is it all a bunch of weirdo goths in here or something?

Ashley - posted on 05/06/2012

I'm not a weirdo goth, but I am a tattoo'd new mommy. I have a great son & wonderful boyfriend. I'm more of a hippie mom. Being wiccan/pagan, I'm sort of drawn to earthy type things. Looking for new mommies to converse with, and create friendships. =]

Shannon - posted on 03/31/2012

I'm tattooed bit goth tea drinking doll collector. I have two super kids.



Come read my blog =)

http://dollhouseliving.blogspot.com/

Shauna - posted on 01/06/2011

well, i'm not a weirdo goth. i am more of on outrageous exhibitionist slut.

REBECCA- I LOVE IT!!!!

Im an outrageous slut myself ... thats how i met my husband.

Julianne - posted on 11/25/2010

hahaa i just joined this community. Seems like something i would enjoy :D im not goth.....but sometimes i wear all black...for extended periods of time....i do mix it up wit the neons...hehehe...sometimes i feel like being more earthy.... im a thrift store junky...i like outrageous hair dreads are my thing now...i like punk rock, metal, reggae indie smooth rolling music...So does my 11 month old.. we have a band together actually...i play guitar and she the bongos...i love everyone so if your reading this...love you!!!!! i love freedom as well....freedom of the mind!!!!!! :D:D:D

Ashleigh - posted on 09/18/2010

hi to everyone on here am new this this form, am a mom thats a lil werid am a metal head n goth so had a hard time fitting in anywhere am 22, my son is 3 hes in love w Iron Madian his song is hallow be thy name its his song thats wat he tells me... His father his married n having another one but is all fine w me am w amzing man in my life hes all metal n his concert shirts n etc... he's a great w my son n my son love him... My son even wants a tattoo for his bday but had to tell him not yet bc me n my hubby r tattooed so he wants one....but at less am not the only person thats a lil diff

Kimberly - posted on 07/02/2010

Nah, we're all kinds of alternative on here. I'm a pagan, married to a pseudo Druid/Shaman, who has entirely too many pets who are our other kids. We go to Conventions and do costuming and I'm a history/anthropology major who's attempting to put her grandmother's turn of the century Victorian home back into order and some semblance of period correctness with new lighting and furniture. We come in all sizes and shapes love.

Kristi - posted on 05/20/2010

i noticed no one talks here i figured this was the place to find people that would have "different" ideas about how to raise a baby

Mitsi - posted on 05/19/2010

Hello my name is Mitsi. Not sure what you would call me anymore. I am an ex goth. Still love the goth scene but like alot of others now that im a mom its in character only outwardly you would never know lol. The clothes are just too expensive. Though i am pregnant now. Once i have the baby and lose a little weight im considering treating myself. Im with the man of my dreams. Our life focus' around music and our kids. We live in a small hillbilly town in Texas so we are considered "scarey" around here. When me and my husband first got together everyone who knew us only had one comment. I hope they never have kids....they were scared we would have the spawn of satan but i dont think so.

Krista - posted on 04/26/2010

Hi, I just joined, and hope you don't mind. I'm pretty "normal"-looking on the outside but I do have an unconventional, rebellious streak, and think that every mother should be free to express herself and be herself without all kinds of ridiculous, conventional bullcrap of what a mother "should" look like or be like. As long as you love your child and take good care of him/her, then that's all that matters, in my book.

Shannon - posted on 04/18/2010

wow...I was really enjoying reading down through these posts! I love people who aren't afraid to be themselves! Hope to see some moms breath some life back into this community!

Cindy - posted on 04/17/2010

LOL! No. I am wayyy far from goth my dear friend. Lol

I am new to this group though and will be on it alot because this is the best group ever! Finally a group for the Mom's who are "different"

April - posted on 04/13/2010

Hey, I'm Mina, not really goth, or hippy or normal either....n I have 3 daughters just like me xD

Summer - posted on 04/13/2010

Hello! Just stopping by! I'm Summer, I'm 26, living in the Netherlands but from England. I have a 3 month old daughter, Olieve, I love punk rock, ska, 60's etc. and pole/gogo dancing! hahahahaha I'd class myself as al;ternative, whatever that is!!!

Annette - posted on 04/07/2010

Hi everyone...........what a breath of fresh air; a post where people are really honest!

