co sleeping with infant and toddler?

Sarah - posted on 01/28/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )

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I know this can be dangerous but I just wanted to hear what you fellow "family bed" folks might have to say about it and how it works. We are currently cosleeping with my 18 month old son and planning another pregnancy. Is there a safe way to co sleep with everybody or should I start thinking about transitioning my lo to a toddler bed.

Thanks in advance for your thoughts/advise

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Kandi - posted on 03/13/2009

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We are cosleeping with both a toddler and a newborn. He just turned 5 weeks, she is 2.5. I keep him on one side and her on the other. If I nurse him on the left side (his sister's side) I put a pillow between the 2 and it keeps them separate. Also, he is wrapped in my arm as I nurse him. Typically though, she is on one side and he is on the other and she does not go to his side. I started this when I was still pregnant with our 2 year old and it's been working really well.

Lindsay - posted on 03/21/2009

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My children are 19 months apart and we have all slept together since the day #2 was born.  In the beginning, there was either myself or my husband between the two babies, but now that #1 is 2.5 and #2 will be one next month, they sleep together in the middle of the bed with husband and I on the edges.  They love snuggling up to each other - wouldn't trade it for anything! 



We are thinking of transitioning them to their own room, but they will still be bed sharing with each other until one of them indicates readiness for their own bed.

Jamie - posted on 03/09/2009

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Hi and good luck with TTC!



I have a 3 month old and a 3 year old and she and I have been sleeping together for a while on a large (cal king) size futon mattress on the floor.  When baby came I was a bit nervous about her safety in the bed with our LO.  But I sleep in the middle between them and it seems to work fine.  When baby wakes to nurse I edge over toward her side and when I need to offer the other breast the bed is large enough I can sleep perpendicular to my 3 year old (my feet are near her midsection) and still keep baby out of the danger zone where she might flop an arm over in her sleep or something.  It's a little unscientific but it works for us.  Now that you have a large bed I think you'll find it works fine, just as you said. 



I wouldn't feel comfortable doing this with anything less than a king.  Especially since right after baby arrived my 3 year old came down with two colds in a row, the stomach flu, then what seemed like the actual flu.  We're never sick - then this!  So it was good to have the room to keep her far away from baby and she even had her own bedding.

Natalia - posted on 02/13/2009

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We cosleep with a 22 month old and thinking of "number2" at the moment. We put our matress on the floor and bought our daughter her own matress and put it on the floor beside ours, so she sleeps beside me and baby number two could sleep in between my husband and myself. :) She absolutely loves it as she has her "own bed" but is still with us.

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Emily - posted on 03/23/2009

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We put our first two in a room together, but with separate beds just before they turned 2 and 3 (they're only 12 months apart). Every now and then they end up in each others beds (they're almost 3 and 4 now), but most of the time they stay in their own beds and seem to enjoy their own space.

Sarah - posted on 02/05/2009

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We just got a king size bed:) woohoo!!!

It takes up almost the entire room.

I think it will work out just fine when we have another LO.

Thanks ladies :)

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We got a twin bed (of course, this only works if there is room in your "room") and that is where we transitioned our toddler before the baby arrived.  I also used an in bed co-sleeper for the baby once he arrived. 

Stephanie - posted on 02/04/2009

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my youngest was born when my oldest was 26 months. We do have a king size bed... and for now me, dh and 2 yr old are in the bed and the baby is in a side-carred crib. He usually does end up in our bed because he is a snuggly little guy. He is in between me and the sidecar then 2 yr old then dh. 2 yr old just recently stopped night nursing... so sometimes he sleeps on the other side of dh where there is a bedrail.

Emily - posted on 02/03/2009

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Yep... we've done this twice. We just make sure that the baby and the toddler do not sleep right next to each other for the first few months. We also found that a side-car crib was extremely helpful for everyone getting the space they needed. When #3 was born, she was in the crib, I was on the crack between the crib and our Queen size bed, #2 was between DH and I and #1 was on the other side of DH... sometimes if DH was worried about #1 falling off... he'd take the edge and put #1 and #2 next to each other. They were 2 1/2 and 1 1/2 at the time and had no problems sleeping together.

We moved #1 and #2 to their own room together when #3 was about 3 months old. We did have #1 in a toddler bed on the other side of our room for a while too... and that worked well also, but she always climbed into our bed during the night. We love co-sleeping and find that it's always the best way for us to all get the rest we need.

Christy - posted on 01/30/2009

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I think it depends on how big of bed you have :). I transitioned my oldest to a toddler bed right beside our bed when we had our second. Of course, he'd have to fall asleep in the big bed, but we'd just move him later. He was always an arm away in case he needed a reassuring touch.

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