Sarah - posted on 04/01/2010 ( 12 moms have responded )
Hi, I have a darling little 3 month old girl who I am breastfeeding exclusively. She has been able to settle herself to sleep independently for about a month now, which is great (I just pop her in bed, she may fuss for a few minutes, but will eventually fall asleep by herself, as long as I catch her tired signs in time).
However, some days she just seems to decide she doesn't want to go to sleep by herself and I usually end up nursing her to sleep because I don't like to see her crying and getting upset. She calms down immediately and falls asleep easily when I nurse her.
I have heard a LOT of advice about the whole feeding to sleep, most of it negative. But really, what's the big deal about it? Isn't nursing to sleep completely natural? That's what breastmilk is designed for after all. And I'm only going to be breastfeeding her for a short period of her life, so I don't see what's so bad about it.
I don't feed her to sleep all the time, just whenever she's having trouble falling asleep by herself. But whenever I do, I feel a bit guilty about it because of all this negative advice that plays on my mind.
So, I'm really just curious to find out what you guys think about it. Am I really the big bad mum if I feed my daughter to sleep? Should I be worried about "negative sleep associations" or whatever? Do YOU feed you little one to sleep??? I'm just wondering....
p.s. I've tried giving her a dummy, as she seems to be a very "sucky" baby, but she refuses to take one. I've tried several different kinds, but we usually end up playing see-how-far-the-baby-can-spit-the-dummy, so I've given up!