Anyone trying for another baby yet?

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My husband and I are going to start trying for baby #2 next month. I was wondering if anyone else was planning on trying again soon too. What are your fears if you are trying again? My biggest ones have to do with the pregnancy fatigue and attempting to continue nursing my 9 1/2 month old. I'm not as concerned about when the baby is born. Another problem is that I am short and have a hard time reaching my child in his crib now. How will I be able to reach in with a belly? I know that sounds silly, but it might be a real problem. Hope someone will share and offer encouragement.

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Jasmyne - posted on 11/15/2013

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I just had my Mirena removed.....I heard bleeding comes days after removal and it did but i had already been intimate twice with my partner. Does any one know if the bleeding will prevent me from being pregnant?

Bridget - posted on 03/20/2010

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We are expecting twins in July 2010 and our daughter will be one in April this year so they will be about 15 months apart. We wanted to have our second child close in age with our first but instead we have two and are very excited!! The only hard thing this time around is I have had a lot of nausea and very tired due to there being twins. Other than that it's been great and we are really excited!! Good luck!

Susie - posted on 02/20/2010

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We will be trying for baby #3 next month so my April baby will be about 19-20 months if we conceive straight away. I too am worried about the fatigue as i also have a 6yr that we have to get up in the morning for school, and my partner works out of town alot so it would be like a single mum to 3 but i think im up for and ready for the challenge. # 3 would be our last and we dont want the big age gap between the last two like the 5yr 3mth age gap between the 6yr old and 10mth. I guess we just take each day as it comes. And good luck to all those that are also trying to conceive

Lisa - posted on 02/20/2010

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At least you'll know what to expect 2nd time round and will probably get into a routine pretty quickly. Just like everyone else who's done it, I'm sure you'll just get on with it with little fuss - you just have to! If it was that hard - we'd all be only children! Good luck anyway x

Ajia - posted on 02/19/2010

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I am definitely NOT wanting a #2 right now, but I'm a single mom, so doing it all by yourself puts a very different spin on things. My pregnancy, the delivery, and the first 6 months were really HELL. My daughter has a lot of health issues, and I had PPD. And I have no help at all. It's just now starting to get easier, so I can't imagine going through all that again. I'd love to have a second child one day, but preferably not before I have a husband and super stable finances.

I think it's wonderful that so many of you are ready to try again, or already expecting. Dispite the difficulty, becoming a mother is the most wonderful and meaningful thing I have ever done in my life and I wouldn't give it up for the world. It's great that you all are ready to experience the miracle of it again. Personally, my mind is still on the third degree vaginal tear, lol, but more power to ya!

Amy - posted on 02/18/2010

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I have decided that October is the right time for us to start trying again.. Id like to have my sons second bday out of the way before adding a new addition! Plus I dont think I want to be pregnant over the winter again..

Marla - posted on 02/17/2010

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lol my husband was trying to bark up that tree because he is deploying soon and I was like heck no!!! my girls (twins) will be 1 year old April 21st, and i am not completely done with the baby weight. ALSO He did not help a single time with night feedings, I basically did everything for the first 5 months and it was you know what. It got easier as they grew but I don't miss staying up til 8-9am so he could sleep in peace while I was tormented. If I can help it, we will have at least a 3 year break. Maybe your husband helped more but my husband told me that they were my job because he worked, and he obviously meant it as i STILL do most everything every day so I don't feel like my destruction of body was appreciated by him, though I love my girls to death and wouldn't take em back for nothing. They are my world and I personally need more time, but you should go for it if you are healthy and you both are ready. Nothing wrong with knocking this phase out!

Melanie - posted on 02/17/2010

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wow that is so cool for you guys
we dont have any plans on trying for number 2 in the near future i always wanted to have 2 children and hav them close together but after having real bad morning sickness and then a c section cuse my daughter was 5 weeks early has given me a whole diffrent outlook on the situation we have decided to wait till addisyn is 3 or 4 that way im back at work got soem more money behind us and have allowed my wound to heal properly and just incase we have another prem baby addisyn will be old enough to be inderpendant in away and can help if i need it
wow good luck hope it happens soon for you and all goes well keep us posted

ALEXIA - posted on 02/16/2010

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my daughter and son are 2 years exactly apart. this wasnt planned and i was afraid at first. now they are 9months and 34months and they are so good together. i did have a hard time with the pregnancy though. i was so exhausted and it was hard at times. when my son was born it was hard bc i would hve to carry him the diaper bag my purse and my sleeping daughter up and down the stairs at our apartment and its hard..but u make it work! i actually worked in the infant room at my preschool when i was pregnant until 3 weeks before i delivered and yes its difficult with the crib and carrying them while you have a huge stomach but you will be able to do it! good luck!

