Naughty one year old

Alisha - posted on 07/20/2010

my daughter does all of the above but wants me to either pick her up all the time or she holds my hand dragging me around the house with her. I hardly get me time. When I dont do things with her all the time she cries and screams... I dont discipline her enough as we are living with my parents and they dont like her crying for whatever reason we are moving in 2 weeks ... Any tips on changing some of her behaviours?

Rachael - posted on 07/12/2010

I have found that tantrums tend to be worse when he wants something but can't express what he wants/needs. with advancing speech and also, the addition of simple signs his needs and desires are being met and the tantrums are fewer, though if he is tired or overstimulated he will still get upset if we don't see a sign or understand a word. you are not alone! Good luck!

Melissa - posted on 07/10/2010

I put my daughter in her high chair, usually when she is touching the tv or power points.

I ignore her when she screams and throws tantrums. walk out the room and bring a toy from her room when I walk back in. She usually forgets what she was crying over.

Ink - posted on 07/10/2010

My boy throws tantrums too. He's an April baby, so our little ones are about the same age.
If he doesn't get his way, either from me, or an uncooperative toy.. his answer is to melt down. He realizes he can't do whatever... and his knees buckle... his head goes down and he is face down in the floor screaming like a banshee.
My punishment here is stern and constant. I prefer the chinese tickle torture. When he's melting down I start with fingers in the ribs. Then when I get a reaction I go for the tickle spot under his hipbones. If that's still not working... I break out the ever popular raspberry in the belly move.
I also love to point a finger at him... get a real sneaky look on my face and move in for the kill. When I touch his nose and yell WONK! He just falls apart. He can't take it. It's just too f'n funny!
When he's melting down I use a diversion. I tickle him. It encourages bonding and very quickly makes him forget whatever was so important.
If you watch him from the corner of your eye... five minutes later he's going to go try the toy again. Usually he gets it by then... and his self confidence grows. If not... I go tickle the snot out of him again and let him try again later. Lather, rinse repeat.

Keri - posted on 06/18/2010

My little guy does the SAME thing. We have a problem though, that if we lay him down for his naptime, he screams bloody murder for 5 minutes. I think he knows after 5 minutes I will come get him if he hasn't settled! I just cant handle hearing him scream like that though!!

He also throws his tantrums when his grandma leaves, or my best friend, and when we come inside from outside playing! Its crazy!

Francesca - posted on 05/20/2010

You know my daugther used to whin if I ignored her, but never cried. Now she has just devised devious ways to get my attention. Like if I am on my laptop she crawls over and hits the power button. Or she scratches the leather sofa (she knows I hate it). She waits for me to react.



And indepenance is a great thing. Sometimes it frustrates my poor little monkey because she wants to do things that are beyond her ability but, its very rewarding to watch her try!



I don't believe that giving your baby attention in any way could spoil them. Its a silly old wives tale. But sometimes us moms need to get stuff done. I often try to distract Ella with her CDs (she LOVES music) or a puzzle. Luckily my daughter is at that age where she is easliy distracted by most things. Like letter her bang on the pots and pans.



I find she is really bad right before a tooth pokes through. And on those days, I depend on my sling. She curls up in there and nursed, and sometimes she just wants to cuddle up close. Teething sucks.



But, you have to do what you think is best. And you have to do what you think will keep you sane.



Good Luck. I hope tomorrow is better for you.

Erica - posted on 05/18/2010

My rugrat has been throwing tantrums for a while now she's almost 13 months. I acknowldge she's up set and talk to her. If she continues to scream I walk away showing her that this method doesn't work with mommy. about 5 min later it's like she forgot the whole thing happened and she's doing the activity that started the whole thing over again!

I'm reading "It's OK your a better parent than you think" and it's helped me get the confidence in myself again that I'm doing the best Job I know how and following my gut feeling. Which tells me to let her cry she'll get over it soon enough. If I let her use me as a door mat now it will be harder to change later on!

Dannielle - posted on 05/18/2010

my baby throws temper trantrums too, we ignore them, they tend to be pretty short lived. babies are smarter than you think, they will eventually figure out that there are just certain things that you won't let them do... by giving in, you are just prolonging thier learning process.

i do think just being a stay at home mom is way more stressful than people give you credit for. i work, but the weekends can be more frustrating for me than my work week, but the end of the day on sunday i'm ready to go back to work!

i try to stay pretty busy with my baby and also make sure she gets a nap if she's being extra grumpy. i will play with her for awhile, then sneak away to just watch some tv while she plays, and she's become pretty good at playing by herself for awhile. but then she starts wandering around the house and getting into things and i find myself chasing her around again.

Sarah - posted on 05/13/2010

yes, my little one gets into her independent mood very often lately, and boy does she get frustrated when it doesnt work out! lol

Elicia - posted on 05/13/2010

But I intervene when she's about to or has "lost it".

Elicia - posted on 05/13/2010

I think it's the desire of trying to be independent that causes the stubbornness. And I've read that it's ok to let them struggle and feel frustrated as it teaches them to figure things out for themselves and feel the different emotions.

Amy - posted on 05/12/2010

thanks ladies. Sometimes you just need to hear that you aren't alone:)

Sarah - posted on 05/12/2010

i am having the same problem with my one year old daughter, except i am not staying home right now, i had to go back to work and seem to be getting the worst of her right now...no tantrums with daddy, but with me it is quite the opposite!! i have friends who have suggested that she needs to be in baby groups or day care, so she is not so dependent on me to play with her...since i was staying home with her until very recently, i think she is upset that i am not around as much, but she is really stubborn!

Elicia - posted on 05/12/2010

My 13 month old girl IS THE EXACT SAME WAY!!! I am sorry but I have NO IDEA and would like to know to lol. It's enough to drive me insane, but I know that most kids are like this and it's a growing/learning stage. I figure there's no sense trying to battle with her, I give in and will worry about the spoiling/negotiating and ignoring later. Right now she doesn't understand why she's the way she is, how can I? They don't understand what we say so I can't reason with her either. Once she does start understanding things then I'll start explaining things. Ignoring, to me, is just plain mean because she won't get why I'm ignoring her and it would only upset her. So I just get her occupied or amused by something as fast as I can, and when she wants to be independent I am patient and let her go, even when it is SOOOOO much faster when I just do it, lol.

Does this make sense?