did anyone feel like this?

Rebecca - posted on 09/05/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )

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We just had our second baby and decided that was it for having babies. It was a rough delivery and pregnancy was a little rough so i thought that I was ready to be done that stage of my life. My son is reaching milestones way faster than my daughter, He was a week old when we were already putting the small baby bottles away. I started to cry when I realized that we not going to be needing them again. I am 26 years old and I feel that I am so young to be having this stage of my life over with. Now it might just be hormones and I dont know if I really want to have more children or its the fact that we said no more. He want me to get my tubes tide.I told him to go and get fixed if thats what he wanted. I dont even know that I want more kids or if its the fact that we said that we dont want to have anymore. Just wondering did anyone one else feel this way?

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Kaitey - posted on 12/28/2010

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I know how it feels! I had 2 miscarriages before my daughter and they were far enough along that I knew they were both boys. Then my daughter came along perfect and healthy but the docs said I have a very slim chance of carrying another child full term, so I don't even want to risk it. I am so thankful for the one child I have, and I'm making the big decision to get "fixed", so I have some harsh emotions about that :( But I guess I would just wait a while; you definitely don't want to jeopardize a child's life or your own.

Marie - posted on 12/03/2010

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like so many on here have said it could be hormones talking i said that when i gave birth to my so but 3 hour later i was planing my second much to my partners surprize lol, i would wait for maybe a year get the hormones settled and then see how you feel

Denise Janse Van - posted on 12/01/2010

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You are definately not the only one who feels this way. I have two boys the oldest being 5 and the youngest being 2. My youngest was a tough pregnancies with alot of emotions and he was sick from the time he was born so became almost solely dependant on my husband and I so we swore after him we were finished having children. I am also 26 now and Find myself wanting another baby and find myself broody when walking through the little girl sections of the shops.. I also considered having my tubes tied but at this stage in my life I dont feel that I could do it as it would feel so final for me And although I go through mixed emotions In my heart i would still love to maybe try for another baby in a year or 2's time.. So i would say that what you are feeling is not uncommon when your children start growing up they don't depend on your as much anymore as when they were babies and have there own little personalities and its scary because you never want to lose them and wish most of the time you could freeze time because your little baby is now a Little person. Hope this helps in some way Thinking of you!

Taylor - posted on 09/25/2010

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I'd wait until you're really really sure before doing something permanent(ish) like getting your tubes tied. It's probably very normal to have mixed feelings right now, so don't rush yourself and just enjoy the new baby.

JANINE - posted on 09/15/2010

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Hi I am 28years old and i have 3 girls my last born is 2 and a half, i have always wanted a son. But my hubby does not want anymore kids infact he has decided to go see to himself soon. i really know how you feel. i feel its so unfair thou..

Megan - posted on 09/09/2010

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i made my decision to have no more while i was pregnant with our second child. it was hard for me both physically and mentally. i knew i couldn't do it all over again. it could be hormones, depression or a change of heart. either way, weigh up your options and decide whats best for the whole family.

Christa - posted on 09/06/2010

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me and my husband both want 6 kids if we can afford it. right now we have 2 they are about 21 months apart. although i didn't go through the same feelings b/c we both want more i do every now and then think to myself, do i really want to do this again all the diapers, late nights, not being able to be spontaneous. because after all once they get older you can have a little bit of your life back again but if we continue having more we wont get it back for at least 10 more years!!! thats a long time! i think once you get through the 1st year with your second you'll see things clearer. you wont be clouded by hormones or sentiment and you'll be able to think rationally about it b/c after all its a decision that affects the rest of your life. i dont blame my hormones on anything. i feel the way i feel, its ok to feel that way youre entitled to feel sad at the possibility of it being over b/c you are young and i think you should keep your options open at this point b/c you are unsure of what you want. dont get surgeries especially if theres a possibility of things not working right if you decide you want more. i would give it at least the first year to make any decisions about it!

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