Rebecca, I just love your initial description of yourself. I secretly love the reaction I get when I describe myself as a slut too. hehehe.

I think you will end up with a lot of Aussies responding to this thread; we have a habit of telling it like it is & as Victoria says, if people don't like it......they can go fuck themselves.

Anyway, I'm not a goth, I don't have any tattoos, I don't have any piercings below my neck, I hate the thought that I would ever be described as a soccer mum, I'm divorced 7 years, I'm bisexual, I have 16yo twin boys, I love to have too much sex (with partner/s or just on my own), I hate wearing clothes, I love sunbathing naked (the sun on me makes me super horny), I love shocking people, I don't shave my pubic hair, I love the attention my bush attracts (who'd have thought??) & I love the freedom I have earned by the choices I have made.

I hope you are all as happy as I am.

xxx Annette

Tiffanni - posted on 03/12/2010

Hey there, seems like it's been awhile since this thread was commented in but I'm hoping to get things restarted, I'd love to talk to other "Alternative" moms. I come from a long line of them... my mom, my sister, my aunt, etc. I'm 20, married, with two beautiful daughters. Me and hubby are in the swinging lifestyle... we have threesomes with women, men, and swap with couples. Ultimately I'd love to have just my hubby and a steady girlfriend but with living in NH I've found no luck with a woman that doesn't care about what others think long enough to be in a steady relationship with a married woman. I don't know if I'm a sterotype, I have five piercings and two tats, hoping to get more... I have my days of dressing "normal" and then I have my days where it's more of a "goth/punk" look. Right now my hair is an everyday nondescript brown, just waiting until it's longer to go back to my black/pink. Hubby is pretty normal, more of a "rocker" sort of person... he only has a half-sleeve tat, a special piercing ;), and a mohawk done by me! :) OUr sex life is pretty freaky, into some things that most people wouldn't consider even doing, but I won't elaborate on that. My biggest things in the bedroom are spanking, hair pulling, biting, light bondage, and name calling. He is my "Master" so to speak without being into heavy BDSM.

My oldest, Abbigail, is just about to turn two, and is quite the hellion. Dirty blonde curls, beautiful blue eyes, she'd seem like the perfect angel, but she's actually the complete opposite when not in the company of others... trying to get her not to stay stuff like "fuck", "fucking", "asshole", and "douche".... at least not until she's old enough to really understand what they mean and that there are places they are not to be said.

My second daughter, Kayden, is just three months old and looks exactly like daddy, except for her mysterious strawberry blonde hair, lol. She has the same beautiful blue eyes as my other daughter, and so far is usually calm and the "perfect" baby. Don't get me wrong... there are those bad days/nights but she's still the angel of the two.

AJ - posted on 01/12/2010

LOVE it i'm glad to see there are more people that wondered why everyone didnt seem to communicate in this group HA

Alicia - posted on 01/12/2010

Hello Ladies!

I'm a total wierdo and devoted mummy of a boy 2 1/2 and a girl due in 7 weeks. reading your posts i feel like I"M HOME! i live in a small town in australia where individuality is not encouraged. I guess you'd call me an 'ex-goth' as i look pretty 'normal' these days. It's impossible and dangerous to wear a corset while pregnant, and all my 'blacks' are too small, and faded from the various baby fluids that have been cleaned off them in the last couple of years lol! My leaning is sort of Goth/Retro i guess. I'd be the one in a black gingham apron and fishnets baking cookies with Marilyn Manson blaring in the background, lol! I'm also a witch, and i try to be very green.When i'm not pregnant i have a massive corset addiction, and can be really out of hand kinky if i don't keep a lid on it. I'm bisexual and just plain spooky to most people. My husband is a total stereotypical aussie male, hard working, sport obsessed, straight as an arrow BLOKE. We are so different it's funny. We are absinthe and beer lol! Our son is a sweet little man when he wants to be, a veritible little devil whenever he can get away with it. he's totally sport obsesssed like his dad, but has enough quirkiness about him that i know he's mine. We all work really well together despite the differences. would love to know more aussie mums like me : )

Suzanne - posted on 06/02/2009

....this is one of the best threads found =)

Well, I guess I'll introduce myself.

