs suctioned so I didn't even know he was a he or get a glimpse of him for at least 5 minutes after he was born (even for non-maternal me it felt like a really long time.)

Anyway- to get to the point! Eric was born Friday night. On Sunday morning he still wasn't nursing very well. I had just tried to feed him and was alone with him in the hospital room. Then it hit me like a ton of bricks! I wanted to help him eat so badly! I would have done anything to get that nourishment into his little body. That was the first moment that I felt that overwhelming love that everyone talks about and it truly was amazing! Suddenly I understood what my mom had been feeling every time she told me that if she could be sick instead of me she would in a heart beat. I would have gone without food forever if it meant he would eat!

Anyone else want to share?

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Ashley - posted on 09/08/2010

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when i had my daughter i got to kiss her on the head and the doctors rook her cause she was 6 weeks early..when i got to see her she was in an incubator with a cpap on..i couldnt hold her all i could do was touch her. they took her to childrens hospital...the next day i went down there and they let me hold her...the moment i knew i was a mom was when she opened her eyes and looked at me and gave me a lil smirk...thats when i knew i was a mom..till this day it still gets me

Bethany - posted on 03/23/2009

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Sara- you are too funny! I'm sure if someone asked my husband this question his answer would have something to do with not caring about bodily fluids like he thought he would. He's always amazing himself at what he's willing to touch or clean!

Amie- I was TERRIFIED of baby pee until one day (around 6 weeks, I think) Eric and I went on a road trip all by ourselves...and I drove for over an hour in pee-soaked jeans- that cured my phobia! haha!

Mel- I'm going to print out your last paragraph and keep it for Oren's wedding- just to warn his wife what a crazy MIL you are going to be! haha! You have to move home before he starts bringing girls home- so I can hold your hand and tell you it's be all right :~) Hmm...or maybe I'll keep it for when he's 40 and you are complaining that he's still living in your basement! Just to prove that it really is your own fault! haha!

Melissa - posted on 03/23/2009

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I think the first time I officially felt like a mom was while in the hospital after delivering. Oren was very jaundice and I was so upset I couldn't provide enough food for him (my milk took a little bit longer to come in). I did everything in my power to provide for him. I would pump after every feed, whatever ever they suggested I did. I was exhausted, but the only thing I wanted to do was provide for my son.

The other time that really stands out in my mind, is when Oren was about a month old, I was talking to him while nursing. I came to the realization that some day he would love someone more then me and I started to cry. At that moment, I decided that I would make him a momma's boy so no woman would ever compare to his mommy!!hahahha

Amie - posted on 03/22/2009

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Quoting Sara:

I think I felt like I had been initiated as a mom when my baby projectile pooped on me and I really didn't mind all that much. In fact, I laughed hysterically as I cleaned us both up...

But being a mom is better than I could have imagined. I never thought I could love another person SO much. I love my daughter so much, it hurts.


hahaha.. this reminded me of when I had my son. I was so worried he'd pee on me when we were in the hospital but he never did. Then as soon as we got home I had to go change him since he messed himself. As soon as I took his diaper off he wee'd all over me! LOL! Boys can aim... even at that age.. I swear it. LOL!!!

Sara - posted on 03/22/2009

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I think I felt like I had been initiated as a mom when my baby projectile pooped on me and I really didn't mind all that much. In fact, I laughed hysterically as I cleaned us both up...



But being a mom is better than I could have imagined. I never thought I could love another person SO much. I love my daughter so much, it hurts.

Amie - posted on 03/20/2009

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For me it was about the 12 week mark. I think, mighta been earlier, can't remember what week I was but it was early in my pregnancy. I got to hear my 1st babies heartbeat for the very first time, I think that was the 12 week appointment. :S lol Now I feel old it was so long ago. haha. I do remember feeling so overwhelmed with love and starting to cry though. My doctor stopped what she was doing and since I was laid out on the bed leaned over me and gave me a hug. She tried reassuring me all would be alright. I had to stop blubbering long enough to tell her I wasn't upset or scared I was happy! She gave me another hug and laughed and said oh ok well that's a good thing! Before that I knew obviously I was having a baby and knew what the impact would be on my life (I was 17 when I got pregnant with my 1st) but I didn't fully comprehend how much I could love another person or how much I would want to do whatever I could to ensure that had a terrific life until that moment. At that moment it became real, I had created life. =)

Bethany - posted on 03/18/2009

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Oh, Kara- that must have been so scary! I hope everything has turned out ok...

And I totally agree about the motherhood=worry! I always thought I was a worrywart before- but I knew NOTHING about real worry before I got pregnant!

Thanks for sharing your stories! :~D

Kara - posted on 03/17/2009

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My mothering instinct kicked in at about 20 weeks of being pregnant! It was the time when I was told there was something wrong with my baby, something they didnt know much about... if anything at all!!! But that he would most likely need immediate surgery, I feel that mother hood is full of being worried and at that time I worried so much for my un born son!!! I was actually very lucky when he was first born, the team of 11 specialiasts placed him on my chest for at least 5 mins before they started examining him, that I fealt truely blessed because I was emotionally prepared for them to take immediate medical action!!

Alycia - posted on 03/17/2009

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Well my son was a suprise...but it was exciting, I have always been motherly even to friends so I didn't worry so much about not knowing what to do or anything, I felt inside that I was capable. Once he was born and being in the hospital even though he was in the room with me it wa sjust wierd it didn't feel like it was my life, I felt I was helping someone else. Finally when we got released from the hospital and we pulled up in front of our house...it hit me like a punch outta nowhere, this little being is all mine...no nurses or people butting in, his every need or demand is completely my responsability now and for the next 18 years. It was overwhelming and exciting, and after that moment the mother in me kicked in full gear and I've been trucking on feeling confident in my abilities ever since then!



Occasionally I have an emotional moment where it all catches up to me and I look at him and cry, I have never been so in love or so emotionally consumed by one person in my life...he is beautiful and he is mine...I am MOM!

Sabrina - posted on 03/17/2009

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When my son was born he had a bowel movement inside of me so they had to take him away right away to the nicu. I got to see him for maybe a min before they took him. I was so worried that he wasn't going to be ok, even though its something they (the docs) deal with everyday. Then on the first night I was so scared because he stayed in the room with me and he slept for 6 hours straight. He was my first so I was so scared that he wasn't going to wake up and that something was wrong.



Sometimes I still don't feel like a mommy, its wierd like I know he is my son and I'm his mom but sometimes I just get an overwhelming feeling like....I'm a mommy, he depends on me and no one else. It is the greatest feeling in the world.



I was shocked when my husband and I found out we were expecting, I was on birth control so he def wasn't planned, but everything happens for a reason and I couldn't imagine my life without him.

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