Deborah - posted on 02/17/2012 ( 8 moms have responded )
My daughter will be 4 in April. She has had some SERIOUS listening problems lately -- refusing to pick up her toys, not eating because it isn't what she 'wants' (Even though she likes it), having 'meltdowns' over the SMALLEST things....the list seems endless to me.
The other day she said she was hungry. We didn't have a regular 'dinner' because of our schedules, so I made her a peanut butter sandwich. She flips it out of her hands onto the floor, looks at me and says "oops" with a smile on her face.
Kind of obvious she did it intentionally -- she wanted a 'honey' sandwich instead of peanut butter. (She has never had a 'honey' sandwich..but she likes to use it as a dip).
She was sent to her room for wasting food and, as always, I waited until she calmed down and talked to her about it. As I have after nearly every behavioral mishap we've had.
Nothing seems to be working. We have removed all 'treats', no more snacks. She has had toys taken away, time outs, she's been spanked once for it, the works. (*I realize not everyone will agree with my choice to spank, so please don't bring this up in your response if you disagree with it -- it is not the issue I am interested in discussing.)
The last time this started becoming an issue, I kept her home from preschool (She goes 2 days a week). I told her that if she didn't start 'acting right' and being good, she wouldn't go back and I would call her teacher and tell them she wasn't allowed to go. Her behavior changed almost immediately.
I really hate doing it, because school has done WONDERS for her in other areas (patience, sharing, socialization...) so I don't want her to miss school. I do intend on trying this method again, but I haven't fully convinced myself of it yet.
Any ideas as to how to remedy this problem?? Anyone else with the same issue?