I'm 32 and live in Adelaide, Australia. I've lost contact with most of my friends due to them all moving away, but I have an amazing man (the sex is always exciting) and two amazing children. My son, Jake 5, is sensitive, feeling, affectionate and witty. My daughter, Kira 3, is artistic, loving, thinking and a bit shy at first.

I guess this group spoke to me because I'm different to most people I know. I'm pierced, tattooed, into punk and hard rock....mostly unlike all the other mums at school/kindy. heehee, but I don't care.

Any mums in this group from Aus????

Kelli - posted on 04/21/2009

Looks like everyone should be talking to each other a little more!

Rebecca - posted on 04/20/2009

so do your kids love you being alternative or do they have problems with it?

Catherine - posted on 04/16/2009

Hiya Doom

Stacy - posted on 04/16/2009

It would appear that this has become an introduction thread so im rollin with it.
My name is Stacy Von Doom (as my ppl know me, and yes i have ppl hahaha)
Im unclassifiable, as in im a class of my own ;]
I have visible tattoos and usually brightly colored hair or at least exciting hair.
My ears are gaged to 9/16.
I was a break dancer and stripper for 7 1/2 years.
When I was growing up I went from being a hardcore gutter punk to being a hardcore candy raver always with a little ghetto in me...
I listen to everything from electronic music to metal - punk - dirty south crunk - indie - drum and bass (although i know this classifies as electronic its in a class of its own) 80's pop... ok ok so i like music!!
I speak fluent ebonics.
Im American, I live in the states in Florida. Soon to be near the beach, where in my opinion is the only place TO live in your stuck in Florida as I am.
I am engaged to the most amazing man I have ever known.
We are in a totally monogamous relationship and have DOPE sex which is way super important!!
I have two totally awesome little boys, Saiyan and Collin ( 6 1/2 and 2 1/2)
They rule!!
Im agnostic and so is my man.
He is super hot, he has a platinum blond mohawk.
Oh yeah. I have terrible AD/HD.
Our favorite holiday is Halloween, we make a big deal out of it.
Its also my youngest son's birthday.
Im into movies, good movies that don't suck.
I like horror, gore, asian thrillers, slasher flicks, comedies, thrillers, indie flicks, and of course disney cartoons.
Im a big ball of fun if you get me out of the house.... speaking of house, I am primarily a stay at home mom although I recently started promoting a weekly electronic party at a local bar.
So hey... its nice to virtually meet all of you!

-teh d00m

Catherine - posted on 04/15/2009

I'm not goth, I'm an old punk though I can't afford to do my hair anymore *laughs* Though I dressed *spooky* before goth was in. I'm also a pagan so I qualify. I used to be in a poly relationship when my girls were growing up but I've been monogamous for some time now. I'll be getting a tat once the guy who is supposed to do it gets some time to come do it.

Victoria - posted on 02/27/2009

Hi, how's it going guys!

i'm Vicky and i have a 2year old girl, i'm from australia

i don't stereo type myself but people do.. but they can go fuck themselves haha

Rebecca - posted on 02/10/2009

so jessica, meant to ask before i went to uganda, but ran out of time for discussion with all the stuff i had to prepare for my (work) trip. ... what are you planning to teach your daughter about sex? are you planning to discuss with her different sexual lifestyles (obviously when age appropriate) or are you going to just teach her the more mechanical stuff about sex and let her discover the rest for herself through her own sexual exploration (i mean when she is older, of course)?

Rebecca - posted on 02/10/2009

LOL! we don't even get heinz over here and i only know what you are talking about because i'm originally british :P i buy KOO brand of beans etc or Farmers Special :P mind you, we only have tinned food if we are feeling really lazy. we eat mostly lots of fresh vegetables cos my husband is vegetarian and does most of the cooking. mind you, he's had to bow down to what the kids will eat, so he also cooks one helluva lot of fish fingers and gets ready cooked roast chicken from the supermarket (the toddler only wants to eat chicken, egg, yoghurt and bananas at the moment *sigh*).

we can't help but be multicultural unless we live in a 'secure complex' like other whiteys in our formerly apartheid country. our country has nine official languages, and our home is in a very mixed area. i am very glad our children have been exposed to many cultures as it means we can continue to put them in multicultural schools without it being a big deal. due to the ongoing racism in our country, we have had to talk to her about 'race', and for example, why our 'black' friends live in much poorer communities and houses. for example, based on the older one's observation, she came home one day asking if angels could only be white. jeeez! we had to trawl the internet to find a picture of a 'black' angel, cos if you try googling that one, you simply get 'evil' angels, not ones with black or brown skin colour. luckily we did eventually find one to show her, but it did leave to an interesting discussion...!