Kelly - posted on 02/16/2010

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Yep we are trying again too, I have the same issues as you do, also had bad night with my 9 1/2 month old and wondered what am I doing?! LOL My biggest issue is worrying about b/feeding the first while pregnant, child health nurse told me it might be too much strain on my body, but I figure if I eat healthily and take supplements, especially calcium it should be OK

Kelly - posted on 02/11/2010

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good luck to you! i personally would love to have another one and im so happy to see that im not the only one that wants another one already! I have a friend who has kids 13 months apart and she said she wouldnt have it anyother way! While I would love to try for another one my husband to be does not want anymore kids EVER he says. Hopefully I can get him to change his mind but we are young, im 21 and he is 24.

Kimberly - posted on 02/08/2010

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We are trying now. Due to breastfeeding, I just got my first period in January. But I wasn't willing to give up BFing to get pregant again. I also had a midwife, and will definitely use her again. I had her in the hospital, though. Our insurance covered it 100%. I really want a 2010 baby, so hopefully I'll get a positive test result in a couple of weeks. :)

Nadine - posted on 02/08/2010

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i have wanted another one since te-jay was about 3 months but my partner siad no now he said he is ready to try so i am going to have the implant taken out hopefully on wednesday. The thing that i ma worries about is i know they say that all pregnancies are different but from the minute i found out i was pregnant to the day that i had the baby i was sick all day every day, i hate being sick and even worse i hate feeling sick, that is a big concern for me the other has to be that i was in labour fr three days and still ahd te-jay naturally. but as they say things can only get better

Amber - posted on 02/06/2010

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I have six kids. Two are three years apart, two are eleven months apart, and two are fifteen months apart. The ones that are closest in age get along a lot better than the ones that are three years apart. I absolutely love having them close, and, while it is difficult raising a bunch of little monkeys, they are so worth it. My youngest is almost ten months. Cutest thing ever. ;) I never thought I would have such a large family, but am very glad that I did. Good luck in your endeavors!

Marilyn - posted on 02/05/2010

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I got pregnant with my daughter when my son was only 5 months old. They are14 months apart. i LOVE it. They are soooo super close! It was hard being pregnant and having a little one, but it wasn't the worst thing. He started walking at 8 months so that made things so much easier. If I had to do it all over again, I wouldn't change a thing. I love the fact that they are so close. I am very short too, and getting Hayden in and out of the crib WAS hard, so I got a little step stool, which helped a little bit. I wish you the best of luck though!

Kelsey - posted on 02/05/2010

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We conceived 23 weeks ago, baby is due June 6th! Getting excited as the weeks narrow down. People have their own opinions on decisions like this but it should be when you feel comfortable and stable. Best of luck to you. Your babes will enjoy being so close to eachother.

Jess - posted on 02/05/2010

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Desiree Nash how is there going to be exactly nine months between your kids? That would mean "that when one came out another was going in." It's impossible!! You do not even ovulate the day you give birth. You may want to recheck and figure out when you are actually due! It really makes no sense.

Hannah - posted on 02/04/2010

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No :) We are completely done. We are happy with just having our little family :) It will allow us to spend more time, energy & finances on our son & his future.

Jennifer - posted on 02/04/2010

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We are planning on trying for #2 pretty much after #1 turns 1! We want our kids fairly close together :-) Good luck to all who are trying!

I am most worried about continuing to nurse my little girl. I want to continue to nurse until 18 months or longer if possible and I know it can be difficult. I am also worried about the fatigue of the first trimester coupled with caring for my little one and working full time.

Just surround yourself with a good support system and don't be afraid to ask for help when needed :-)

Nicole - posted on 02/04/2010

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i have a 9 1/2 month old son now. is this your first baby you have? in my opinion i would say wait at least a year or two and if you still want to then go for it. if you really want to now that's fine too but i couldn't even imagine having two babies so close together. just the nights would be hard getting up with the both of them and imagine if they had different sleep schedules then you'd never get any sleep. i'm sorry i'm not trying to be a downer. just trying to show you what you'd be in for.

Nova - posted on 02/04/2010

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I am currently 16 weeks pregnant. Mason will be 15 months when baby number 2 comes along. It was a bit of a shock when I found out but I am getting used to the idea now and it will be good in a year or two when the two of them are close together. I found it extremely hard up until only a couple of weeks ago with morning sickness and fatigue and having a little one needing so much attention all while my husband is away at work on the mines. I am weaning of the breast now but he will not have formula so I am trying to make sure he gets as much calcium through other foods. Anyway good luck and if you feel ready to take on pregnancy and another baby now then go for it otherwise why hurry?

