A - posted on 02/17/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )
I’m looking for support and advice from other moms who have been there done that and understand AP.
I have a 21 month old son. We found out recently that I’m expecting baby #2 and I’m concerned about how I will care for two using AP.
My main concern is night time. My son wakes up several times at night to nurse back to sleep. He can roll over and put himself back to sleep (we cosleep btw) but 50-90% of the time (depending on the night) he needs a nurse to go back to sleep. I’ve tried some gentle methods recently since I’m pregnant and worried, such as not nursing unless he asks and cuddling him back to sleep instead, and I’ve tried moving him to his side-car crib next to our bed. Neither have shown any improvement and I know in my heart he’s not ready for night time weaning or moving into his own bed.
I just don’t know how his routine is going to fit with a newborn. Theres the logistics of the sleep arrangements, and I worry I’ll get one child to sleep just as the other wakes to feed. If I have to tandem nurse at the same time at night I’m not sure how I’ll be able to sleep.
I would feel guilty if I didn’t apply AP to the newborn, or if I stopped using AP with my son. When I first had my son I didn’t even know what AP was, and I tried putting him on a feeding schedule, letting him Cry it out in his own crib, etc. My life was a disaster until we started practicing AP and its been a blessing. I just don’t know if I can do it with two. I’m trying not to stress, and tell myself maybe the new baby will be less needy than my first or my son will mature before the baby gets here. But the doubts still keep coming!
How did having two children effect your AP style?