my 21 month old daughter has started sucking on a binki. My Question is "Is it OK for her to have her binki?"

Crystal - posted on 01/22/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Ii'm 27 yrs. old. and she is my first child. She only used a binki for about 3 weeks after she was born, then would not take it anymore. I kept the binkis, not sure why, but good thing I did, because she would (chew not suck) on them every time she was teething. On Jan. 15th she started chewing on one again, so I thought nothing of it. Then I noticed that she was sucking it and she has not stopped since. She won't go to bed without it and wakes up if it falls out of her mouth while she is sleeping. She talks less, but when she talks with it in her mouth, I tell her to take it out if she wants to talk. She will go hours without it and then want it again and look for it. Could it be because of any of these things? About a 3 1/2 months ago I told my husband to leave and that I was divorcing him. He comes to she her every other day. I have taken away nap time and bed time bottles. She still gets the bottle, but she can't take it to bed, she has to drink it before she goes to lay down. About 2 months ago I started working outside the home. The newest thing that has changed is that my soon to be ex-husband has found out that he has something wrong with his heart and that their is more wrong with his back then we had thought and he is only 26 yrs. old. Maybe she can feel our stress. Thanks for the help.

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Erin - posted on 01/25/2010

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The binki sounds like it's a reaction to stress. Since she hasn't used one up until this time and she's nearly 2, I wouldn't think it's a good time for her to start the habit.

Kristin - posted on 01/23/2010

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Yes..I would think the attachment to the binki is from the recent changes in the household. Kids can feel the stress. My Daughter is the same age...always had a binki and still needs it to sleep...I will be working on getting rid of that and potty training soon. When you say bottle....do you mean bottle or sippy? Bottles are bad for them to be going to bed with...at any age. Have you tried switching to a sippy? Only you know what is best for your daughter. Good Luck!!

Minique - posted on 01/22/2010

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The fact that your daughter is about 2yrs old it is a problem because binki's mess up childrens teeth which can make social n emotional problems for her when she gets older. Kids can definitly feel the stress from their parents so you should try and do as much as you can with her to keep her mind stimulated. Not saying you dont already try to do so but her having her binki may be a stress stimulater she has created for herself. Something she as a toddler feels she has cotrol over.