Michael - posted on 02/03/2010

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We are also trying to conceive at the moment for baby number three. We have a two year old and a ten month old. Hi Connie, I hear your concerns. By the time your belly gets two big your eldest baby will be climbing out of the cot by his or her self. I did'nt notice the fatigue as much with the second as you don't have time to. My fears about pregnancy number three, is weight gain. As I have had my babies so close together, I haven't been able to loose all the baby fat due to no time to exercise or too tired.

Missy - posted on 02/03/2010

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I wasn't trying to get pregnant but now I'm 12 weeks along. My fearsare the fatigue that I experience. affecting the availabilty of myself for my son. I'm short too and couldn't reach into the crib either. What I've done is asked him to come to me so I can get him and he usually does. It shouldn't be too much of a concern because since you are trying later, your baby should be able to understand you better and get a sense of a routine when you go to pick ur child up from the crib.

Jacqueline - posted on 02/02/2010

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Im 11 weeks pregnant with my 3rd! I found out New Years Eve! My eldest just turned 3 and my 9 1/2 month old is almost walking. This time around i had VERY bad morning sickness, i felt like i was going to die!!!

The only thing you need to make sure of is that your body is back to the way it was before you fell pregnant! Its hard enough trying to loose the weight from one baby let alone 2!! it happened to my sister and she went from skinny to obese in 2 years and 3 years later is just startiung to set back to a normal weight!

Good luck!! xoxo

Desiree - posted on 02/02/2010

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My husband and I have actually been trying for out #2 since our little girl was born, and its only just happened!

There will be exactly a 9 month gap between them

I suppose my biggest fears are having the time and energy to devote to my daughter and trying to cope with the tiredness.

Jade - posted on 02/01/2010

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My eldest was 17 months when my youngest was born, and my major concerns where that she would act up with the new baby around. Yes she does get jealous but its never been to bad and it gets better all the time. The problems I had when pregnant was I had problems lifting and carrying my daughter so she had to learn to walk up and downstairs holding my hand as I couldn't take her up and down. Don't worry too much, you have a husband to help and it will be a godsend, I wish I had had someone to run upstairs when the eldest woke up and I couldn't get off the couch lol

Tara - posted on 01/30/2010

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Me and my partner are not actively trying for number 2, but if it happens it happens. :) We will welcome the news openly and happily.
My fears are not being 100% focused on my daughter, if I was to become pregnant now, our daughter will be around 1year 6months old, which isn't too bad in age gap terms.
I am also scared of my daughter going of breastfeeding due to the changes in the milk, but it will happen sometime.
Good luck to you and all that are trying for another :) xxx

Michelle - posted on 01/30/2010

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We're definitely not even thinking of trying for #3 right now. We're still deciding if we'll have more then 2 or not yet (ok, actually I'm deciding whether or not I want to go through another c-section & if I can handle more kids). Taking care of a 9 mo old & a special needs toddler wears me out. We probably will have more though, just not now. We can't afford to have another baby at this point, we might be moving depending on where/when DH gets a job & we just think it's too early. Maybe in another year if we do.

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Ali, I don't know what country you are in, but I know that from friends of mine who had their babies in the hospital, their out of pocket expenses were way higher than $3000 and that was for an uncomplicated vaginal birth with insurance. I had mine at a midwifery (the only one in Colorado) and all I had to cover was my $500 deductible. Even if it wasn't covered by insurance it would've only been $3000. I assume you are in the states since most other countries have much better coverage for mothers than here. My neighbor is from Canada and had all her 4 children at home. Not knowing if my insurance was going to cover my midwife, I put money into flex spending just in case. I paid for everything up front and was pleasantly surprised when I got a refund from the midwifery since insurance paid. It was because I was never "admitted." (they wouldn't have covered the facility otherwise). I was home 4 hours after my baby was born.

Brenna - posted on 01/28/2010

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I am planning on getting pregnant June or July so that the babies will be about 2 years apart, but my birth control is up in march so if it happens earlier that's ok too. I honestly don't have worries about not providing enough attention to my first because I know she will be a great big sister!!! I am glad to see that vbac is still an option for so many... I thought I was doomed to have a c-sec everytime now. ...very encouraging reply's!!!!!