Melanie - posted on 02/10/2009

I love how multi-cultural your life and family are. We are very typical American (snore). I don't even have a definite heritage. My husbands family is swiss and nortic and nothing else. But I am a whole lota heinz 57!!  But we do have our values- and strive to teach our children to enjoy all people. Thats what's important beyond anything else.

Rebecca - posted on 02/10/2009

on differences: my eldest child goes to a predominantly muslim school, so issues about religion have come up a lot, and we've had to explain about choices - she initially really wanted to be muslim (mainly because she likes the mosque architecture :-S and also to fit in). if she couldn't be muslim, then the next option was to be christian as that is what all the other children at her school are... i am an African Shaman/ Pagan and my husband is an atheist... she had a total meltdown when we told her that not all people believe in god ... then after a while she decided she was a pastafarian and believed in the spaghetti monster. now she's settled down into being Pagan, because she wants to go along with her friends and believe in God...

because of our political leanings, we frequently find ourselves contradicting the 'normal' type of thinking -- so the differences i mean is not really about appearances (she hasn't made comments about this), but about values.

(my husband does have a mohican and her friends have asked why her daddy has hair like that; i am larger than average and her friends have asked why her mummy is so fat -- these questions do get brought back to us and i don't really have problems explaining that.)

it's more of a values thing -- there is so much 'socialisation' into societal norms (beyond appearances) and it seems like a constant battle to introduce other ideologies...

Rebecca - posted on 02/10/2009

yes, the older one's grandmother is very even-handed about giving them both gifts of equal value. she does take the older one over to her place for time with gran and doesn't take the younger one, but that's because she doesn't entirely feel up to handling a toddler at her age, and also not up to two kids at once. ... some of it may also be feeling that the older one is more her grandchild, but its not as obvious to the older one that there's a difference...

i did tell her that she will be going to her other ouma for a week over easter without her sister, so that she could see that she will also have opportunities her sister doesn't have...

Jessica - posted on 02/10/2009

I guess you could only tell her that the younger one has a different grandmother to her? And then just treat her to something with just you and her when the younger one is away... Does the older ones Grandmother include the younger child aswell?



Wow... I guess I can understand why you became Poly then! I havent ever experienced any of my male partners going off sex, so I dont really know how I would react or deal with it right now...



As for talking to my daughter about our differences... I guess I dont! To her, we are all the same. Just people. Some people have lots of tattoos. Some people have lots of piercings... while some other people are clean cut. It doesnt matter to her at the moment, however she is only 2.5 so I suppose the questions will start coming at some point! And then I will just explain it that way... we are all people. Everyone looks different and has different interests. But we are all people and we are not to judge!

Rebecca - posted on 02/10/2009

sorry i haven't continued with this thread as i have been in Uganda for whole of last week and only getting back into facebook now.



well, part of the reason i started being poly is that my husband went totally off sex (yeah, it apparently happens to men), so i still love him and want to live with him, but i need sex, so on to someone else who could give me what i want...



LOL! not really into BDSM altho we do play "rough" occassionally -- i like it occassionally but not as a regular thing. although (i was about to say i can't remember when last i did missionary - but it was a year ago with my husband) we are always trying different things. bought my lover anal beads for xmas :P



i do find it quite challenging raising my kids in this alternative family because there is so much mainstream indoctrination going on, that my kids bring it home and we have to discuss and re-align them. LOL! when my daughter was 3 she insisted we had to paint the blue toilet in the bathroom pink so that she could use it -- and i explained that i used the blue toilet so it clearly was not a problem. now she's 5 and the other day on the news she was watching mugabe, mbeki and tshavigarai on the news trying to sort out the zimbabwe problem (i live in south africa, btw) and she turns to my husband and asks if only boys can be in government :D so i guess on some level she's got it.... or getting it...



how do you all talk to your kids about your differences?



another thing i'm having a hard time with is that my youngest's gran (my lover's mother) only recently accepted my youngest as her grandchild and is now so keen on her, she wants her coming over for a week when my MIL is on leave -- unfortunately, she doesn't want to deal with my 5 year old as well, which is upsetting my five year old a lot (we are going away this coming weekend together tho). i am not really sure how to explain to my five year old why the younger ones grandmother doesn't treat her as a grandchild.



any suggestions/ ideas?

