DDs - posted on 03/24/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )
I'm new to the site and am hoping someone has some insight for me. I have a loving son who will be 4 in April. He loves to give hugs and kisses to his family. He's VERY proper, uses napkin when he eats, never spills or crumbs anywhere (unlike his 6 year old sister), turns off the TV on his own once he's done watching etc. He's also very sensitive. If he accidentally hurts us while playing, he gets worried and even cries for us. Now the problem is his temper. He would play with his sister but if he doesn't like something that she's doing, he tries to tell her to stop, if she doesn't listen, he ends up either tackling or jumping on her. Today, I took him to a birthday party that they were both invited to. I thought he was doing great until the end of the party. There was this wild, spoiled almost 6 year old child who was throwing pillows at him so I see him throwing it back at the boy while laughing. I thought he was handling it well. I was distracted for literally 3 seconds and looked the other way, all of the sudden the other boy was on the floor crying. (Remember that this other boy is at least 1 1/2 years older and bigger than him) Others were telling me that my son tackled him after so the boy fell on the floor and hit his head. Luckily he's ok but it's quite scary to think that if I take my eyes off of him for 3 seconds and someone doesn't listen to his request to stop, he ends up hurting another child. We've tried talking to him and trying to make him understand that his actions hurt people and to be gentle, etc. but it doesn't seem to work. Does anyone have any ideas on how to handle this?