Ali Marie - posted on 01/25/2010

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There are a plethora of midwives where I am and in fact most of my friends delivered their babies at home. The only problem is that insurance doesn't cover that and the out of pocket cost is over $3,000, thats for a normal delivery with no complications :\

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Good luck to everyone who is expecting or trying. I think I've been convinced to try again, by my hairdresser of all people. She had a hard time getting pregnant with her second after getting pregnant easily after the first. I think it's probably just like having the first child, you figure it out as you go along. I especially want to wish those of you luck that are trying for a VBAC. I was lucky enough to find a midwifery with my first that was extremely supportive of my desire to have a natural birth, and while I know you might not want to do that, I think it's horrible that in a lot of states you are at the mercy of the laws about how you can have your child after having a c-section. I know lots of people with successful VBACs so stand you ground and fight for what you want. I was actually surprised, in Colorado where I live, there is only one midwifery in the whole state. After growing up in Florida, where they are relatively common, I was shocked. Mom's need to band together to make birth, a natural thing that has happened for thousands of years, our choice again, instead of at the mercy of laws and doctors that are afraid of being sued. Thanks again for your openness about fears and advice. I appreciate the support.

Ali Marie - posted on 01/23/2010

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I can't tell you how many times I cried when I first found out I was pregnant again because I was thinking about not being able to give my daughter (or either child for that matter) all the attention they deserve. I wanted my daughter to be the princess for a while before adding another....o well :\

Meryem - posted on 01/23/2010

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Me and my husband have decided that the best time for us to try with our second is when my little boy is about 2 yrs. He is 9 months at the moment. I want to make the most of my first before we have a second as i know that i will not be able to give all my attention to my first, GOOD LUCK ;)))

Deborah - posted on 01/22/2010

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Dear friend, its a good idea to try for baby #2. I would like to advise u to wait a little longer until baby is a year old. Its for both your advantage and the baby's. Give your baby more time to be with you, because when pregnancy sets in u may never know what it comes with. Try to think of another baby in May or June.

Deborah.

Amy - posted on 01/22/2010

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I do want to try again. my husband says now, but i'm a little hesitant because i'm nursing and am worried about ending my nursing/milk production so soon. nursing is my # one concern about getting pregnant again. i feel you on the crib thing!!! i'm 5 foot. that's it. i'm so short! :) i was thinking about it and my daughter was in a big girl bed at 15ish months. so...i would have the crib open for new baby and lil boy will be in a bed. maybe bunk bed? [i have a 3 year old too]. i'm glad to know i'm not the only one mulling over all the facts of another in my head daily. i have had a successful VBAC, so i'm not so worried about a c sec too much. that would be the only hard part i think that would really challenge me. if i had to do a c sec and be limited and the only one here taking care of all three. but no matter what, women always manage. and really, my daughter is so helpful now. she wants to change her brother's diapers all by herself, but i won't let her yet. :) i think if i do get pregnant right away, by the time my belly gets too big, hopefully my son will want to be in a big boy bed so i won't have to deal with it.

LauraBeth - posted on 01/22/2010

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Ali Marie, I have the same fears I too had a C-section and am wanting to have a VBAC. we live near Memphis Tn on a naval base and I have been looking for a dr. that will even consider a VBAC. I sure hope I find one, My biggest fear is not being able to how my son after I deliver and my husband might not be here for the delivery (do to his deployment). (they will be 18 mo apart) I wish you the best of luck on being able to have your VBAC.

Ali Marie - posted on 01/22/2010

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We wanted to try again at the end of next month so that the first one would almost be 1 when i got pregnant with the 2nd, but I found out last Oct that I was pregnant again! So they will be about 14 months apart.

There are many things that I'm worried about!! Thankfully I'm already in my 2nd trimester so the fatigue part is over with. It was rough, but my husband was a great support. Also baby goes to sleep at 8:30 and sleeps through the night, so I basically just followed her sleep schedule =) I was really really worried about morning sickness since I had it terribly the first time around! But I've had absolutely zero sickness this time!!

Next I'm worried about having to carry the baby as I get bigger and bigger. My daughter is almost ten months and still barely crawling, I worry that she might not be walking by the time the 2nd one comes. Also I was really really big during my first pregancy so I'm worried that I'll be just as huge, but now with a 20+lb baby to carry around as well!!!

I'm more worried about how the first year will go with the two babies. I worry my daughter will get jealous of the new one and try to revert to old behaviors like being bottle fed all the time (we are trying to wean her right now) and being carried all the time. My daughter is also a little spoiled =\ Also I worry about her getting into a "biting stage" and how she will treat the little one. I wish I could share my excitement with her and tell her whats going to happen, etc but she doesn't understand anything that comes out of my mouth at this point!

