Tantrums Anyone?

Kelle - posted on 09/14/2009 ( 19 moms have responded )

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My 17 month old is having early signs of terrible twos! When she gets upset and throws a tantrum I don't always know what to do. We have time out and that works but what is the high pitched screaming all about? Lately she has been more moody than usual. Is this normal at her age? Obviously, she's my first. =)

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It is encouraging to know that other moms of 17 month olds are having the same issues. My 17 month old has a very bad temper. Throws things when he does not get his way, throws food on the floor if he does not like what were having for dinner and just screams. I tried time out for the first time yesterday since nothing else I had tried worked. To make matters worse my husband cannot stand to hear our son scream, so he always leaves the room or loses his temper too. I feel like a single parent trying to calm my son and husband down.

Stephanie - posted on 09/15/2009

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I have 16 mo who has been in the terrible twos for 2months. Times out are the best right now. It doesn't matter if you have to put them in back to back time outs. My daughter now understands that when i say time out she goes to her time out chair and sits there until the timer goes off. she comes up to me and says 'done' if she screams the entire time and the time goes off she looks at me and i tell her no fit pitchin' and set it for 1/4 of the time. At this age they have no other way of expressing there feelings except to pitch fits. Whether they are trying to tell us they are tired or hungry or whether they just want our attention. Ask you baby to show you what is wrong. ask questions: do you want a cup/drink? snack? are you tired/sleepy?

as for the high pitched screaming my wonderful daughter does that as well don't know why so i can't help you there. but you find out send the info my way :) lol

she mostly does it in the car and it's enough to scare me. Good Lcuk

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A.J. - posted on 10/15/2009

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Oh yeah! He throws down all the time. If we are at home, and I just ignore him for a min. or two--he stops.

Stephanie - posted on 10/13/2009

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My 17 month old boy started about 2 months ago. He would start screaming and head butting everything! as soon as he'd start crying you'd have to run to protect his head. there was nothing i could do but tell him to calm down. When he's happy we would take deep breath and i'd say calm down. Eventually this worked. Now he fakes it and just lies down when i igrnore him he gets up like it never happened. even though they're young they can still understand what we're asking of them. Good luck

Daphne - posted on 10/13/2009

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Ohh man I'm having the same problem with my 18 month old son!!! I have put is tantrums down to getting frustratied and not being able to verbalise his feelings or what he wants resulting in a tantrum....

Hes my 1st too :)

Amber - posted on 10/10/2009

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it is normal i have a 17 month old and she does the same things it does get better trust me i wouldnt have 4 kids if it didnt

Sarah - posted on 10/09/2009

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The screaming and moodiness is mostly due to the fact that they are frustrated that they are not able to communicate exactly what they want. My daughter is going through this stage now. We've tried different "discipline" techniques with her when her tantrums are over not getting something she wants (like a toy when we are shopping or something), but none seem to work. When she starts most tantrums at home, we just have to let her cry it out and she's fine (these are the ones where she just gets frustrated and can't express what she wants with her words yet). There is a difference between their fits. Unfortunately, it's just something that they have to work out.

Cashonna - posted on 10/09/2009

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It sounds so normal, my son is doing the same thing. He is 18 months, and I just want to pull my hair out sometimes. The screaming and crying is just too much sometimes.

JamieLynn - posted on 10/09/2009

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Oh yes. Kai will scream like you have just destroyed his world. On occasion he actually throws himself down. Once or twice he's actually smacked my hand away when I tried to pick him up and put him in his bed for time out.



Mostly he's a good boy, but he has his moments. Thankfully they don't seem to last long even though they are intense.

Michelle - posted on 10/08/2009

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Quoting Stephanie:



Quoting Tia:

It is encouraging to know that other moms of 17 month olds are having the same issues. My 17 month old has a very bad temper. Throws things when he does not get his way, throws food on the floor if he does not like what were having for dinner and just screams. I tried time out for the first time yesterday since nothing else I had tried worked. To make matters worse my husband cannot stand to hear our son scream, so he always leaves the room or loses his temper too. I feel like a single parent trying to calm my son and husband down.






Tia, I am completely in your boat. Those things happen with my daughter, she hits us or the animals, throws things and her self around. She has even intentional smacked her head on our coffee table. And the screamin OMG. I don't know who's worse. My daughter for screaming or my husband for throwing his 'tantrum' lol.  the only thing i can do is laugh and brush it off. I have heard this said and i say it - having a husband is like having a child.  I used to be a single mom before i met my hubby.  My son was very well behave. I never had these "issues" with him. Sometimes i think it was easy as a single parent i am the one setting and enforcing the rules - no one to contridict me in anyway shape or form. 






