Josie - posted on 01/15/2009 ( 11 moms have responded )
Could really do with some advice from people I know will understand...
My beautiful 6 month high-need APed son Kai is an appalling sleeper and has been since birth (the max time he's slept in a row is 3 hours) but he's getting worse and worse and I'm absolutely at the end of my tether.
He will now only sleep on average 1-2 hour stretches, only go to sleep after a lot of crying, and need a lot of help settling back to sleep each time. Daytime naps are a complete battle and very short..
I'm desperate for some rest and getting ill and depressed from so little sleep. The baby-training techniques seem so appealing cause they all claim to work and all the talk of sleep associations and dependence on sleep props makes sense to me - I don't think Kai knows how to get to sleep anymore. But the minute they start talking about controlled crying and feeding on a schedule my inner AP alarm bell goes off.
Does anyone know of any techniques or sleep systems or books that would help me teach Kai a healthy attitude towards sleep but NOT by leaving him to scream all night? Co-sleeping doesn't work for us unfortunately for a number of reasons (no judgements please!). We tried the Pantley method but found it too vague and inconsistant.