Another thing of course is ME, and my body. I had to have a c-section the first time and that recovery was just awful. I live in Hawaii so if I want to have a VBAC I have to fly to a different island to do that, which idk how that will go with my husband taking off work, and finding care for the baby....I don't know if it will work out that somone can take 2-4 weeks to come with us to take care of the baby when I go into labor, or if we can afford to pay to fly someone out there with us and put them up in a hotel, etc, or if my husband will be able to get paid time off of work. But also I don't think I can handle recoverying from a csection by myself with a 14 month old running around....

Overall I'm trying not to get stressed out too much. I was super stressed during my first pregnancy due to other issues and I think it negatively affected the baby and my labor...so I'm just trying to take it day by day

Noelani - posted on 01/22/2010

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We will be trying for #2 soon as well. My biggest worries are having enough energy to keep up with my 9 month old while having fatigue and morning sickness. I figure it'll all work itself out though. Good luck!!

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I would like to have another too, but my health is a problem, because I'm taking a medicine because I had a thrombosis in my head before first pregnancy, so I have to wait a little bit, said the doctors.

Lauren - posted on 01/22/2010

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expecting :) they're only going to be 13 months apart but I always wanted kids close in age. My brother and I were 17 months apart and we had so much fun growing up. I was very exhausted for the first couple months but things are going great now. I'm still more tired than I would like to be, but being pregnant with a 9 1/2 month old isn't nearly as difficult as I was expecting. I'm more worried about how my daughter is going to react once I have this baby. We are definitely guilty of spoiling her (she gets held whenever she wants and she pretty much always gets her way). I'm trying to break her of that because it won't be that way in a few months, but I just don't have the heart. We're really hoping for a boy this time. Any name suggestions would be great because we're coming up blank :)

Charlotte - posted on 01/21/2010

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My husband and I really want to try again right now but we have twin boys 9mths old. My worries are that they are not walking yet so I have not experienced what it is like to have 2 boys running around the house, they are crawling and pulling themselves up on everything right now which I handel quite well cause we have put saftey gates up to stop them wondering in areas they arn't aloud. Also as soon as they are walking I want to start potty training as that is my only other worry is chaving to change 3 babies nappies, my mum potty trained my brother when he started to walk at 12mths and by the time he was 18mths he was fully potty trained so I hope it will work that well for me.

I know they are only small concerns but when I fell pregnant I had only been off the pill for a week and bang twins straight up (which I must say people get scared of having twins but seriously it's fantastic I would not have it any other way yes there are 2 babies that cry but thats nothing compared to 2 smiling babies first thing in the morning and 2 babies developing and crawling all over you trying to show off and get your attantion.) So because it happened so quickly the first time I would like these few things sorted before we try again. I say go forr it

Claire - posted on 01/21/2010

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hi,

me and my partner both really want to try for another one but i also have the same sort of worries like how will i get the pushchair up our stairs with shopping etc they are silly really but i do understand were you are coming from lol if it wasnt for finacial difficulties we would have just gone for it.

If its what you and your husband want go for it and you will cross those bridges when you come to them and prob surprise yourself.

sorry i wasnt more help!

GOOD LUCK :)

Amber - posted on 01/21/2010

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I am currently 9 weeks pregnant with our second. Mason will be 16 months when this little one born. The fatigue has been hard, thankfully Mason has been sleeping through the night for months now. I do still nurse, but we also supplement with formula now because my supply did drop a bit plus the fatigue makes it hard to want to nurse. My biggest challenge is patience/temper. I'm pretty cranky in early pregnancy (not on purpose, I just find I'm very short with everyone) and its been hard losing my patience with Mason even when I know its not his fault and I don't want or mean to, it just happens unfortunately. Hopefully in a few weeks I'll be back to normal.



Good luck trying for #2!!!

Tessa - posted on 01/21/2010

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We considered trying to have our kids close together because it seems like siblings that are born close together have wonderful relationships with each other for their entire lives, but I don't think we're quite ready for another one yet.
I wish you all the best!

LauraBeth - posted on 01/21/2010

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We found out yesterday that we are expecting again! We are very excitied, I am glad that I have already started the potty training process with my son, I too am worried about having fatigue throughout the pregnancy. We are hopeing for a little girl this time around, but we will be happy as long as he/she is a health baby. I am concerned about my son getting enough attention while I pregnant, I sure he will be fine and I am just worrying about nothing. I wish every body the best of luck

Connie - posted on 01/20/2010

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My husband and I were planning on trying for baby #2 next month also! My fears are constipation from all the Prenatal pills and hemorroids. I got them in my first pregnancy and during labor. Then I continued to have them afterwards. Anyone else have this problem too?

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