Nancy - posted on 02/04/2009

lol Jessica..... I look back and wonder how I did it myself... let alone how we managed to have two kids! (shudder) I'm so glad I'm outta there, LOL.
I agree Melanie.... this seems to be the most interesting thread. :)

Melanie - posted on 02/04/2009

It's great how two people having  such an interesting conversation can cause so many people to want to join in!! LOL I must say I'm not a goth or a weirdo (completely) My hubby of 18 yrs and I are very tattooed but due to living in Illinois have to stay covered up a big chunk of the time- to frickin cold!! We have two kids a 13 yr old boy who is very mellow and laid back but very social challenged ( he has Asperger's syndrom) and a 10 yr old girl that is so incredibly ballsie!! This girl has no give up in her vocab- I'm afraid by putting down my mommy foot on things that I'm going to make her loose it. But I explain to her there are times when it's a good thing and times when she just needs to let stuff go. I gotta say you guys live much more interesting lives than I do!! But it is a good reminder of how big a world we live in and truly unique each one of us is!! Thanks for letting me peek in!!

Jessica - posted on 02/04/2009

WOW... Missionary for 7years?! How the hell did you do it??? BOOOOOOOOORING.

Melinda - posted on 02/03/2009

I am so glad so many of you decided to join in! What a happy bunch of freaky parents we are!! ^_^

Nancy - posted on 02/03/2009

well since this seems to be the only live thread going, I'll say hi to everyone on this, lol. I wouldn't call myself a goth or anything... just not a 'soccer mom' I'm so not perfect, I hate cooking, I work in what is still considered a man's job and couldn't go back to being a stay at home. I have 2 pretty great kids. Roman, who's almost 10 and Genesis, who's 8. I was married at 18 and divorced after 7 years. and just got married again in '07. The kids are living one week with me and one with their dad and his new wife. It makes for an interesting life.
And I am so with the women on the sex thing, lol..... the ex was all missionary and only missionary for 7 years...(puke) needless to say I made damn sure the next one was willing to at least try new stuff, LOL!

Nissa - posted on 01/30/2009

Hey ladies, I'm new to the group but I' with you Jessica, I don't really fit in anywhere.. I used to be hardcore goth but not being able to fit into those clothes anymore and not having the money to buy new ones or the fabric to make them makes it dificult. I'm a christian, but with tattoo's and piercings. I was begining my career as a dominatrix when I moved to Raleigh NC, then met my husband, 5 months later we were married and I was pregnant so yeah that went out the window. I'm 21 now, I was 19 when my baby girl was born, she'll be 2 in june. I was so proud that her third word was tattoo. I married an amazing man that is the most wonderful father I've ever known. But yeah thats me I guess.

Jessica - posted on 01/30/2009

Hello ladies... thought id drop into this conversation aswell!

Not sure what 'stereotype' I fit into... I guess id kinda refer to myself as a mix of 'Modern Hippy' and 'Rockabilly'.

I have alot of ink, and until recently, had dreadlocks to my bum. (However, decided to go for a change and am now decked out with blunt bangs / bob type cut.)

I live on the Gold Coast in Australia. I guess what makes me different is that there are not alot of women here who have very visable ink... I get stared at alot and people often shake their heads (as im sure you all have experienced at some point too!) but I also have alot of people compliment me on my ink / look.

I have a 2yr old daughter who is a chatterbox. She has long dirty blonde hair that is in ringlets... She definitly loves being the centre of attention and is a little nudist! (Suits me fine as I am abit of a nudist myself!)

I am no longer with her father, I left him when she was 13months old due to him being emotionally/mentally abusive. He isolated me from friends and family and pretty much kept me captive for the mostpart of our relationship. He tore me down and made me feel like I was nothing more than scum.