I think our daughter does it to manipulate her daddy. my husband spoils his little girl more then my/our son.  Children of all ages sense these things (who's the bigger push over/ how can 'i' get my way fast and with whom)  I would assume when you aren't around your hubby would does anything he can to keep you youngin happy at all times despite what it is.  I know mine does.  Women are moms for this reason. because we can handle it or at least we make people percieve we can lol.. Have patience this will blow over but be prepared there is worse to come.





 



My Gosh... I feel like I'm reading something that I have wrote over and over again... I'm usually the one to disipline our daughter(between myself and my fiancee). His patience goes out quicker than mine. My 18 month old has been showing signs of terrible twos for at least 3-4 months now. I just find that I have to sometimes step back and take a breath... then figure out what is going on.

Kimberly - posted on 10/07/2009

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My 17 (almost 18) month old is also tantruming and has been for about a month. I notice some days are worse than others. Our pediatrician told us to acknowledge him for a brief moment in a way like, "Oh, are you frustrated? Come tell mommy about it when you calm down." (Even if they aren't really speaking yet.) And then after a minute or two (or three or four or . . .) of being ignored, there's a good chance they will have stopped. At that point, I sit or kneel down so I'm close to him and I ask him if there's anything I can do for him. Sometimes this gets the tantrum started all over again, as he sees he's gotten attention. So then I go back to the acknowledge and ignore step. We keep repeating this process until he remains calm. It's not a quick solution, nor one that really works out in public, but we're hoping in the long run it is the solution that will teach him there are OTHER ways of expressing his disappointments, frustrations, moods, etc. If we're in public, I just leave the situation asap if possible and get him to a place where I'm not embarrassed for him to melt down miserably. :)

Kizzie - posted on 10/07/2009

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what i do when he thows a fit i just walk away and ignore him and i also do role reverse that really messes with their head just to see u cry or play cry. it works

Samantha - posted on 10/05/2009

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yay I'm so happy to hear that my baby isn't abnormal! lol. and thank you tia for letting me know that I am not the only one with a husband who doesn't know how to deal with a child in times like these. I really needed to hear that i'm doing what all the other moms are doing. thanks guys!

Mia - posted on 10/05/2009

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My daughter will be 18 months on the 18 and she has started the tanturms. I think she does them because my son previously had this problem. ugh. The screaming is the worst and in the car its just awful.Hers are not as bad as my son's were yet and I hope they don't esclate to that. He used to head butt and pitch and hit his head on the floor and etc.

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We started tantrums in our house about 2 months ago. They would get so bad and my daughter would be so frustrated she's head butt the floor...I talked to my doctor because I was really concerned she'd start hurting herself. My doctor said until she starts to communicate better...she's not yet talking much...that just make sure she's safe and let her get it out of her system. Now if she starts to get mad because we say "no" I make sure she doesn't throw herself back on anything but carpet and walk away. Her tantrums don't last any longer then 30 seconds now because as soon as I leave she comes to find me. She's still not very vocal so I just talk to her and pause where I would like her to respond and it seems to get her calm again.

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I was wondering what you do for time outs? My little man(17month) just throws the worst tantrums and I have no idea how to go about the time outs?

Stephanie - posted on 09/17/2009

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Quoting Tia:

It is encouraging to know that other moms of 17 month olds are having the same issues. My 17 month old has a very bad temper. Throws things when he does not get his way, throws food on the floor if he does not like what were having for dinner and just screams. I tried time out for the first time yesterday since nothing else I had tried worked. To make matters worse my husband cannot stand to hear our son scream, so he always leaves the room or loses his temper too. I feel like a single parent trying to calm my son and husband down.



Tia, I am completely in your boat. Those things happen with my daughter, she hits us or the animals, throws things and her self around. She has even intentional smacked her head on our coffee table. And the screamin OMG. I don't know who's worse. My daughter for screaming or my husband for throwing his 'tantrum' lol.  the only thing i can do is laugh and brush it off. I have heard this said and i say it - having a husband is like having a child.  I used to be a single mom before i met my hubby.  My son was very well behave. I never had these "issues" with him. Sometimes i think it was easy as a single parent i am the one setting and enforcing the rules - no one to contridict me in anyway shape or form. 



I think our daughter does it to manipulate her daddy. my husband spoils his little girl more then my/our son.  Children of all ages sense these things (who's the bigger push over/ how can 'i' get my way fast and with whom)  I would assume when you aren't around your hubby would does anything he can to keep you youngin happy at all times despite what it is.  I know mine does.  Women are moms for this reason. because we can handle it or at least we make people percieve we can lol.. Have patience this will blow over but be prepared there is worse to come.

Nicola - posted on 09/14/2009

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thank goodness, i'm not the only one going through this too!! my son is also 17 months and having tantrums, from my experience of working with 1-2 year olds the screaming is just their way of expressing themselves as children this age do not understand their emotions. with my son when he is screaming i try to be patient and work out what the problem is, however if he is throwing a tantrum for not getting his own way all the time he has time outs too. hope this helps and don't worry it is normal behaviour x

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