my daughter sleeps in my bed every night

Ryan - posted on 12/04/2008

My daughter also sleeps with me every night. I work full-time and feel it is our bonding time without my other two children. She is my last baby so I will probably continue to do this until she is 2.

Rebekah - posted on 12/03/2008

Well I don't think you need to worry she'll *never* get out of the habit, lol. I've never met anyone that still slept with their parents while in college! :)

My oldest (who is now 4) still occasionally slips into our bed and we didn't officially "kick her out" until she was 3. I think it comes down to personal comfort levels and the needs of the child. My 4yr old was very emotionally needy as a baby and letting her sleep in our bed was the ONLY way any of us got any sleep. My 20mo old, however, is the polar opposite. Nothing makes for a worse night's sleep then having her in our bed-for her as much as for us.

Now, we transitioned my oldest out of our bed by first having her toddler bed in our room. This made it very easy to say, "You have to start in your bed but if you wake up and get scared, you can climb in with us". That is still the rule, though now her bed is in HER room. It works well but it's a process.

Sadie - posted on 12/03/2008

I have the same problem with my son. I am pregnant again, so I am anxious to get him out before the baby comes in April. I feel like we have tried everything, but the problem is getting worse rather thatn better. Looking forward to hearing the suggestions.

Melissa - posted on 12/03/2008

My son sleeps with me all night... there's many reasons for it but I know eventually it will be a challenge to get him out! I think I'm going to wait at least until I can explain to him about a big boy bed and he is able to understand a bit more. And can I just say that it is so good to hear that other people do the family bed/ co-sleeping thing. It's a family choice and there are many positive aspects to it as long as everyone in the situation is happy. I hate when people make me feel like it's the worst thing you can do.

LeVaughnda - posted on 12/02/2008

We are right there too. My husband and I both work during the day, so we feel like sleeping with Luke at night is a way to stay connected to him, but I do feel the time is coming where we will have to teach him to sleep alone, I am opposed to the whole crying it out thing!

Melissa - posted on 12/02/2008

My son was getting in the habit of sleeping with us. I just put him back in his crib, which of course he cried, but after a few nights of crying he was fine and now heads right to his bed when it's bed time now. You just have to get through the first couple nights of crying, it's tough because you feel bad and want to take them out .. but don't give in

Laura - posted on 11/30/2008

How have you tried to get your daughter into her own sleep space? We co-sleep part of the night and are generally pretty happy with it, but I would hate it if my daughter was in my bed all night. We start the night by nursing her to sleep on a twin size mattress on the floor in her room, and then when she wakes after I go to bed either she walks to our room and climbs in or my husband goes to get her. Maybe something like this would work for you?