He got someone else knocked up just a couple of months after I left and their baby is due any day now... Seems we were easily replaced!

Anyway, I live with my *new* partner... he is also covered in alot of ink and has dreads. He has 2 boys of his own, so we are abit like the 'Brady Bunch'... We have been together a year on Monday. :-) I am so much happier here with him in our new life than what I ever experienced with my Ex.

I am an artist and a teacher. I sell my work online.... and teach computers to 3 & 4 yr olds twice a week. I also make jewellery and am starting to make fascinators and headband type accessories.



Rebecca, I read your other post about being a 'polyamourist' and seeing if there were any others here... I must admit, I never knew what that was. Thanks to Google, I am now filled in! Seems all very interesting to me... but I am a one man woman, so not really what I would get into.



Talking about sex hmm... are we allowed to? LMAO... I am into whips and tying up and being slapped and biting and hair pulling and all that... Something my Ex never got into with me... but my new guy... Mmmm... he likes all the stuff I do. I guess thats why we have a killer sex life. :-)

Melinda - posted on 01/30/2009

So tell us Rikki, how many kids do you have, where do you live, why are you so weird, etc. ^_^

Rebecca - posted on 01/30/2009

LOL! i hardly call it eavesdropping .... it's a public forum and it's nice to have someone else open their mouths... love your hair!

Melinda - posted on 01/30/2009

Please do, nice to meet you Rikki. ^_^

Rikki - posted on 01/30/2009

You ladies are pretty awesome! (Sorry for eavesdropping as it were)

Melinda - posted on 01/27/2009

I tell them that I don't believe people should be judged by what's on the outside, they should be judged by their words and, more importantly, their ACTIONS. ^_^

Rebecca - posted on 01/26/2009

so what do you say to people who look at you funny for being a goth mother?
i get a lot of remarks from being a polyamourist living in a house covered in grafitti...

Rebecca - posted on 01/26/2009

since just before i turned 5.

to me it's not as interesting as a whole lot of other foreign places. but i am going to uganda on sunday, for a week, my poor husband has to cope with the kids on his own. we actually call him Mr Mom because he's much more the housewife type than me!

Melinda - posted on 01/26/2009

I know you were kidding, heehee.
I get shunned by a lot of goths because I am the eternally happy perky goth. ^_^
I don't know how I knew he was my soul mate...I just saw him once and a voice in my head said "THAT'S THE MAN YOU'RE GOING TO MARRY" and I was like wwhaaaaaaaaaaattt? He's all heavy metal and I'm all goth....no thank you. But I fell hopelessly in love with him, he is my best freind, the most gentle, kind soul I've ever met. ^_^
I am not into kinky sex toys that much, but I like sex. ^_^

Living in Africa must be interesting! Have you lived there your whole life?

Rebecca - posted on 01/26/2009

so are you into whips and chains and all that shit? (or are we not supposed to talk about that in this forum ... hell maybe i should start a group for mother who have a sex life :D)

Rebecca - posted on 01/26/2009

p.s. what made you decide he's your soulmate?

i'm interested in such things.

i find my two men a better fit, though of course, i would have more if i had time. which i don't.... ;)

Rebecca - posted on 01/26/2009

hi melinda
i don't mind goths really. just making a joke. cos it can sometimes seem as though goths think its seriously not cool to act like you like people. cos that's to shiny happy. i'm kinda shiny happy.

i'm also happily married to my husband of 13.5 years. and in a relationship of 3.5 years with my lover. and there are various other complex dimensions to my household.

i come from a severely abusive background, and understand it even less now that i am a mother, because i couldn't conceive of being so mean to any child, let alone my own.

i live in south africa. i grew up under a fascist government, and now i work in a 'socialist' environment, but i'm not so much of a socialist. i am not into 'production' like all those marxists.

i was training to be a sangoma (shaman of african traditional orgin), but that went down in flames, blown to bits, like a cnn clip.

my kids: both totally wonderful and unique!

Melinda - posted on 01/26/2009

Oh hell, I didn't see your second post.

I only have one child. She is 7, she has some speech delays. She's amazing and awesome and weird and I love her so much.
I'm married to my soul mate, so that's cool.
I cannot have any more children, I've had 2 stillbirths and I give up.
We are preparing to be foster parents.
Nice to meet you. ^_^