Jennifer - posted on 08/16/2010 ( 31 moms have responded )
So I am really struggling with this issue. but
A little history: My 2 oldest children V/B never slept with me.
#4 is due in Jan.
Currently #3 is in my bed. He has been back and forth in and out of my bed since he was born. I have never really believed in co-sleeping but DH is in full support.
DH travels a lot and when he is out of town I usually have no problem getting #3 to sleep in his crib. When Daddy comes home #3 picks up on it quickly and wants back in bed with us. There is not enough room in bed for all 3 of us so DH ends up sleeping on the couch.
I know people have strong opinions on this issue but I am at a loss as to what to do. On one hand I love to cuddle with my little guy and feel him close to me. On the other hand I feel that it is healthier for him emotionally and psychologically to be in his own bed, it encourages self reliance and independence.
I need to pick one and be OK with it. I don't think it is good for our relationship for me to be on the fence. It makes it hard to my boy to know what to do.
I told myself that I would wait until his room is done before really pushing the issue but there have been problems. I am expecting #4 and my little guy kicks & wiggles a lot in his sleep. This makes it very hard for me to get good rest, I have been kicked very hard in the stomach so I sleep on guard.
Last night I decided to get him to sleep in his bed and it was the worst experience to date.
So he was doing really good sleeping in his crib until 4 weeks ago. I would read to him, say prayers and rock him until drowsy then lay him in bed and pat his back until he was asleep. One night he woke up and refused to get back into bed, there was a lot of screaming and big tears. I sat up with him mot of the night. This happened 3 nights in a row and that was the end of him going to sleep in his crib period. Of course then we discovered that 2 molars were coming through.
I am so lost on this subject. I don't want to be told what is right or wrong I really need to find my own answer about what I feel is right. I am not sure in my heart of hearts what is the right choice for us.
Thank you to those taking the time to read this. I just really needed to get it off my chest as I go through the process of making a good choice.