Sherree - posted on 01/19/2010 ( 1 mom has responded )
Could anyone offer advice or encouragement on how to handle toddler tantrums? My 15 month old daughter has started throwing them for her dad and I left right and centre over the past 2 weeks. Sometimes we don't even know what they're about. But often they are over taking away something she can't have, or even just making a stern tone with her like "you have to sit down in the bathtub". Sometimes she makes herself frustrated if she can't make a toy do something she wants it to and she throws a tantrum. She is still breastfeeding so whenever she has a tantrum she immediately wants to nurse to get herself over it. I don't know what to feel about that. I had hoped she wouldn't need to nurse so often by this age. If I don't let her and try to distract her with other things she'll get more mad. If her dad tries to take her to help me, that is instant disaster. She will pull the worst kind of fit, you'd think we were torturing her. I find it embarrassing when she always wants to nurse but it is the best thing to calm her down. Am I reinforcing her tantrums by a "reward"? At this age should we be being more consistent ignoring her tantrums by letting her kick and scream on the floor? Is it ok to talk soothingly to her and nurse her or should we ignore her? She also will come crying to me if her dad tries to help her or soothe her, which is hurtful to him. Am I reinforcing her detachment to him by nursing her? Help!